Friend posted a harsh message in group chat after my apology

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Group of friends (6) for 10 years. One is ultra sensitive borderline professional victim. I thought I’d upset her recently so before the others arrived I apologised. She replied very angrily, so I explained that I was shocked at the incident and apologised again. She was very aggressive so I explained that she also upset people. She stopped when the others arrived.

We sat for two hours chatting and laughing.

When I got home there was the most awful post on our group chat saying how I ‘launched a passive aggressive attack under the guise of an apology and could not put up with such unkindness so would leave our group but would welcome seeing people for coffee’.
Shocked, ripped to pieces, sick I was devastated. On a group chat for my friends to read. How could someone do that.
I feel so strongly about this I am thinking of seeing a solicitor to sue her.
Please talk me down.
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Sue her??? 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

🤣🤣 Don't think a solicitor would take the case that's laughable. Wash your hands of the self pitying cow.

I love this 🤣🤣

I wouldn’t even respond to her nonsense, and I’d just see how things went with the others. I have very low tolerance for drama.

life is hard enough at times without people like this being so called friends. My friends are people who cheer each other up, encourage relaxation, and support each other when times are tough. I’d be very glad to see the back of her!

Her comments have hit a nerve for you, but yes it would be an overreaction to try and get a solicitor involved.

Put something in the chat to the effect of 'recollections may vary on that' and draw a line under it. Be open if anyone asks what really happened.

If your friends know this person well, they'll likely also understand her tendency to dramatize events.

Well....you sound as sensitive/dramatic as her.

Let us know what the solicitor says.

Onlyhereforbatshitneighbours

mmmm….. I’m thinking the same. A nice little earner …… £350 plus VAT not including phone calls, cease and desist notice, barrister fees, court fees, disbursements, and if OP loses the OP legal fees court costs loss of earnings, l reckon around £10,000.

Well that OP escalated quickly. 😳😂

The fact you’re mentioning suing her (!!!) over a WhatsApp message honestly just makes me desperate to hear her side of the story.

Wild.

This.

Plus the fact the OP hasn't returned to a thread she started yesterday afternoon.

Reading MN often reminds me what a nice, ordinary, calm life I lead, mixing with people I like and whose company I enjoy.

We’ve had a group of friends since uni. One was always, always the one that got in sulks, got pissy with people, passive aggressive, the mos awkward when making any plans. She stropped after being called out on something and left the group chat. It’s been blissful and drama free since.

I think bad vibes should be ignored. We should not rock the boat.

Oh come on, OP! Come back and tell us what you were apologising for! I’m invested now 😂

Shocked, ripped to pieces, sick I was devastated

I can see why you rub eachother the wrong way 😅

On a group chat for my friends to read.

Her friends as well, presumably? If they've known her for ten years, surely they're well aware that being all laughy and chatty for a couple of hours, then dramatically announcing that she would no longer be part of the friendship group via the group chat is just her being her? Surely they'll just ignore it, or nominate someone to tell her to grow the fuck up?

I feel so strongly about this I am thinking of seeing a solicitor to sue her.

And she's the professional victim? You can't sue somebody for hurty words. Your friends will think you're a lunatic. You're making a mountain out of a molehill, which is extremely ironic.

Is it possible that whatever you were apologizing for was genuinely out of order, and what you describe as angry/aggressive was actually her being justifiably pissed off that you'd left it until just before your friends turned up to sneak in a quick apology, instead of reaching out to her separately? I'd be angry if someone pulled that on me, knowing I'd have to drop the conversation and grit my teeth for a few hours when everyone else turned up.

What do your friends think?

You can't sue someone for this 😂

Everyone will know what she's like I assume so just after to kick her off the group and move on with your life

lol sue her? Jesus wept

Sorry if it sounds harsh but you both sound equally cuckoo and in need of therapy!

I'd want to hear her side of the story. You've said she's an ultra sensitive borderline professional victim to get us on side, but maybe she's not and you keep saying offensive things and she got sick of it.

My thoughts exactly.

Her actions are laughable if she sat there with you all chatting and laughing, then went home to post that. She sounds incredibly uptight.

It’s laughable to want to sue her. Should be water off a duck’s back.

OP, please go to a solicitor and let us know what they say 😬

I think we all need to be more careful what we say on this thread.

The OP could threaten to sue.

My money’s on you being the problem

😂😂😂

Seriously though, I don’t think I’ve seen a post where I’ve so desperately wanted to hear the other persons viewpoint more than this one. The other four friends must LOVE watching the drama unfold between these two.