DH behaved horribly on his birthday - UPDATE

[SecretsSecretss]

Creating a new thread to update everyone. I am a frequent poster sometimes under different usernames about my husband’s terrible behaviour. I am the poster whose husband behaved horribly on Fathers Day last year, another post our son found some iPods on the beach and he encouraged him to steal them whilst mocking me for encouraging our son to be honest and hand them in. Many many more posts over the years including one about him threatening to put our autistic son into care and saying there’s nothing in his head. 😢

Much name calling, threats and horrible behaviour in between being lovely and showering me with gifts and affection.

I want to update you all that with the support of all the lovely ladies on MN I am FINALLY LTB!!

I have a lovely little house lined up, furniture arriving soon, honestly the house is heaven sent - I absolutely love it - I cannot believe how lucky I am to be offered it (HA lovely new build)

H has no idea - this week has been a military operation arranging for furniture delivery, viewings, phone calls etc. I am absolutely bricking it but I will finally be free!

H is acting normal right now, I feel like it would be easier if he was acting like an arse hole!

I plan to tell him next week when I’m away on holiday with DC. Of course I will have to then face him eventually 😱

So thank you Mumsnet - I couldn’t have done this without you all. And to all the ladies who might be trapped in similar situations- you can do it! Xxx Wish me luck! 🍀

I am also bricking it when it comes to telling my parents… Feelimg v. Guilty

Wonderful 👍 😊

Well done you and congratulations 😃. Here's to your lovely new life🥂

I remember your threads, well done, it’ll be a bright future for you and your dc

Keep strong! Well done so far and certainly your life will be much better without him; I remember your threads as well.

Thank you ☺️ I know I annoyed some by frequently posting about H but MN has been invaluable - a place of support and excellent advice when I felt very alone.

Ah you’re amazing 💐

Congratulations! I hope it all goes smoothly

Well done OP! Hope it all works out brilliantly for you. You deserve a fabulous life.

You are Wonder Woman

Thank you for updating so nice to hear good news
write a list / or re read your threads to keep you motivated

I remember your previous threads about this awful man - WELL DONE!!!! Your best life is ahead of you 💐 👏 you are doing the right thing!

Please be careful.

Do you need to tell him you're leaving? Can't you wait until you're out and safe?

I know someone who did this. Waited until he went to work one morning then moved her son and herself to the new house she had arranged. Congratulations to you - she has never been happier and I wish that for you.

Amazing 👏 Well done to you 👏

Bloody hell well done OP.

Keep us updated with the move. Best of luck.

Thanks for updating, OP. That’s great news. You’re bound to feel some guilt. Not because you should but because you’re a caring person. It’s absolutely brilliant you’re doing this. You’re amazing!

I remember you. Fantastic news 👏

@SecretsSecretss this is fantastic news..... wishing you all the best for your future x 🫂🙏💐

I was just thinking today, no-one takes the advice to just LTB!

Congratulations to you and your kids! Your live will be so much better and so will theirs. And your house sounds lovely ❤️❤️

Amazing. Really amazing - well bloody done.

Thank you 💕 Yes I feel very underhanded and sneaky - he really has no idea. I’m bloody amazed I’ve managed to pull this off. I’ve had to do a lot of “nipping to the shops” so I could make phone calls and arrange everything. I’m very scared but excited too. So many emotions.

Wow Congratulations. It might be as well to wait until you are in your new home before telling your ex. I agree with some of the other people who have posted.

I remember as well. Very well done @SecretsSecretss and all the best in your new life.

At the same time, please have an exit strategy set up with your safety and that of your DC in mind. If that means having a removals van parked three streets away and ready to roll as soon as your STBX leaves for work, then that's what it means. Do you have a large friend or two to assist you if STBX returns to the house for any reason?