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considering a threesome

201 replies

linzi4fleur · 31/01/2010 22:58

Hi everybody i really do need your advice me & b/f of 16years are going to experience our 1st threesome on Friday, I'm totally up for it and cant wait, i have been with a fem years ago and really enjoyed every minute of it & have no issues in that sense, but i cant help thinking that after my b/f being so turned on and enjoying living out his fantasy of watching me with another woman surely he would want to enjoy the sexual intimacy with myself rather than the other woman, I don't have a problem with him touching and playing with her etc .
Its not a case of jealousy but more of sharing this mind blowing experience with the woman he loves and not wanting to share those emotions with her, Its the thought of losing the closeness and risking the fantastic relationship we have had for so long or am i just being to serious and not looking at the whole experience as just fun and different I would love your outlook on this as to what an ffm would mean to you,

OP posts:
CaptainNancy · 02/02/2010 10:27

you might hope you're not...

ShowOfHands · 02/02/2010 10:52

So, what threads are upsetting you today then? I never knew you were so sensitive.

CaptainNancy, I don't know what you mean...

Hullygully · 02/02/2010 11:54

Soh - I am feeling both gently melancholic and incensed with rage.

ShowOfHands · 02/02/2010 13:35

It's beautiful Hully.

cilitbang · 02/02/2010 13:47

I'd agree with veryconfused....I did partake in a menage a trois (see how I try and make it sound more classy?) Obviously I was young, very influenced by a complete fuckwit boyfriend and am very about it now. Anyhow...believe me, it all gets a bit messy...legs and arms everywhere, not that sexy at all IMO. Talking about it together, watching DVDs of it and imagining, etc etc is all far more sexy than the actual act. Not to mention that your relationship may well suffer, inevitably someone will get more attention and you will have to live with that after, be it you, him or her.

AnyFucker · 02/02/2010 14:25

I read that last poster's name without the first "i"

Malificence · 02/02/2010 14:42

I always read it as clitbang !

OOOH, OOH, we have ourselves a confused emoticon!

Can we have a "copiously vomiting" one too, can we, pleeease?

cilitbang · 02/02/2010 15:38

anyfucker & malificence ....it would seem my name often causes as you are not the first to mention it....oh well i'll stick with the name as i like things to go with a bang down there....either that or i'll be referred to as a bit of a twat!

AnyFucker · 02/02/2010 16:16

pmsl, henceforth to be known as clit

therealbanksy · 02/02/2010 16:24

Do people really get off on this sort of discussion?

AnyFucker · 02/02/2010 16:41

what ? silly names ?

schoolgirl humour ? I do

I dunno about 3-somes though

therealbanksy · 02/02/2010 16:59

I was just trying to imagine my 17 year old self tossing off to this thread and not quite getting it. Weird troll.

cilitbang · 02/02/2010 17:16

Thanks Anyfucker...I like it! it has a nice ring to it (or next to it).

Therealbanksy really?? I didn't think of the OP being a troll, maybe you are right, and I've just told my secret to a load of people. do you think a 17 year old or anyone after some tossing material would choose this site over the plethra of porn or out there?

AnyFucker · 02/02/2010 17:18

bloody 'ell, clit, you are ruder than I am !

cilitbang · 02/02/2010 17:20

What???....your name is Anyfucker....need I go on?

AnyFucker · 02/02/2010 17:23

< busted >

cilitbang · 02/02/2010 17:25
cheerfulvicky · 02/02/2010 18:56

I thought the same as AF, when I saw your username

cilitbang · 02/02/2010 20:13

CheerfulV, maybe its just a freudian thing and you are all really dirty minded!

Mumcentreplus · 02/02/2010 20:20

the thread is about 3somes..

AnyFucker · 02/02/2010 20:39

what ???!!

who said anything about threesomes ???

that is disgusting

Malificence · 02/02/2010 21:02

I've never read any posts from women who have been with 2 men at the same time, it seems almost exclusively 2 girls/ 1 bloke.

I've always wondered how straight men cope with feeling another man's cock through a thin mucus membrane. Or is there a bi thing going on there too?

cilitbang · 02/02/2010 21:08

Maybe that is why butch and manly footballers favour the 'spitroast'

AnyFucker · 02/02/2010 21:27

hmm, yeah, why don't they just rub their willies together if they like it so much

choosyfloosy · 02/02/2010 21:29

I had a threesome with two men many yeahs ago. God it was dull, and hard work, but then it was based on the fact that I was semi-hosting a very bad party, there were two men who'd travelled a long way to be there and I was literally the only single female there, so I felt obliged to make both their journeys worthwhile.

So for me, threesomes mean an abject lack of confidence, an inability to feel I was worth more than an immediate disposable shag, and a complete inability to connect my own sexual feelings with what I did with men.

Naturally it never occurred to me to get them to do anything to each other for my pleasure... which since I grew up on Another Country, could potentially have done something for me, but probably not given that I have never found the 'living out' of any fantasy at all to be in the slightest bit erotic - usually it just kills the fantasy stone dead for me.

OP, if you rely on a threesome fantasy for a lot of heat in your relationship, how about leaving it at that level?