Greeting partner at the door when returns from work

[nextwed14]

Do you greet your husband/partner at the door when they return from work?? I am usually busy cooking dinner or tidying up when he comes home so I usually carry on doing what I am doing rather than meet him in the hallway. He says I am cold towards him and he would love me to leave what I am doing to greet him as he walks in the door after a busy day at work. I would never expect him to do that to me and would find it weird if he did.

I am finding him becoming very needy lately whereas I am the opposite and have never been quite as needy for affection and attention.

I greet mine but that’s because I like to give him a cuddle when he comes home, not because he expects it.

Sometimes we do, it just depends really on what whoever was already at home is doing. I do like to have a catch-up when one of us gets back but sometimes that isn't until they've been to the toilet etc. first, then we'll have a chat.

But this isn't something that happens all the time and certainly not something that is expected every single time, it's more a casual thing!

I would struggle to bite my tongue.

There’s nothing worse than someone being needy.

Tell him to stop being pathetic and you’re not going to do that.

I would go out without him and see if he stops what he’s doing to greet you at the door when you come home.

No, not always and not on demand. I have noticed that it is a nice feeling being greeted at the door. Sometimes my son opens the door to greet me. Sometimes my husband does. And everyone loves the greeting the dog gives them because she is so filled with joy when any of us come home. So, because I have noticed that it’s nice I do sometimes do it.

Does your husband do this for you? If he does, reciprocate. If he doesn’t, call him out on it. He can’t expect you to do it if he doesn’t.

Do not start that shit! He will love it and expect it daily. He will fondly bring it up “remember that time…” without realising it was done with irony.

lol.

Are you married to Rees-Mogg?

DH I do do this for each other some of the time. There’s no bearing on anyone, it’s just nice to do it if you want to.

Bit awkward to ask someone to do it.

I would shout hello if I was in the kitchen etc. I would greet if I was free. I don't make anyone tea and we usually call each other on way home.

Don’t forget to ensure you’re presentable when you meet him at the door, lead him to his comfy armchair, remove his shoes and pop his little slippers on….

I couldn’t put up with a needy man, tell him get a grip or buy him one for Christmas. I don’t know how a lot of posters on MN put with stuff like this. I’d have laughed at him and the look on my face would have told him everything he needed to know.

Edited to add we never know where each other is in the house when we come home, It’s normally a shout of “are you in” or the dogs are are a better indicator tbh.

It is a bit sad that no-one can be bothered to shout hello to him, how was your day day/husband. I love my kids running to front door to greet me. I didn't realise until now that they will stop doing it in few short years

I come in and shout hi to everyone. Then i personally greet people in order…

Dogs 1st as they’re the most excited
Then ds(15) as he’s least interested.
Then dd(11), we normally have a nice chat about our day for 5-10 mins.

Then dh, who’s normally cooking dinner when I come in. I wouldn’t expect him to drop everything and come running, so I stand in kitchen with him for 10-20 mins chatting whilst he makes me a brew and carries on with dinner.

I then go sit down, normally with dd and dogs until dinner

Agree with PP. I have a Labrador who fulfills his brief perfectly and without fail.

Not specifically. We have 2 effusive Labradors. I am generally third in line for a kiss 🙄

I take none of you have heard of Norwich? Quite a famous acronym in the 60-70s. "Knickers off ready when I come home"
I think it sums up the era...

I have a cat who runs away when I come in the door.

And it's fine.

Aww this is sad,
When m/ my husband come in or out we have a kiss and a cuddle.
I thought this was normal? I'm not afraid to say I do miss him when he's at work. I'm disabled so I don't work ( don't come at me pitchfork brigade) and I love it when he comes in and gives me a kiss and a cuddle and I go and make him a brew.

I have his slippers and pipe ready.

I'm normally stood in the garden waiting for mine but I'm on maternity leave and he gets home during her 'witching' hour 😂

Haha was going to say, thought I was reading this in the 1950s but for it being on my phone!

If he’s feeling lonely and has communicated to you that a hello and a hug when he comes home would make him feel less so, why not just do it? He’s your husband. He’s meant to be special to you. It doesn’t have to be a big effort. If you really feel uncomfortable with it then that’s fine, don’t do it. But even if you’re making dinner, just pause for 30 seconds to say hi and give him a hug. The world is cold enough as it is. Why not greet your husband warmly? I would.

He'll pass me in the kitchen and give me a kiss and say hello. I'll open the door if I happen to be passing but absolutely no way would I be dropping everything to run and greet him! He always comes to the door for me when he knows I'm coming in with bags of shopping / baby in the car seat which I appreciate.

It does remind me of something from when I was a teenager though... my mum used to come home from nights and make a real fuss of the dog in the hallway. Me being tired and grumpy one morning getting ready for school asked her if there was any need for the noise at that time of day. Bless her, she said the dog was the only one ever excited to see her 😟 So the next morning I raced the dog to the door on all fours, barking and wagging a tail I didn't have. We still laugh about it now - maybe try that 😂

Depends what I am doing, but yes I'd try to come give him a kiss and hug when he walks in if I'm nearby. Wouldn't stop what I was doing though.
Same with me and kids.

My dad often used to come in and give my mum a 'peck on the cheek'. She'd nearly always be in the middle of cooking dinner, but loved it. She never begged for one or made him feel guilty if he didn't. He wasn't overly affectionate overall. They had a very happy marriage. Avoided conflict, spoke respectfully to one another and were happy in their traditionally defined roles. Dad; breadwinner Mum; housewife. Both excellent at their jobs.
Basically I think your expectations often depend upon how you were brought up. I was a 'take it or leave it' wife.

I don't need to, the cat runs to greet him

Wow! Though I love the advice to 'Be a little gay' to greet him 😁