Greeting partner at the door when returns from work

[nextwed14]

Do you greet your husband/partner at the door when they return from work?? I am usually busy cooking dinner or tidying up when he comes home so I usually carry on doing what I am doing rather than meet him in the hallway. He says I am cold towards him and he would love me to leave what I am doing to greet him as he walks in the door after a busy day at work. I would never expect him to do that to me and would find it weird if he did.

I am finding him becoming very needy lately whereas I am the opposite and have never been quite as needy for affection and attention.

Obviously not, because it's not 1955!

That's a no, never have. My parents never did either.

Sounds archaic. We do have a cuppa together.

First post nailed it 😁

I used to joke that my DH made a fuss of our dog first when he came in.😀

I do this quite often and love it, yes maybe it’s a bit ‘old fashioned’ but I enjoy it.

Saying that though, it’s not a requirement… if I didn’t hear the door or was in the middle of something I wouldn’t think twice and neither would DP.

No because I finish work later than him and he's cooking the dinner when I get in. It's 2024.

Surely you put his slippers to warm by the fire, fill his pipe ready to smoke and have a cup of tea and his favourite newspaper waiting too? Ah no, it's not the 1950s, I forgot for a moment, sorry.

We usually shout a hello up the stairs if the one at home isn't downstairs but no, we are adult enough to arrive home without a fanfare.

In the 60s my mother would take her apron off, change into a smarter dress, put on some lipstick and tidy her hair before my father arrived home. Sometime in the 70s she realised how daft that was, but I doubt if my father noticed one way or the other.

Buy a 60's style outfit with a short skirt from a charity shop. Backcomb your hair. Apply loads of eye makeup. Fawn upon the wonder and majesty of his arrival back from work. Offer him a martini with an olive on a cocktail stick, and exquisite canapés. Bring him his slippers and pipe. Settle him down in a comfy armchair and intrigue him by bending over saucily to adjust the volume of your stereo record player. Pretend your name is Priscilla.

He says he walks in the door and its like no one cares

Fucking hell hes not been fighting the Nazis in the trenches, he’s been out the house for 8 hours

JFC -I’d struggle to keep at straight face with that level of over dramatic neediness

He works from home and he comes to meet me despite not being back before he finishes. Occasionally he is in a meeting but usually yea he will get up and come and say hello and have a kiss.

My ex wanted to be greeted at the door with me in explicitly sexy lingerie. Not my style, didn’t happen.

My labs are always ready to greet me when I get home, mainly because they poor beggers are starved.

I will do if I'm in the kitchen when he gets home and he does the same when I get home but if we're busy doing something else then no.

No, I always say "Hello! How was your day?" But I don't stop what I'm doing.

There's some creepy video on SM showing a young wife greeting her husband outside the house, on the CCTV, evening after evening. Jumping up and down with excitement that the great man has pulled up in his car, giving him an excited full-body hug. You see her doing it again and again, different weather, differing clothing. The male voiceover says how wonderful this is, how much she loves him. It looks harmless and sweet, but the underlying message is that the missus is like a dog: just waiting on alert for the master to return home so that she ca adore him. Has your husband been watching it?

We don't greet each other at the door, mainly because there are bonkers Labradors doing meet and greet! We go into the room where the other one is to say hello.

My dh usually picks me up from work and we go in together.
But , like last night dh called at fil , checks on him weekly. So when he did he turn up , too right I went for a cuddle - he's lovely and I can't wait to see him after work.
Also 30 yrs together.

I think people are being a bit mean about your DH. Does he want you to get on your hands and knees, remove his shoes and hand him a newspaper and pipe? Or does he just want some acknowledgment that he’s home, a quick kiss and ‘how was your day?’ I’m normally cooking dinner when my DH gets in as I work from home so have an extra hour or so than him in the evenings. If I’m not right in the middle of something that can’t wait then I’ll go to the door and say hello, give him a kiss, brief check he’s alright and had a nice day. If I’m in the middle of something that can’t wait, I will at least poke my head round the kitchen door and say hello until he comes in to greet me (after taking his shoes and coat off, saying hello to our son). I always make him a cup of tea once he’s in too. I just see this as being kind

Usually I am preparing a meal when my husband comes home from work. I generally just carry on, and he will come into the kitchen with his mug and lunchbox, so we greet each other then. Occasionally, if I'm in the lounge and happen to see him reversing the car onto the driveway, I'll open the door for him and engage. If I'm upstairs, then I'll shout down hello and then go down once I've finished sorting laundry etc. I'm definitely not at the front door, handing him his slippers and a mug of tea though!!!

Yes, I do. And he does for me too. Always go down to the front door to greet each other (unless don’t hear door, or in the middle of something that can’t be left). If we didn’t, I’d feel we were beginning to take each other for granted,

Nah. I let the dogs out so they can greet him. I chat to him once he comes in the door

Are we in the 1950s still? Seriously

No. The dog does any door greeting.

We have a toddler so unless DD and I are in the middle of something then we go to greet DH when he comes home. Before DD I would do that too if I was free. If I was cooking he would come to the kitchen to give me a kiss.