Boyfriend is angry when I shared details about a Ronan Keating concert

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I (35F) and my boyfriend (41M) have been together for the past two years. We plan to get married mid-next year. Currently, we’re in a long-distance relationship and plan to reunite next year.

Last week, I went to a Ronan Keating concert, and when my boyfriend asked me how it was, I told him it was great, that he made me blush, and that Keating even threw his shirt to the audience, causing all the women to swoon. From the tone of my boyfriend's voice, I could tell he wasn’t too happy about it. For context, he once got upset when I mentioned that I found a celebrity sportsman attractive.

The next day, I posted pictures from the concert on Instagram with the caption: "90s kid was happy, send help, I’m still blushing." Later that evening, my boyfriend sent a long text saying that my post was very disrespectful. We had a long, heated conversation on WhatsApp, and I finally told him that I was just sharing a moment. I added that I shouldn’t feel like I have to walk on eggshells when I talk to him; I should feel safe discussing anything with him. He responded by saying he’s never made me feel unsafe in the relationship and accused me of trying to gaslight him.

At that point, I lost my temper and broke up with him over text. He never replied, and it’s been a week. I miss him so much, but I’m scared of giving him another opportunity to hurt me.

Is he the red flag here, or am I?

I think he has had a lucky escape. A Ronan Keating fan ? Ye Gods. 😅😅😅

He's the red flag. Delete his number and move on.

He’s ridiculous and very childish - it’s a concert fgs, he’s insecurities aren’t your problem to solve, leave him to it.

I think you’re lucky to have found this out now before you get married, his reaction is very odd.

You both sound a bit childish but him way more than you.

Don't text him.

Does he think you and Ronan are getting together?
What in the jealousy is going on

If you do get back together which I dont think you should. Dont marry him for at least a couple of years until you know him properly…

He sounds controlling and jealous so definitely a red flag.

Joking aside, he sounds controlling, and you did the right thing breaking up with him.

BTW is this place turning into Reddit, with the 34F/67M crap

Oh - he’s being ridiculous. A celebrity crush is completely different from saying that you really fancy the window cleaner or the man next door. In a similar vein, a friend of mine was involved in something which meant she ended up on the TV; her DH posted something on Facebook along the lines of “finally get to be married to a celebrity after Jennifer Lopez wouldn’t return any of my calls”. We all laughed. It’s a bit of a joke; no disrespect implied or inferred by anyone else. But - on a more serious note - will he start objecting to
your having male friends? Having a joke with a tradesman? Having a coffee with. A male colleague? I think you’re better off out of it, to be honest. You haven’t done anything wrong.

My ex did this when I said I liked a song by George Michael. It didn't end well. This is about control and jealousy. It will get worse...Leave

Write him a note saying "Life is a rollercoaster" and then dump the sod.

Sorry OP but you both sound like teenagers.
Incompatible teenagers.
Breaking up seems the only adult option.

To be fair, Ronan has aged like a fine wine.

Well done OP, his response was major 🚩🚩🚩he sounds like a dick and I think your instinctive break up text saved you many more years of worse.

Now it's all "Said and Done" 😉

Just wait until you tell him you are going out for a drink with a male friend.

I dunno, it’s not crime of the century, but that said I can kind of see where he’s coming from.

My DP fancies P!nk and always has done. That’s fine, and he used to share pics of her on socials sometimes before we were together (he was married but it wasn’t a great relationship 🤣).

He never posts like that now, (and no, I didn’t have to ask him to stop, he just doesn’t do it) and if he did then yeah, I’d feel a bit disrespected. It’s not the same as cheating by any stretch, but I’d feel a bit awkward and embarrassed if our friends saw posts like that when we’re together.

I’d happily go to a P!nk concert with him, and I’m sure he’d be a bit starstruck, and probably post about how good it was, but I wouldn’t expect that to be about him swooning over her if that makes sense.

Just here for the puns. (And to marvel that people find Ronan Keating attractive.)😀

I’d stay broken up, OP. Anyone who thinks a harmless, bad-taste crush on an ageing boyband member is ‘disrespectful’ deserves a shake.

Make that long distance even longer.

He sounds like a controlling arse, do not marry this man.

You both sound like insufferable teenagers. Arguing over WhatsApp? I'm embarrassed for you.

Oh jeez. I’m always harping on about my celebrity crushes in front of my husband. And he just rolls his eyes and laughs. Because he isn’t an angry insecure prick.

You are in a long distance relationship but plan to marry/live together next year. That is a recipe for disaster in itself. Neither of you know each others little habits which can make or break a relationship.

Don't bother getting back together, you are both thinking the other person is someone who they aren't. Dreaming instead of reality.

Think you’ve got your ages wrong - surely you’re both about 15?

You both sound far too immature to even contemplate a relationship- the fact you’re 35/41 blows my mind reading the OP

I saw what you did there...

Not if she fancies RK!!!