Thank you for this response.
If we are looking at it from an evolutionary biology point of view though, it's the females of the species who are hard wired to be sexually selective, and the ones who choose a partner - men's reproductive instincts would lead them instead to make themselves available to as many females as possible, in the hope that the females choose them.
So in that sense, it would make sense for it to be the woman who makes the first moves in any sexual relationship.....
But I don't want my relationships to run on those terms - I think we have evolved beyond the need to do so.
When seeking a functional and happy relationship I would look for equality, in terms of balance of power/decision-making.
It troubles me, I will admit, that these ideas about it being "down to men to make the first moves" are still so prevalent.
Because it's not a huge leap to go from there, to the idea that men should be the "leaders" in relationships, full stop. That it behoves women to be passive, and wait to be chosen - that it's somehow "unfeminine" to take decisive charge of our own destinies....