Haven't heard from him after a date

[Tcbay52]

Been on a date recently, we went to a restaurant. He paid and opened the doors for me. He asked me before the date if I'd prefer a hug as a greeting, just a handshake, or no touch at all as he wanted me to feel comfortable. We went for quite a long walk afterwards. We hugged for hello and goodbye. After we parted he texted me saying to let him know when I'm home. I let him know. The next day I decided to text him. I said I had a good time and added a question about whether he logged me out of a job search website (he let me use his laptop to edit my resume as a small favour), as I forgot to log out. He reacted with a heart emoji to the 'good time' bit and said he logged me out. Since then we've been silent for like four days already. He's been active on social media. Should I message him again or leave it? I wanna see him again but don't know if he wants to.

If you want another date ask him, maybe he thinks you aren’t interested, he could be posting this exact thing on “dads net” 😆

Yet the OP hasn't, and she seems interested.

I'm going to go against the grain here and say you should message. When I was first dating my partner he was pretty slow to message- he simply had a lot of other things going on. I initiated our first date and our third and I'm so glad I did because it may never have got off the ground if I hadn't. In the end, I liked him enough that it was worth the extra effort and the risk of rejection. You know in your gut if it's worth it and you have literally nothing to lose by sending a casual friendly text here.

Does he know it was a date?

Just message him and ask him if you got the job.

Stop playing games ask him if he wants to meet , if he replies you know. If he ghosts you know . Too much hard work analysing every text .

You've got nothing to lose by messaging a "any nice plans for the weekend, be great to meet up if you're free" message. Then you'll know and you're showing interest but not being overly keen.

Sort your own life out before dating. Don’t cling.

Say something like I’m off to…. Do you fancy coming along? Nonchalance. Touch base to show interest but don’t be needy.

Plenty of fish in the sea. Value yourself.

I think you should live a little, fuck it, text him!

Leave it for goodness sakes, he's busy. Don't be so desperate.

That’s a lot of overthinking! Just contact him. At least it’ll be by text. Long before smartphones I rang someone (took all my courage to have to speak on the phone) and he wasn’t interested, ouch!

If you can't make a tiny bit of effort, why should he risk it?

What risk is there? At the moment you are unsure if he wants to go on another date or not. So the only risk is finding out that he definitely doesn't want to go.
And by doing this you would be minimising the risk that he does want to go but thinks you are not keen because you found the time to message him about logging out but not about organising to meet up again.

I disagree, with most dating these days taking place via an app or online it has somewhat levelled the playing field insofar as both parties having to make an effort, be proactive, and for want of another word do the 'chasing'. Thankfully my OLD days are well behind me but I had absolutely zero tolerance for bullshit mind games. If you enjoyed a date and wanted to meet that person again then tell them. If they say no or ghost you move on. Most of the people I met were adult enough and honest enough to say 'thanks, but I do not wish to take things further' or 'great, would love to meet again'. I extended people the same courtesy. Why does need to be so difficult.

Nah don't message him OP

This ^

He is either not interested, lazy, or lacking basic social skills. I would lose interest in someone who couldn't reply to let me know if they also enjoyed the date and/or only answered my questions without giving me anything else to reply to. She sent the first after date text, he hasn't added anything to it to build upon.

I'd pass on him personally.

You're wanting him to message you when you didn't even bother reply to him? Why? How old are you? What odd behaviour. Just send him a msg and grow up.

I reacted with a heart to his message so he knows I acknowledged it.

Patience is a valuable attribute.
Wait and all will be revealed.

Or why not just message and ask if he fancies meeting up again???

Maybe he looked at your CV and thought you were a bit of a loser?

I’m kidding but editing your CV on a first date is really fucking weird. You didn’t reply to him because you didn’t think he put much effort into his response, even though you only asked him a generic question in your opening gambit which he answered. I don’t know what you expected him to say in response really. If you want to go out again, ask him.

if it’s been 4 days then sorry I think he’s moved on. Weird to bring a laptop on a date and a not inappropriate of you to ask if you could edit your resume on there tbh. He maybe thinks you want his help in getting a job. Rather than dating.

The loser comment is a bit harsh.

But editing the resume on a date is a Red flag imo.

Other chicks?

If someone replies with a heart to my messages I take that as ‘yes I’ve seen this, but I don’t want to respond properly’. Text him and say hello, see where it goes.

Have you still not messaged him?!