Friend posted a harsh message in group chat after my apology

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Group of friends (6) for 10 years. One is ultra sensitive borderline professional victim. I thought I’d upset her recently so before the others arrived I apologised. She replied very angrily, so I explained that I was shocked at the incident and apologised again. She was very aggressive so I explained that she also upset people. She stopped when the others arrived.

We sat for two hours chatting and laughing.

When I got home there was the most awful post on our group chat saying how I ‘launched a passive aggressive attack under the guise of an apology and could not put up with such unkindness so would leave our group but would welcome seeing people for coffee’.
Shocked, ripped to pieces, sick I was devastated. On a group chat for my friends to read. How could someone do that.
I feel so strongly about this I am thinking of seeing a solicitor to sue her.
Please talk me down.
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Pot. Kettle.
Birds of a feather etc etc

Post a court summons to the group chat, calling all members of the group as witnesses. Let us know how you get on.

I’d just respond by saying “lighten up. Jesus. 😂”

Nothing gets people’s goats faster than laughing at them.

And by all means - wave g’bye as she leaves the group. Good riddance.

You said she’s a professional victim and YOU want a solicitor 🤣 christ.

A solicitor? OP that’s daft and unreasonable. Professional Victim Vs Group Chat Victim!? 🍿

+There could be two sides. Rare that one person is all right and other all wrong so maybe wind your neck in, and decide what your preferred outcome is. An apology that has a but is never great.

Either own it or don’t give a caveated one. Know it would have been upsetting but sounds like your former friend was upset too, plus you don’t say what the original sleight was. Context is everything.

If you want nothing more to do with them, draw a line. If you want to try and repair work towards that. Offer a 1-1 olive branch. If you want to leave a parting shot you could just say: not correct, recollections may vary etc

😂😂😂😂 a solicitor, nice one! What for? Criminally dramatic flouncing? What was the situation and why did you think you had upset her? What incident were you shocked at? Without context it's impossible to give advice.

Seriously, I think you should post on the group chat about contacting a solicitor. The other four deserve to know what drama queens you both are.

I bet within two weeks the two of you are best friends.

Whilst I can understand that this must’ve been very upsetting, I think you may be stepping into professional victim territory here yourself. I think a solicitor would be a bit nonplussed if you presented this to them.

I would reply, but not to argue. If you were laughing and chatting all evening, the others will also be shocked by this outburst. Keep it polite; acknowledge the conversation, but point out that it was a two way conversation- not an attack.

I would definitely sue her, sounds like the only way to sort this OP

A solicitor? 🤪

How to tell us you’re the problem without telling us you’re the problem

OP if you can believe it I have family members like this. Believe me I understand how frustrating it is. The best thing is to cut her off 100% as shes basically off her rocker and will always find a paranoid, negative weird reason to react to normal situations, while also (most) likely being really offensive to other people, while simultaneously believing shes acting completely rationally.

The separate group chat for the other 4 is going to be hopping tonight.

You've posted this a bit late: April Fools' Day was on Wednesday.

A solicitor? 🤣

I’d love to be a fly on the wall for that conversation!

We need some context

I don't think we're going to get any!

I have a strong feeling the OP won't return . . . .

Hopefully they think shes a bellend too.

Op tried and the boot flung it back in her face. My reply to her on the chat would have been 🖕🖕🖕mind put your hrt gel on the night hen 💋 😘

I'd just be glad and relieved that I wouldn't have to speak to her again. She sounds a right pain in the backside.

I reckon I ought to train as a solictor if this is the sort of thing I could charge for..!

Honestly, I get that you're hurt but this is batshit. So much drama. Just let it go and move on, plenty more friends in the sea

Log it with 101

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This ^^
There are 2 'professional victims' here 😂

Bloody hell. What nonsense.

Oh. This is classed as a real thread by MN? OK.
OP, grow up.

Get your ducks in a row, log it with 101, and get your free half-hour with a solicitor hun 🌷sending you a very unmumsnetty hug