Greeting partner at the door when returns from work

[nextwed14]

Do you greet your husband/partner at the door when they return from work?? I am usually busy cooking dinner or tidying up when he comes home so I usually carry on doing what I am doing rather than meet him in the hallway. He says I am cold towards him and he would love me to leave what I am doing to greet him as he walks in the door after a busy day at work. I would never expect him to do that to me and would find it weird if he did.

I am finding him becoming very needy lately whereas I am the opposite and have never been quite as needy for affection and attention.

Is there a time machine at your front door? Does he come home in 1952?

Omg no way would I do that and if DH did it to me I would be so fucking freaked out.

Does he meet you in the hallway when you’ve been out?

Sometimes I do. But even if I don't open the door to him, I'll usually stop what I'm doing and engage with him for a few minutes.

I generally come down, as does my husband.

Nope. Has he considered getting a Labrador to fulfil his needs?

Noooo we don't do this, I will maybe find him where he is and vice versa to say hi... or not if he or I are busy. No set greeting pattern here

Instructions...

1950s wifely ettiquette

Yes, mostly, we both greet each other at the end of the day, less so if we are coming and going at the weekend. If one of us has been shopping or away, we will help unload the car and hug/ kiss hello.

No but we wave each other off at the door, in the morning.

The dog greets him though. And when I arrive after him he doesn't greet me at the door either

It totally depends on what you’re going, what your life looks like and how long he’s been away. The fact he’s made a point of it id a bit weird imo.

Absolutely not because I’m not in the 1950s!

Good GOD, where do they get this stuff from?!

I assume he’s in his 70s and comes from the older generation because that nonsense is incredibly old fashioned and completely out of order.

He wants you to worship him, the almighty returning hunter. That is what he sees your role as, to soothe his ego and make him feel good about himself (someone better than me can do a quick psychological breakdown of where that need comes from).

Does he worship you in a similar way and make you snuggle up in bed with a cup of tea he’s made you without being asked while he finishes of the dishes?

You’ve got kids, haven’t you? He works, you’ve at home with DC, he didn’t used to be this much of a twat it was just when children arrived that he was no longer the centre of your attention.

Ick-inducing horror! 😂

Eh nope.
Greet each other sure, but stop what we are doing, no.

No. I’m the one who goes out to work and I don’t expect him to fawn over me when I get home, because I’m not completely pathetic.

I work full time but am home before him as he starts later than me. Kids are teenagers so busy doing their own thing. In all honesty I think he misses the kids running to the door to meet him now they are older. He says he walks in the door and its like no one cares- I worry that he is getting so needy and I am so not needy - he was never like this when kids were small. We always make a point of eating together but if he wants me to cook his dinner he needs to leave me be, wait half an hour and then he can have my undivided attention!!

We usually do a quick hug and a kiss hello whenever the other comes in unless we're in the middle of something

Is he from a Doris Day movie?

I ring the doorbell so he knows I'm coming in and blows me a kiss from his desk or pops the kettle on for a cup of tea.

Not greets me at the door 🤔

We're not dogs.

Wow me and my hubby have never done that been together 41 years whoever is in first will make the other a cuppa when we get in from work

Crumbs! Agree with previous poster, get him a dog

Eh?! No!
I'm either working, dealing with the kids or making dinner!
Whoever is the last in comes to find the other and we have a quick kiss (not if working), put the kettle on and make a cup a tea!
Why can't he do that instead of being "greeted at the door"

Do you acknowledge him at all or is there nothing? If he doesn’t even get a hello I can see why he thinks no-one cares

Im more surprised some people actually do!

Actually, yes I do - unless I spot the car pulling up outside and am in the middle of making him a welcome home cup of tea. He works, I'm retired, I love him, he loves me - 30 years together and it's just a bit lovely. Also, it shuts the ancient dog up from her incessant barking if I tell her 'Daddy's home!' and make a big fuss about it. Go ahead and judge me - it works for us, and is never expected (by him).

No but we shout hi. Ignoring completely is a bit rude. Same with kids

i expect him to come help me with bags if I’ve come in with the car