The next chapter

[Bluebeanbag]

Hi everyone, it feels fitting to start a new thread today to say the biggest thank you to you all. You have kept me going with such sound advice and cheerleading throughout this whole debacle.

I have just closed my own front door for the first time, after the removal men left, and sat on the stairs and had a big messy cry. I have imagined this moment so many times over the past year and it has finally happened. I love my teeny house to bits.

I'm sure there will be more rocks in the road to navigate and doubtless you will all be there to help me along the way. Thank you a million times over.

Delurking to say a huge congratulations, you have been such an inspiration to so many! Second advice previously and never let him in YOUR house 🥰
Enjoy your first night of freedom and hope the worst is over xxxx
Might be worth popping a link to this thread in the old one so others can find you for the moving-party 🍸

Congratulations:)
I am waiting for next Tuesday.
My tiny house cannot wait for disinfection session after he leaves.
There will be a funeral in my heart but I can dance on our love's grave on this occasion. ;) really cannot wait.

Hey!
Welcome to the next chapter, @Bluebeanbag !

You did good.

🥳

Congratulations I am so happy for you

Huge congratulations OP, I can’t begin to imagine what an emotional mountain you’ve overcome.

I hope you’ve had the customary takeaway and a glass or two of wine tonight. Tomorrow you turn your new little house into a home for you and the DC. Onwards and upwards!

@lizard202 thanks for the reminder. I meant to do a link earlier but couldn't get it to work.

I do need to have a chat with the DC about not letting him in. Not quite sure how to phrase it so I don't just look like I'm being mean. They definitely have a greater level of understanding of the situation than I give them credit for though. Their joy when I opened the front door to them earlier was immense and since they got in, they keep asking for 'group family hugs in the new house'.

I noticed DC2 standing up for me yesterday as well in front of exH. He kept saying how I was the greatest (at taking furniture apart and getting picture hooks out of the walls) 😂 I imagine that was grating on exH's nerves somewhat!

Oh @Gertruuude, I can tell you it's a feeling like no other. Hope all goes well for you.

@RandomMess thank you 😊

I packed a special bottle of wine just for that purpose but when I went to open it, I realised I had packed one with a cork and I couldn't find the corkscrew. I gave up and had tea and chocolate hobnobs instead.

So glad you're in and settled. You'll feel like a weight has been lifted from your shoulders. You're children will feel so much happier and relaxed

@Bluebeanbag oh the very best warmest wishes for your future! Wishing you and the boys a wonderful time in your new and peaceful, happy home 💐

Just tell the DC that this is a fresh start for you and ex isn't allowed in because it's your sanctuary after such a difficult time. Doesn't matter if they think you are mean!

WHOOP WHOOP!!!!

Here's to the beginning of a wonderful new start

Ah @RandomMess I knew you'd have the answer. I'm very wary of badmouthing him but that statement makes it about me and not so much about him. Thank you.

Wahoo! Go bluebeanbag! Am so delighted that you made it out of there. Well done you, and I hope life picks up for you now you're finally free.

Oh bluebeanbag what an inspiration you are. Delurking to say I have cried and gritted my teeth at times through your story. I know other women will find the strength to leave awful situations knowing you did it with all the uncertainties and doubts. I wish you and your DC every happiness in your new home. Special mention to brilliantly wise munsnetters who have shown the way and been ever helpful and supportive on your original thread.

I'm so very pleased for you, @Bluebeanbag!! Hurrah!!

Is there a door chain on your front door? If not maybe install one and get your boys to always put it on to double check who's outside. And maybe get a camera doorbell so you get digital notifications of arrivals at your home.

Best wishes for your future. 🌹

Enjoy your sanctuary ❤️

Congratulations on your move. All the best for the future

Very happy for you - enjoy your new found freedom. I’d love to read your back story if you can figure out how to post your old threads xxxx

@Bluebeanbag you fucking rock ❤️❤️❤️

@Bluebeanbag amazing ❤️enjoy your new life and home ! Go and make some amazing memories.

Oh congratulations I am so pleased for you, perhaps pick a local cafe or somewhere similar where the Dcs would enjoy going to for handovers?

Absolutely this, @RandomMess .

It is ok to say, this is about ME, and ME wanting MY house to be a ME ONLY space.

Tell them it is ok to not understand, not agree with you.

"All that is important is that you understand these are MY wishes."

OP, this will be a very good teaching moment for your boys going forward.

They may not always agree with you as you parent alone, so it will be very good for them to see you, firm, proud and strongly boundaried.

I am so delighted for you.🥳

Hi there, @Bluebeanbag <waves>

So glad to hear that your move is going swimmingly so far - wonderful news!

We've also noted you're happy for us to move your first thread over to Classics. We'll do that now.

As previous posters have said, you're are an inspiration to many MNers. Enjoy your new chapter.