Who should pay for the date?

[CaribbeanChaos]

As a parent (and step-parent) to a lot of boys, I’m looking for opinions on the older teenage dating scene.

Are boys expected to pay for dates nowadays?

Context - eldest is at uni. He goes on a few dates a month. He hasn’t got a steady girlfriend so these are dates with different girls, not the same one. The other day he said that as the man, he is expected to pay for everything.

Is this still a thing? In the age of supposed equality should the man (boy in my eyes) be paying for everything?

For the sake of his future wife, train him to pay and be a man

What the heck? What a tragic viewpoint to have. Do you define masculinity by who pays?

I have sons. They treat women as equals. I’m pleased to say they’d run a mile from someone with a viewpoint like this. Not that they’re likely to come across any.

what an incredibly stupid and toxic instagram style comment- a real man would stick you with the bill and leave

Absolutely not! He is not a walking wallet for his future wife. They can split things fairly.

We should not live in a world where the man is expected to pay for everything.

He sees me pay my way and although his poor dad had previously been conditioned to pay for everything by his mum, he’s seen things change over the years. He has said, more than once, that he has more respect for me as I won’t let a man control me financially and that I am totally financially self sufficient.