Boyfriend is angry when I shared details about a Ronan Keating concert

[Kitty234]

I (35F) and my boyfriend (41M) have been together for the past two years. We plan to get married mid-next year. Currently, we’re in a long-distance relationship and plan to reunite next year.

Last week, I went to a Ronan Keating concert, and when my boyfriend asked me how it was, I told him it was great, that he made me blush, and that Keating even threw his shirt to the audience, causing all the women to swoon. From the tone of my boyfriend's voice, I could tell he wasn’t too happy about it. For context, he once got upset when I mentioned that I found a celebrity sportsman attractive.

The next day, I posted pictures from the concert on Instagram with the caption: "90s kid was happy, send help, I’m still blushing." Later that evening, my boyfriend sent a long text saying that my post was very disrespectful. We had a long, heated conversation on WhatsApp, and I finally told him that I was just sharing a moment. I added that I shouldn’t feel like I have to walk on eggshells when I talk to him; I should feel safe discussing anything with him. He responded by saying he’s never made me feel unsafe in the relationship and accused me of trying to gaslight him.

At that point, I lost my temper and broke up with him over text. He never replied, and it’s been a week. I miss him so much, but I’m scared of giving him another opportunity to hurt me.

Is he the red flag here, or am I?

I mean blushed obvs

For your ages, you both sound ridiculous. 🤷‍♀️

I'd dump him over this. Really.

Imagine how he'll react if you mention you ate lunch with a male colleague....

He’s a jealous and controlling knob. Keep running, don’t get lured back into any relationship with someone that insecure and emotionally immature.

He’s the type of man who would be jealous that you love any future babies more than him.

I understand where you're coming from OP.
I'm a fan of Midnight Oil - had a crush on the lead singer since I was 19 (I'm now in my fifties). When I saw them in concert I was near the front and yes, was swooning over a 70 year old man (He's still very much got it as far as I'm concerned).
Told DH and he just laughed. I'm very happily married but the buzz of being so close to someone I've admired for a long time was very real.

My ex used to always say
‘you say it best, when you say nothing at all’
Ronan Keating is a little guilty pleasure of mine

in all seriousness, he’s the walking red flag. How bloody ridiculous he got seriously jealous over a celebrity.

I'm 41 and openly drool over Ronan and Jonny Wilkinson at any and every opportunity and my husband has never made any kind of comment about it. We're both adults and know it's just harmless fun. Pic from 90s Baby where me and 2 of my friends screamed ourselves silly while Ronan did his thing.

ridiculous way for a grown woman to act. so childish.

Some people are just really carnal and simple, and it’s to be expected on a site like this that those people will show themselves. As long as their husbands are ok with it, and the screaming wives are ok with them flicking through the sun and lingering on page 3, shouldn’t bother the rest of us, who can just let them get on with it, and just be glad they’ve settled for each other so they have a body to hold, even if it’s not really the person they’d shag if they had the opportunity. It’s very sad, but if they’re happy, good for them.

This is brilliant and I second it!!! My husband and I joke about the celebrities we’d leave home for!!! You should be able to share everything with him, and shouldn’t be on eggshells over something so minor! Leave him before he starts telling you who you can talk to

Oh, don't be ridiculous. You can fancy a well-known person without being "carnal and simple". Showing my age, but DH and I have always had a running joke about how I can't decide whether I fancy Paul Newman or Robert Redford more (I mean, watch Butch Cassidy or The Sting and tell me I was wrong?). DH knows perfectly well that he's the only person I would ever want to shag, even if Newman or Redford had turned up on my doorstep and begged me to sleep with them.

He Sounds like an insecure little boy. He was being possessive, controlling and make you second guess anything you say or post on socials.

If you think it will be a one off, then have we all got news for you. This kind of behaviour only escalates.

Find a way to move on from the breakup. Remove him from socials if you haven’t already. I know it feels shit, but you shouldn’t have to worry about innocently posting a concert moment.

Oh for goodness sake. I know you’ve already explained why you are so insecure but for most people it’s perfectly ok to find others attractive. Doesn’t mean we’d do anything about it, even if the unlikely opportunity actually arose.
In fact most people find real life people attractive sometimes. Even if the attraction was potentially mutual it doesn’t mean they’d ever consider shagging them or leaving their loved partner for them. Most people don’t have affairs, but most people do have the capacity to find others attractive.

An aging pop star is not threatening in any shape or form.

He's very weird. Everyone finds at least one celebrity attractive. My partner and I are both pansexual. I said I was in love with a fictional character, he said so am I. That's a healthy relationship

Stay young at heart. He sounds a nightmare though.

WTAF 🤣

I agree with this

I’ve never really related to that thing of grown women (or men) gushing on about fancying celebrities. It honestly comes across as quite infantile to me and I’d be a bit embarrassed if my other half did this on social media!

Some folks have never grown out of it and their partners don’t seem to mind. It’s just one of these things you might be incompatible on.

As someone else said, it’s not the worst crime in the world though.

Move on. Lucky escape.

Would Megan Moroney give your husband the time of day?

Is that the point?

I’ve never understood that analogy, it’s like saying “why are you worried, he wants her but she wouldn’t want him, so he’ll stick with you”

would you feel the same if it was a non celebrity that he fancied more than he fancied you, but she turned him down so he settled with you? Because that’s how it seems when grown ups are obsessed with someone else- why be with someone who doesn’t make you feel all of that??

Is he ‘sticking’ with you because no-one else wants him? Because you’ve got bigger problems if he is.