Husband going to small festival on his birthday

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Hi my husband is going to a small festival on his birthday, I brought his ticket - I’m working so can’t go. I thought it was just him his mate and his mates gf
Turns out it’s now his mate his mates gf, his mates ex gf, his mates ex gf taking her 2 older nieces so I feel abit:( now group is going 2 men 4 women atm maybe another women going too.
I won’t be finished work by 3 so not worth me going, they won’t be home to 12am so I’ll be on my own on his birthday - I feel sad as it’s his birthday I won’t see him.

I know it’s 1 day but he rarely goes time off and I feel lonely x

You bought him the ticket, knowing he’d be going without you.🤷‍♀️

Well here lies the problem: OP sounds like she really NEEDS to be there in case someone seduces her DH but she DOESN'T WANT to be there - why?... Because there will be no drama?

I cant see what the problem is here beyond what OP have created out of nowhere.

I think your main problem is the women.

You bought the ticket for him?? Why did you do that if you wanted to spend time with him on the day?
It certainly reads as if you were happy for him to go (hence buying the ticket) but then you found out about the additional females and decided that suddenly it wasn't ok.

If you wanted to spend his birthday with him why did you buy him a ticket for something you knew you couldn’t go to?

But you bought his ticket knowing you couldn't go?
And then listened women going.

That doesn't make it sound like you just wish you couldn't spend the evening together.

In your original message you seem to imply you were ok with him going but now feel upset as more females are going to be part of his group? You later say it’s because he works 7 days a week and you never see him, I think if that’s the case and he is never able to take time off to be with you but can take the day off on his birthday to go out then I would be questioning how important it is to him to spend time with you as his partner. I can’t see that you can have any quality of relationship if he has worked as you say for 7 days a week for years?

But you bought him the ticket! He was going to be out all day at the festival no matter who else was going along. You are annoyed he's going with other women, and you've mentioned cheating, so this isn't about the festival but in that case why buy him the ticket?

Go late to the festival

Can you answer why you quite literally facilitated not spending time with him on his birthday by buying ONE ticket to an even you couldn't attend.

And are now saying "why does everyone think it's reasonable he isn't spending time with me that day"

He's not spending time with you PURELY BECAUSE you've arranged for him to be away from you