Leaving tonight after 8 years of DV

[BannaBanna1]

Cannot believe I am doing this. Never did I think I would get to this point, where I would be making actual moves.

Told work, manager was lovely.
Sorted out a a few nights stay at a friend's.
Hoping to pack essentials when he goes to work.

I am shivering and shaking as I write this.
Please help me get through this

I wish you all the luck in the world ❤. Take care of yourself and be kind to yourself. You are doing the right thing and your life will be infinitely better. Just stay strong once you have gone and cut all contact completely so he cant worm his way back in. Stay safe and good luck again xxxx

Well done. You’re doing the right thing and you’re being very brave. You can do this. Once you get to safety, please contact women’s aid who can support you to find new accommodation, claim benefits you may be entitled to, recommend a lawyer if you need one, help you report the abuse if you wish to, signpost to other services and just be an emotional support. Life is better on the other side.

You might consider doing the freedom programme once you’re feeling up to it.

I'm feeling an overwhelming feeling of emotions. Feeling sick thinking about when he realises were gone

Well done to you, don't get talked into going back. You say we're so I'm guessing you have DC, it's much better for them to be away from an abusive parent.

You've got this, you can do it. Well done for getting to this point. You've got somewhere safe to go that's brilliant. One foot in front of the other and you'll be out that door and free!

You've got this OP virtual hand hold you are much braver than you think 💐

Do you have a plan beyond staying at your friends?

Good luck.

Well done OP🤍

This random woman on the internet is sending you the strength to do what you must do and wishing you a lifetime of peace and good things thereafter 💐

You can do this, OP. Please stay safe and update us when you can. I'm cheering you on and wishing you only the best.

You’ve got this! Today is the first day of the rest of your life and that’s bloody exciting. Practically speaking take everything you can today, but prioritise anything sentimental and important documents. I’d also strongly encourage you to confide fully in your friend about EVERYTHING this man has done when you get to theirs. Being honest with people and no longer protecting him will help so much with staying away from him, making sure you have the right support around you and helping to keep you safe.

Well done OP, we believe in you and we are here! Sending you all the love and happiness for this new chapter

Well done for being brave enough to leave.

Make sure you have all your paperwork in order. All details you need! xx

Well done! You are very brave and doing the best thing for you and your children. You deserve to be safe and happy. Remember that.

We're all behind you, best wishes ❤️

You can do it 💪. My mum stayed with my dad for over 20 years and put up with so much physical abuse until one night he almost broke her jaw so please get out before it's too late ❤️. All the best OP

You are a brave and strong person. Sending love and courage through the internet. I wish you an abundance of happiness and strength for the future.

My beloved aunt was a victim of DV and she succeeded in leaving her abuser last year. A year on, her eyes are brighter, she is thriving - her health is so much better and she has a sense of lightness about her. I am excited for your future OP - you've got this ❤️

Good luck. It's not easy , you're so brave.

Good luck OP, stay safe. Your incredible 💐

What a massive step! How amazing you are to put your fears aside and do this once and for all 💕

It's going to be turbulent few months, and at times you may wonder if you have done the right thing, but when you feel like that, look back on today and remember what a massive first step you made... and keep going forward one hour at a time.

This stranger is so proud of you ❤️

Sending you strength OP. You are doing the right thing 💐

Good luck OP, hope you're ok, sending love and strength.

Make sure you've got the location turned off on your phone OP. And don't park your car in the usual places especially if it's a friend he knows. You've got this.

Sending very best wishes OP. The first day of the rest of your life. Lots of love. Keep safe. xx 🥰

Wishing you all the luck in the world @BannaBanna1 .

Remember this feeling of freedom being a moment away.

The reason that I say remember it, is because you never ever want to go back to feeling like you were trapped again. No matter what he may say to you in the future, and I believe that he will promise you the sun, moon and stars if only you'd come back to him - do not believe him.

Stay strong and stick to your goals on wanting to live a wholly separate life to him without him being in your life.

I'm cheering you on tonight.