Friend posted a harsh message in group chat after my apology

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Group of friends (6) for 10 years. One is ultra sensitive borderline professional victim. I thought I’d upset her recently so before the others arrived I apologised. She replied very angrily, so I explained that I was shocked at the incident and apologised again. She was very aggressive so I explained that she also upset people. She stopped when the others arrived.

We sat for two hours chatting and laughing.

When I got home there was the most awful post on our group chat saying how I ‘launched a passive aggressive attack under the guise of an apology and could not put up with such unkindness so would leave our group but would welcome seeing people for coffee’.
Shocked, ripped to pieces, sick I was devastated. On a group chat for my friends to read. How could someone do that.
I feel so strongly about this I am thinking of seeing a solicitor to sue her.
Please talk me down.
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Definitely see a solicitor.

Definitely.

Sue her? 😂 You both sound so dramatic get over yourself.

Yes, reply and say you're baffled by this as you had genuinely apologised. Leave people to come to their own conclusions that you're all better off with this person out of the group.

But she didn't just apologise she went on to explain again then again. My one pet hate is an apology followed by the whys and wherefores. Apologise means do it and move on

You can’t sue someone because they made comments on WhatsApp you don’t like.

You have zero grounds to sue her.

So you took her aside and raised some issue with her that caused offense, and now you want to sue her because she told the rest of the WhatsApp group about it?

You're coming across as ultra sensitive yourself. She is entitled to share her perception of events just as much as you are.

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See a solicitor on Tuesday. It will be worth every penny.

She maybe a professional victim but you're a professional drama queen.

Seeing as you called some MN users “nasty, jealous cows”, is it possible your friend might have a point?

If this post is real then I don’t think there’s enough information to go on. What was the incident ? What form has she got for being a drama queen, and what was said in the message ? Without any of this it’s hard to know who, if anyone, is being unreasonable.

I’d love to know what the incident was that you apologised for, why you apologised if you felt it wasn’t necessary and she’s a professional victim, and why your apology got an angry reaction which you then rose to. I imagine the other side of the story might differ!

Anyway, nothing to stop you responding in kind and putting across your point in the group chat.

Sue her for what?! Good luck with that.

She doesn't like you and was offended by you. You tried to apologise and it didn't work so she still doesn't like you. So she said she's leaving the group. Which is her choice.

I don't think anything litigious has happened though unfortunately.

Litigating a WhatsApp friend blowout is hilarious. Are you sure you’re not the drama llama in this group?

Infamy, infamy ...

You're quite right. She deserves to be sued.

In fact, I'd email Sir Keir Starmer and ask for his advice. He used to be DPP, after all.

I'm sure he'll take some time away from running the country to sub poena your erstwhile friend, and put her in her place.

Definitely get the solicitor involved. Let us know what they say. I’m sure your mutual friends definitely won’t think you’re the fruit loop.

You both sound as bad as each other.

This sounds like an altercation between my dd and her 14 year old friends.

Sick, shocked, ripped to pieces, seems you’re prone to drama yourself.

You can't sue someone over a WhatsApp 😆
what did you do to offend her?

One is ultra sensitive borderline professional victim.

Is this and reverse? Is this you?

Well neither of you sound over the top or dramatic so I’m not sure what’s gone wrong to get to this point 😳

You all sound like a bunch of drama queens.
What i think you and the others in your group should do, is GROW THE FUCK UP.