Friend posted a harsh message in group chat after my apology

[70Cats]

Group of friends (6) for 10 years. One is ultra sensitive borderline professional victim. I thought I’d upset her recently so before the others arrived I apologised. She replied very angrily, so I explained that I was shocked at the incident and apologised again. She was very aggressive so I explained that she also upset people. She stopped when the others arrived.

We sat for two hours chatting and laughing.

When I got home there was the most awful post on our group chat saying how I ‘launched a passive aggressive attack under the guise of an apology and could not put up with such unkindness so would leave our group but would welcome seeing people for coffee’.
Shocked, ripped to pieces, sick I was devastated. On a group chat for my friends to read. How could someone do that.
I feel so strongly about this I am thinking of seeing a solicitor to sue her.
Please talk me down.
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Why stop there? I say involve the coastguard, AA and MI5!

I was totally on your side (and I presumed your friends would understand she was playing the victim) until you talked about suing her. Then suddenly I figured maybe you're the batshit insane one here?

Without saying what you were apologising for, what you actually said and how she actually responded at the time, I suspect nothing anyone says will be helpful.

I think you may also be the problem here

Sue her?! For what? This isn't America (I'm assuming).

You all sound over dramatic. I'd respond with an eye roll emoji (or maybe even the more passive aggressive thumbs up emoji) and leave it at that.

You want to sure her for announcing she dislikes you?
This is certainly an extreme example of the wacky melodrama in here.

Friend posted a harsh message in group chat after my apology

I feel so strongly about this I am thinking of seeing a solicitor to sue her.

Sue her?

I'm curious to hear the other side on this one. It's bound to make more sense.

Depends on the context of why and how you’d upset her. You clearly don’t like her much anyway, so to apologise it would seem you acknowledge you were in the wrong.

You “apologised” to her but then accused her of upsetting people?

I agree with the friend, it doesn’t sound like much of an apology!

Mate, you sound just as bad.

Ripped to pieces….

Sueing…..

Just send this on the group chat

Could you arrange a spa day for the two of you to relax and make up?

@70Cats
On what basis are you planning to sue? Harassment? Defamation?

Let me help you out, you have no grounds. You would p1ss thousands of pounds away.

I’m not sure what you think you could sue her for OP!

It’s hard to comment without more information about what the apology was for. I feel that’s probably quite relevant information to the whole thing.
But it’s probably best to let this friendship die out.

Is everyone in the group as dramatic as the two of you? This will be the easiest money your soon to be solicitor has ever earned!

I think we can all stop replying now as OP is another one post dump and run.

Love the description of Post Dump and Run @DugnuttEyeBoogies 😀
There’s a lot of them a out lately.

You both sound as bad as each other.

I feel sorry for the other 4 people in the group having to cope with TWO drama llamas. That said they probably secretly love the entertainment of it-keep going.

This one ain’t coming back folks …

No solicitor. No action, just a thumbs up. They also know who she is.

I assumed the same, but she actually has a posting history going back years - so amazingly, this might be real after all.

In which case, @70Cats, I’d spend the money you were going to use on a solicitor on a therapist instead.

I don't think a therapist is necessary lol OP clearly just posted in the heat of the moment, we've all said things we regret when upset

What on earth am I reading, Shocked, ripped to pieces, sick I was devastated and you want to see a solicitor. What on earth is wrong with you both. Do you just love the drama?

We haven’t all threatened to sue…