How did you confront OW when you found out?

[BabaJel]

I've just told friend of 12 years who is shagging partner of 23 years exactly what I thought of her in a text - there were lots of expletives and I called her an ugly cunt, sent her details of the brothel he'd visited and called her a cunt again. I know the relationship is over and I'm not proud of my text but my goodness it felt good!

Once I saw she'd read message, I blocked her (he's been blocked for a long time). I don't intend to contact either one of them again and it feels like this sorry saga has concluded.
I would love to hear how others 'dealt' with the OW. I'm sure there have been much more creative ways.

Well you sound delightful. A bit more dignity would have been better.

ONly just to let her know I packed up his cases and they were outside her house.

Better for whom. Op feels better. Im not generally one to call anyone a cunt but seriously this is her long term friend with her oh..

Nothing to do with me. I didn't bother.

Yeah, fucking your mate's husband is really dignified.

I didn't.

Couldn't be bothered to spend anymore time on the waste of spaces.

Good for you ! I didn’t , kept my dignity…. Boy do I regret it 🤣 even 34 years later I’m still miffed with myself…

This brings back memories! I was 17 when I was told my best friend had been sleeping with my boyfriend. I'm not proud but I slapped her in the face.
Proud? No.
Regretful? Definitely not.

If it made you feel better than good for you.

Regardless of what anyone else thinks.

I am the same I couldn't of said nothing either.

I Hope you are ok. If your not, it will pass with time it always does eventually. Just be kind to yourself, take the support offered on here because people are mostly kind.

I didn’t say anything to her.

She actually blocked me from all social media anyway as soon as I found out so I think the worry of me contacting her was enough.

It was my ex husband who let me down, not her. It would have been someone else at some point if not her and all I was concerned with was making sure me and my children were ok.

Good on you OP.

Never been in the situation myself (thank god) but I know I don't have the personality to say nothing.

Told her, I hoped she could live on love... Cos by the time I'm finished taking him to the cleaners that's all they'd have left to live on 😊

I was the OW, I just didn't know, he never mentioned the fact he wasn't single in the 10 months of dating and staying over with me
Messaged him to tell him I knew he wasn't single then blocked him. Gave it 3 days so he would relax and think it was all fine
Then messaged his girlfriend with screenshots

Hello Daily Fail, is that you?!

@bonfirebash good for you- in that position I would want to know , so the ball was in my court.

@wildeststorm

Love this!!

Not the OW but I used some choice words when I found out a very close friend had slept with my (now ex) husband literally days after we'd separated. I don't even know how she found the time because she spent day and night 'supporting' me over those first few weeks.

If the OW definitely knows he's married, like it appears OP's did, then an angry text is the least they deserve. Utterly morally bankrupt.

Well done, OP

I feel the same!

I was young and didn’t want to rock the boat more (have to laugh about that now!) thought he’d come back - he got off so light

I didn't say anything to her. Although I was shocked when I found out I was eventually thankful she'd inadvertently "given" me a way out of the relationship.

Six years later we're divorced, they are still together. She still has no idea she was the OW.

I haven't had any contact with OW despite the fact she sent me a 3 page handwritten self-indulgent pity party of a letter, with no hint of empathy or remorse.

I wish that I'd sent the letter back unopened and denied her the last word she so badly wanted to have.

I don't blame anyone for acting out of pure revenge btw. I just don't want to be sucked into her drama. Dignified silence will piss her off more.

Well done. I never really confronted that way, because I wanted her to tell me the details, and she sung like a canary!

The fact that they are both spineless wankers who then tried their best to get me to sell my house so that they two little shits they are could ride off into the sunset, causing further upheaval to my kids, then had the cheek to phone me whilst I was on the other side of the world healing with my kids, asking help because he had attempted suicide, means I have a few choice words for the pair of them.

Alas, I haven't spoken to her since that call and I haven't spoken to him since the legals we're done for my kids home.

I do fantasise about it though, I hope they stay together so one day I get my chance. Time hasn't healed that anger and I still want to c bomb the pair of them!

So Ex and I were together 8 years never lived together. They lived next door to each other. When I found out I knocked on her door. Yes he was the one that cheated on me but she had the nerve to smile and chat whenever she saw me. He got it much much worse but I gave her a mouthful as well. That man begged on his knees for me to take him back texts I happily sent to her as she thought she had a good man 🤣🤣🤣

Just welcomed her to alcoholic depressive cheat, what a prince she’d ‘won’.
Didn’t feel the need to otherwise confront her, as my issue was with my ex partner not her, irrespective of my personal thoughts on people that knowingly get involved in third party relationships.

Not me but a friend. Pretended she forgave him, said she wanted to drink and have fun like they used to. Got him absolutely bladdered while fake drinking herself, and then drove his semi-conscious ass over to the OW's house. Dumped him (vomiting all over himself) and all his stuff on her doorstep. Rang the bell, said "he's all yours" and left. Never spoke to either of them again.

Always been proud of her for that final fuck you to the pair of them.