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dH topping up mystery phone

171 replies

Helpneeded1234567 · 02/06/2023 19:19

So I doubt a text saying, thanks for topping up, I called the number 141 in front imagine my horror when a woman answered?
What is this?
I have no idea what he's topping up from, no other accounts???
And who is it? Why would he top someone else's phone up???

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Helpneeded1234567 · 02/06/2023 19:21

It didn't sound like anyone I know...
Head is spinning...
What do I do now?

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Weallgottachangesometime · 02/06/2023 19:23

I mean I can only think of one explanation. I assume he’s cheating and topping up someone else’s phone?

unless it’s a one off and I suppose it’s possible someone topped up by mistake?

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Helpneeded1234567 · 02/06/2023 19:23

I feel physically sick and I'm trying to hold this together

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Helpneeded1234567 · 02/06/2023 19:23

Weallgottachangesometime · 02/06/2023 19:23

I mean I can only think of one explanation. I assume he’s cheating and topping up someone else’s phone?

unless it’s a one off and I suppose it’s possible someone topped up by mistake?

No it's been topped up since February...

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Weallgottachangesometime · 02/06/2023 19:24

oh I’m so sorry. You must be in shock!

Have there been other changes in behaviour? Is there time he is away from home and could be cheating?

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Helpneeded1234567 · 02/06/2023 19:25

Ive photographed and put in locked folder...

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Helpneeded1234567 · 02/06/2023 19:25

Weallgottachangesometime · 02/06/2023 19:24

oh I’m so sorry. You must be in shock!

Have there been other changes in behaviour? Is there time he is away from home and could be cheating?

No nothing, I'm in complete shock

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CurlewKate · 02/06/2023 19:25

Could be a friend or a colleague who didn't have the money or bandwidth to top up?

dollydaydream346 · 02/06/2023 19:25

I would ring and ask who this is as you've just found her number in your husbands phone. If you don't get the answers off her, confront him ASAP before she gets the chance to tell him you rung her.

Mummysaf · 02/06/2023 19:27

Hi op

so you got a text thanking you for topping up?
or you saw it?
Or was it a receipt?
save the number in your phone
download WhatsApp and see if there a name / picture

VisionsOfSplendour · 02/06/2023 19:27

Could it be some kind of mistake?

Who tops up phones nowadays? Where did you find the message, im not quite clear what's happened

MayBeee · 02/06/2023 19:27

Sorry to say - agree with others , he is topping up an affair partners phone. If it was a family member / friend in need surely he would have told you ?

Weallgottachangesometime · 02/06/2023 19:28

Yea I’d probably just ask him straight out and watch his face/reactions. Better than dragging it out and if there is a reasonable explanation you’ll find out. However I can tell when my husband is lying, he’s not a smooth talker.

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Helpneeded1234567 · 02/06/2023 19:29

VisionsOfSplendour · 02/06/2023 19:27

Could it be some kind of mistake?

Who tops up phones nowadays? Where did you find the message, im not quite clear what's happened

It was a text on his phone, thanks for topping up 30.00
Not his phone number we don't have EE..m

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Helpneeded1234567 · 02/06/2023 19:30

MayBeee · 02/06/2023 19:27

Sorry to say - agree with others , he is topping up an affair partners phone. If it was a family member / friend in need surely he would have told you ?

Exactly and it's been going on since February??

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Helpimfalling · 02/06/2023 19:31

Put the number into WhatsApp.

I'm so sorry, I've been there.

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Helpneeded1234567 · 02/06/2023 19:32

They aren't on wassap???

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Mummysaf · 02/06/2023 19:34

I’d ring them back op
and ask outright who it is?
thats a big top up

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Helpneeded1234567 · 02/06/2023 19:35

Mummysaf · 02/06/2023 19:34

I’d ring them back op
and ask outright who it is?
thats a big top up

They'll know someone from an unknown called them.... What do I say they aren't doing too say who they are suppose?

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Weallgottachangesometime · 02/06/2023 19:35

Are there not any texts from his phone to the that number?

Muncha · 02/06/2023 19:36

Mummysaf · 02/06/2023 19:34

I’d ring them back op
and ask outright who it is?
thats a big top up

Me too

VisionsOfSplendour · 02/06/2023 19:40

Mummysaf · 02/06/2023 19:34

I’d ring them back op
and ask outright who it is?
thats a big top up

No one with a secret phone is going to be saying who they are to a randon caller unless they are remarkably stupid

If this is what's happening shes on alert now and won't even answer unknown calls

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Helpneeded1234567 · 02/06/2023 19:41

Weallgottachangesometime · 02/06/2023 19:35

Are there not any texts from his phone to the that number?

Not that I can see, but he could delete..

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intothegreek · 02/06/2023 19:43

How old is he? Could it be a secret kid?

intothegreek · 02/06/2023 19:43

Or ex wife? My ex would top my phone up to keep in touch about the kids if he had to