Husband going to small festival on his birthday

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Hi my husband is going to a small festival on his birthday, I brought his ticket - I’m working so can’t go. I thought it was just him his mate and his mates gf
Turns out it’s now his mate his mates gf, his mates ex gf, his mates ex gf taking her 2 older nieces so I feel abit:( now group is going 2 men 4 women atm maybe another women going too.
I won’t be finished work by 3 so not worth me going, they won’t be home to 12am so I’ll be on my own on his birthday - I feel sad as it’s his birthday I won’t see him.

I know it’s 1 day but he rarely goes time off and I feel lonely x

Don’t be ridiculous

I mean…the mates ex gf is taking her children and will likely be keeping an eye on them. I doubt they’ll be room for anything weird. Presumably her nieces are a lot younger than your H? Has he ever met any of them?

I suppose it’s weird to some people that his mate is inviting his ex, but maybe they didn’t. If they live locally the ex and nieces have every right to go to a public event. ditto the other woman going too. Or maybe they did and still get on well. Doesn’t mean your husband and her are going to start shagging.

unless your H has demonstrated cheating behaviour before or tried to keep this “guest list” private I wouldn’t have any qualms and it sounds like you have trust issues.

you can do something for his birthday the next day or following weekend. If you’re in work most of the day presumably you’d be too tired for a party after.

cut him some slack

You finish work around 3 and it’s not worth going? How far away is it? You need to stop being so needy and build your own life outside your marriage it sounds suffocating.

You bought him the ticket. You weren't going to be spending his birthday with him anyway. Does it really matter if there's more women going? If anything, I would be more comfortable with more of a group situation than him, his mate and gf, and one other woman. (Not that I would care in this situation either but you obviously do)

Yes sorry OP you sound pretty jealous. Your husband is just going to an event with people. You're presumably not actually "lonely" as you didn't mind him going before additional women were going.
I go to stuff with mostly men a lot (football) and if my DH felt "lonely" about it I would be pissed off he didn't trust me.

The Nieces aren’t children they are in they’re 20s

misswd the point my husand works a lot we don’t spend much time together so won’t be able to do anything another day

Why is it ridiculous to w at to aimed tune wiyh
my husband in hai birthday ?

Yep im not needy he works 7 days a week hasnt had a week off for years - so i dont think im needy wanting to spend a few hours with him in one day a year

How far away is the festival? Surprise him by turning up after work and join the fun.

Go out yourself after work and enjoy the evening with a friend

Has he cheated on you ?

Erm...

If I'm reading it right, then I think the answer is that, as you well know, you didn't seem to mind when it was him, friend, and friend's OH. You only wanted to spend time with him so badly when the alternative is he's at a festival with some gorgeous 20 yr olds in denim shorts and wellies (I don't know what people wear to festivals now. Bucket hats still?)

Thanks for a nice reply

been ripped apart on this thread so I’ll bow out

Can’t see what’s wrong with that. It’s his birthday, not yours. You can still join them after work.

Lmao nothing to do with them it’s as he works a lot
keep being nasty you must love putting people down

Not that I know of.

Presume by that you mean your DH has cheated on you (rather than the other way round as your comment would suggest).

If so I'm really sorry - genuinely - that's hard. But the thread should be "I don't trust my cheating DH to go out without me" not "I'm sad to miss a festival"

It’s too far away

so as it’s his birthday I simply should not see him that day lol

no wonder the divorce rate is so high when people think it’s a spices birthday and you shouldn’t se them

Presumably your husband is still quite a bit older?

has he cheated on you before? Or given you any reason to doubt his loyalty?

But you wouldn’t have been there regardless of who else was there. And you knew this when you bought the ticket. All that’s changed is who is going, so that’s clearly the problem.

The thing is he’s not a mind reader. You bought him the ticket so in his head he assumes it’s fine to go.

they might not even be going together, very possible ex saw the advert for the festival or something the friend had posted on fb and said she’s going too. It’s not like a private party.

It’s his birthday. It’s about what he wants to do, not what you want to do…

What an odd thread.

It's a fair enough that you're feeling a bit crappy and wasn't expecting your DH to be having fun on his birthday with his ex while you're sat at home. Hope you have a nice evening 😊

It’s not her partners ex who’s going. It’s partner, his mate, his mates girlfriend and his mates ex. Two nieces of the mates ex and another woman who presumably knows the mates ex. That’s what I gathered from their posts. I think OP probably presumed it was just him, mate and mates partner going.

I'm so confused. You bought him a ticket but now you're annoyed you won't see him? Why does it matter who's going? He's going because you got him the ticket. I don't understand your grievance.

Oh OK, well that's better. I was wondering why people weren't making a big deal about it, usually men aren't allowed to hang out with other females on here