My other half and I both go to the door for a quick kiss and a hug when the other comes in from work, unless we're tied up with something that can't be left. The dogs often get involved too.
I don't need it, by any stretch of the imagination, but it's appreciated to know the households missed my presence. Perhaps that's coming from an unfair position though, because I'm already on the receiving end of it, haven't needed to ask for it and then been met with a shit response.
Men do appreciate affection too, and it's perfectly reasonable for him to communicate what particular actions make him feel this way, and if he's needing more affection - his emotional needs are absolutely important and valid, too. Although if you follow mumsnets advice, a man ever asking for anything is expectant, demanding, creepy and out of order.
The mans asking you for a bit of affection, and communicated a tiny wee gesture that would take less than 30 seconds out of your day, to do.
It's honestly really no wonder some people cheat when they're going home to spouses who see their arse over things like this. I'd probably do it too if I was faced with this level of coldness and, quite frankly, completely unnecessary bitchiness. He hasn't asked you to take it up the arse - he's asked you for a gesture of affection and welcome home. Hardly the crime of the fucking century.
Like other posters suggested, it's clear you don't really even like the man from how you talk about him.