considering a threesome

[linzi4fleur]

Hi everybody i really do need your advice me & b/f of 16years are going to experience our 1st threesome on Friday, I'm totally up for it and cant wait, i have been with a fem years ago and really enjoyed every minute of it & have no issues in that sense, but i cant help thinking that after my b/f being so turned on and enjoying living out his fantasy of watching me with another woman surely he would want to enjoy the sexual intimacy with myself rather than the other woman, I don't have a problem with him touching and playing with her etc .
Its not a case of jealousy but more of sharing this mind blowing experience with the woman he loves and not wanting to share those emotions with her, Its the thought of losing the closeness and risking the fantastic relationship we have had for so long or am i just being to serious and not looking at the whole experience as just fun and different I would love your outlook on this as to what an ffm would mean to you,

[Malificence]

And I'm sure that group sex is pretty spiffing as long as you're not deeply in love with any of the protagonists.

[MitsubishiWarrioress]

Oh you reminisce away SBG .. think out loud if you feel the need.

[Lulumama]

the OP is posting IMO for two reasons
either a journalist or hairy handed trucker

asking what a threesome means to us... who cares?unless you are writing an article or getting your rocks off

[bibbitybobbityhat]

Why are you all indulging this linzi character? Haven't you got cupcakes to bake or something??

[Malificence]

I actually missed the end question

What would it mean to me - let's see - it would mean that my husband had no respect for the fact that I am in no way attracted to women and therefore had bullied me into complying for his own selfish twatness and I would think that he was sexually bored of me, yep, that's about the strength of it.

[paulaplumpbottom]

He is going to want to have sex with her and vice versa. That's what you have signed on for. Is there any way you could convince him just to watch? This is the compromise my dh and I made (in what seems like a past life) he was thrilled and I wasn't jealous

[paulaplumpbottom]

I enjoyed it greatly by the way and I wasn't bullied into it

[AnyFucker]

mw...behave, girl

[therealbanksy]

OP - you should cross-post to Dadsnet and solicit opinion there. It's not as uncommon as some of the posters here are making out, but you need to be extremely emotionally robust as my experience is that one person will end up having an issue with it.

[BitOfFun]

OP is clearly after wank fodder. Am ignoring.

Mal- have you ever googled your friend? Larisse is the usual spelling.

[Malificence]

Why would you be, Paula?
He only watched .
Do you mean that he wasn't jealous?

I find it the strangest thing in the world that you could watch your lover have sex with another, and not be jealous - it would make me want to kill them vomit, tbh.

[Malificence]

BOF, I've tried every spelling variation but nothing. Her parents were divorced and she used both surnames I seem to recall, can only remember her Dad's. Her mum no longer lives in the same house either and remarried.

[paulaplumpbottom]

I would have been jealous if he had been with her. I meant that this way he got to experiance the fantasy in a way that was ok with us both

[Hullygully]

This sort of thing makes me so melancholy

[Pikelit]

You can't have a threesome on a Friday!

How are the rest of us going to come round on Tuesday and watch?

[Rhuidean]

There was a post on here some while ago where a woman had had a drunken thing with a prostitute on holiday (her not the prostitute) arranged by her caring husband, and awoke to the sigh of her husband and the prostitute having sex as he was thinking threesome. she couldnt get over it as I recall.

The whole idea makes me shudder. Fine for everyone else but not for me.

[Malificence]

I wasn't suggesting that you were bullied into it Paula, but was it the fact that you wanted sex with a woman the defining factor?
He was obviously able to convince himself that because it was only a woman that you weren't actually cheating on him, in his presence - a lot of men seem to be able to do this. I doubt if he'd have been quite so accomodating if you had wanted sex with another man?

What if you had realised that you preferred sex with women, you wanted more of it and it had destroyed your marriage?

[overmydeadbody]

threesoms only work when none of the three people involved are in a relationship together.

[therealbanksy]

I used to fancy Siouxie Sioux during the 'Israel' era. There was something mysterious and sexy about her. I would only consider a MFM threesome with her though. Maybe with Steve Severin?

[Pikelit]

There was a fashion for threesomes and so-called "open marriages" round here about 20 years ago. I'd already lead an interesting enough life not to be interested in suburban groupfucks but my experience of the effects on the participants was simple. Someone always got hurt.

[overmydeadbody]

to me a threesom is about fun meaningless sex with people you are not in any way emotionally attached to.

It is about mutual pleasure and eroticism, mutual using of the other parties, no strings fun.

And there is nothing wrong with these kinds of experiences, but try to do that when two of you are emotionally or romantically attached, and someone will get hurt.

I have no experience of ffm threesomes.

[overmydeadbody]

Malificense I have known a number of men over the years who wanted threesomes with other men and who got off watching other men having sex with women.

Now I'm leaving this thread, I have cupcakes to bake.

[AnyFucker]

and where is the OP, may I ask ?

stocking up on Kleenex, I reckon

[Hullygully]

I have had a few threesomes/foursomes and fivesomes over the years, and what I think is

[therealbanksy]

As a slight aside, is there any truth in the claim that swingers advertise by growing pampass grass in the front garden?