Cannot get over husband wearing women's lingerie.

[Chezielou]

Ok so long story shortened... This happened months ago, not been able to get over it, should we split up?

Caught husband months ago wearing my sexy lingerie this was a complete shock as he is a 'manly man'. He said he's done it a couple of times but he's done with it, will never do it again. Few weeks later found him in his garage at 3am surrounded with mirrors and playing with anal toys. He had been going in his garage in the middle of the night for weeks on end at this point.

We had a lengthy chat and he said that was it, never again, he threw out all the 'stuff' and hasn't been going in his garage other than for 'normal' garage stuff.

But I just can't get it out of my head, I can't get over it all. It's changed the way I view him. Last night I told him it was over and he was devastated (we have two children together and have been together for nearly 11 years). He's been crying today saying he doesn't know what to do if he hasn't got his family he's really broken, I've never seen him cry before.

Any advice welcome, AIBU?!

I agree I found lingerie in my ex husband possession. I was with him for over 10 years. Luckily the divorce was already filed because he was belittling me indoor and outdoor in front of others. People would compliment me all the time and he would get upset. Once I found the women’s lingerie in a very large size I knew he was jealous of me the entire time. Get out because it gets worse. He would always tell me you can’t wear that you to big all the while he was wearing plus plus plus size lingerie

mu ex use to always get offended by gay men very aggressive when he notice them. Then I found lingerie in his possession. He was very manly a big guy tough a boss so thus shocked me after 10 years. We are divorced now but I notice he really started putting me down a couple years before I found the lingerie. He wound snap when other men looked at me in my dresses and say I’m beautiful and came off really jealous. To this day he still act weird because he know I know his secret

Good luck OP, I'm sorry there were more secrets but I'm glad you're getting life sorted to move on without him.

What is going in with you @toonpoolrich ?
You've resurrected an 8 month old thread to rant 7 posts in a row... and a lot of it didn't make sense! Are you talking to someone the rest of us can't see???

He’s having a lovely old argument with himself there isn’t he.

Nurse. He’s out of bed again

"there was lots of secrets, there was a drug addiction going on too, missing work regularly, owing people lots of money."

Looks like the husband has finally found the thread.

The guy above clearly doesn't get that you can find your H unattractive for all kinds of reasons and decide to end it- and being a cross dresser for many women simply means they no longer fancy them or want to be with them - end of

This would be totally unacceptable for me, I would tell him to leave.

People are focusing on the knickers rather than the elephant.

What’s AGP? I don’t want to google it in case it’s horrific

Nurse. He’s out of bed again

Brace yourself, @PriscillaQueen

It's not pretty.

Once you see it, you'll be in a bottomless GC chasm.

The guy above is most likely an AGP, himself.
You don't find too many men defending that behaviour so vociferously.

Bro's before ho's, etc.

What’s AGP?

"Autogynephilia is defined as a male's propensity to be sexually aroused by the thought or image of himself as female. Autogynephilia explains the desire for sex reassignment of some male-to-female (MTF) transsexuals. It can be conceptualized as both a paraphilia and a sexual orientation. The concept of autogynephilia provides an alternative to the traditional model of transsexualism that emphasizes gender identity. Autogynephilia helps explain mid-life MTF gender transition, progression from transvestism to transsexualism, the prevalence of other paraphilias among MTF transsexuals, and late development of sexual interest in male partners."

psycnet.apa.org/record/2004-19367-006

@ChimpanzeeThatMonkeyNews indeed - and seem to think that we women like them so much we will put up with almost anything- some will, most will not