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considering a threesome

201 replies

linzi4fleur · 31/01/2010 22:58

Hi everybody i really do need your advice me & b/f of 16years are going to experience our 1st threesome on Friday, I'm totally up for it and cant wait, i have been with a fem years ago and really enjoyed every minute of it & have no issues in that sense, but i cant help thinking that after my b/f being so turned on and enjoying living out his fantasy of watching me with another woman surely he would want to enjoy the sexual intimacy with myself rather than the other woman, I don't have a problem with him touching and playing with her etc .
Its not a case of jealousy but more of sharing this mind blowing experience with the woman he loves and not wanting to share those emotions with her, Its the thought of losing the closeness and risking the fantastic relationship we have had for so long or am i just being to serious and not looking at the whole experience as just fun and different I would love your outlook on this as to what an ffm would mean to you,

OP posts:
Hullygully · 01/02/2010 22:14

I want to challenge Angela. Is it expensive?

BigBadMummy · 01/02/2010 22:19

Has nothing to do with seeking out the best sperm to procreate for me.

DH and I A couple I know enjoy getting it on with another couple in the room, in all sorts of scenarios.

Has nothing to do with DNA or predispositions and everything to do with being a massive turn on.

Well so they tell me

hf128219 · 01/02/2010 22:22

There is nothing wrong with threesomes - but they should only be undertaken when young, with a firm body - your own and the participants.

IronOnReverse · 01/02/2010 22:23

Hully, go to bathroom, find towel, throw down.

Cost? One laundry cycle.

AnyFucker · 01/02/2010 22:24

IOR..who are you usually ?

Mumcentreplus · 01/02/2010 22:24

Sooo..does that mean all the men/women who cheat...well they have a natural predilection to mate with the best genes so you just deal with it right?...you just dont have the genes

AnyFucker · 01/02/2010 22:27

I challenged Anneka once

IronOnReverse · 01/02/2010 22:28

Yes men, women who cheat are at the mercy of Darwin's pen. They can't help it, poor sods.

Does that turn you on OP? Darwin's throbbing pen?

ShowOfHands usually AF which probably means feck all to you.

IronOnReverse · 01/02/2010 22:29

I saw Anneka on telly recently, proving she could still fit into the lycra jumpsuits. It wasn't for the faint hearted.

AnyFucker · 01/02/2010 22:29

why would it mean feck all ?

I have seen you around < checks little black book >

TrillianAstra · 01/02/2010 22:31

IOR/SoH - thanks for outing yourself - I am a bit leery of any name that describes a process that might take place in a utility room at the moment

What did you challenge Anneka to do AF? Not a threesome?

IronOnReverse · 01/02/2010 22:34

Feck all because I'm not that regular a poster. But that thing you've got written in your book, I only did that because BoF and Trill made me. It wasn't my fault, whatever it is.

Trill, that's fine. I namechanged to take the mick out of WWC. I really need to change back.

ShowOfHands · 01/02/2010 22:36

Ta da!

Mumcentreplus · 01/02/2010 22:36

weeel I'll be post watching from now on..I expect all you pen throbbers to say to 'Grow up lady your genes are obviously flawed' when she's pissed at her cheating bastard of a OH..

AnyFucker · 01/02/2010 22:37

nothing really, trill, it just looked good on the thread at the time

a 3-some ? gawd no, that ratty, bleached, overly long hair would irritate the hell out of me

and I would have had to laugh when the box didn't match the bonce

AnyFucker · 01/02/2010 22:38

lol SOH, I don't have any dirt on you, honest

SolidGoldBrass · 01/02/2010 22:49

MCP: We are not entirely at the mercy of our genes. Or we'd be eating each other.

Mumcentreplus · 01/02/2010 22:52

Uh huh... just checking SBG ..

AnyFucker · 01/02/2010 22:55

if we were entirely at the mercy of our genes/hormones we would still be swinging from the trees...

along with the opposable thumb, we got the ability to over-ride those primitive urges...

didn't we ?

Mumcentreplus · 01/02/2010 23:09

uh huh...lol

Angela1961 · 02/02/2010 00:37

SolidGoldBrass - Yes, I am well aware that we are designed to seek out the best DNA... I am also having a 'controlled' affair, and sadly, tragically, my lover is at the top of that DNA food chain. Morally obviously not but he has all of the attributes that we are 'physically and psychologically programmed' to seek. Not justifying, just stating the ugly truth.

Angela1961 · 02/02/2010 00:45

And OBVIOUSLY we all make our moral choices, or what is best for us. I agree with IronOnReverse. I'm in a don't ask, don't tell marriage. We're both aware there is 'other stuff' going on, given that we don't have our 'own stuff' going on. Is this immoral? To some. It works for others, and it has sure as hell kept our kids under one roof and money out of lawyer's pockets. No doubt they'll still get their bit... but not for a while yet. But threesomes? Na -- not with a hubby or b.f. I should have done it when I was young and uninvolved.

Hullygully · 02/02/2010 08:06
TrillianAstra · 02/02/2010 09:04

Err, I didn't make anyone do anything. Really not. Did I?

veryconfusedandupset · 02/02/2010 09:10

I did do it when I was young and uninvolved - with another couple. I was more excited about it than you can imagine, and it was a huge disapointment. There is always another agenda and in the case of the couple I met it was that they wanted to show off how wonderful their sex life was, and he wanted to watch me and her together. It was all a real turn off and I'd never do it again. Some time later when I was in an experimental relationship with another girl my then bf was very anxious to get involved, but I refused, 2 way emotions etc. are complex enough without bringing in another person. Think about 3 needle knitting!