Page 7 | My husband strangled me last night.

ColdHandsHotHead · 08/05/2023 16:49

He's crying to emotionally blackmail you. He's sorry for himself, that's all.

Twilight7777 · 08/05/2023 16:49

Get out now! Definitely escalating, he is seeing how far he can go. A close relative of mine was strangled by her husband and he didn’t let go until she was very close to death. She’s been divorced from him now for several years. She still has ptsd.

OrbandSpectacle · 08/05/2023 16:50

He's only crying for himself as he knows he's in deep shit now.

Needanewnamebeingwatched · 08/05/2023 16:51

Stop harassing the Op she needs to get her head straight and do it in her own timeline.

It's a dangerous time for her and she needs to get her ducks in a row, as quietly as possible.

Nobsandnockers · 08/05/2023 16:53

He has been abusing you for years.You should have left him year ago. Why didn’t you?

He knows how bad this dad was and how much mum suffered, but still CHOOSES to drink despite it. You son will see how his dad behaves and continue the family tradition.

Crying all day…I should fucking think so.

CabbagePatchDole · 08/05/2023 16:53

RunThroughTheJungle · 08/05/2023 15:56

My ex strangled me till I passed out, blacking out was the scariest moment of my life. It scared him the first time and he jumped back and dropped me. Next time I wouldn't have been so lucky.

When you black out you are just seconds away from experiencing brain damage and after that seconds from death. I looked into this recently as I was strangled by my partner years ago. At the time there wasn’t much information about this. Now there is a lot more. Poor OP.

MayBeeJuneSoon · 08/05/2023 16:54

Crying all day

Knows he's lost it all

Be more careful than ever op..... he may try to end it all. They sometimes take the kids with them

You need to get out

LadyEloise1 · 08/05/2023 16:54

LivingMyBestAnxietyLife · 08/05/2023 16:02

I'm so sorry. My little boy wanted to do his sticker book. The taxi driver just carried on driving. He probably didn't want to get involved. We were arguing.

Thank you for replying.
So you have a witness in the taxi driver.
Please contact the police and or Womens Aid.
There have been too many mothers ( and sometimes their children ) murdered by their partners.
Your dc deserve better lives.

You deserve a better life.

MayBeeJuneSoon · 08/05/2023 16:55

Has he ever been suicidal

I strongly urge you to get away with the kids

DorisDolabella · 08/05/2023 16:58

You need to leave. You need to call the police. No one has the right to strangle you. Report him now before he actually kills you and tries to get off by saying it's a sex game.

Malloryhitops · 08/05/2023 16:59

I’m so so sorry this is happening to you.
Your life is in danger, will has the ability to kill you.
please leave as soon as it’s safe to do so and please phone the police as soon as you possibly can. You cannot go back, you cannot trust him, he will kill you. None of this is your fault but you need to be the one to finish it. X

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CharlottenBerg · 08/05/2023 16:59

Tiddlypomtiddlypom · 08/05/2023 16:26

I fear she’s delaying and then never will.

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This is worrying me a lot.

ShowUs · 08/05/2023 17:02

LivingMyBestAnxietyLife · 08/05/2023 16:40

It isn't that. I don't to make that phone call I front of my children. He is only violent when he drinks I'm not minimising but that's just the truth. Nothing Will happen tonight he's been crying all day. He is gutted but that doesn't change anything. It isn't right and never will be.

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Why TF is he crying?

He surely can’t be trying to act like he’s ashamed or regretful of what he did?

I’ve been drunk many times before but I have never tried strangling/killing someone.

Have you ever got drunk and been violent towards him, your children or pets?

He doesn’t care because if there was even a slither of remorse or regret then he would have stopped drinking the first time he ever pushed you.

And he definitely would not stay in the home after strangling you, he would at the very least stayed somewhere else for a couple of days to show you how sorry he is.

At least you know how much he hates you now which will make it easier when he’s begging for you back and pretending to love you.

CharlottenBerg · 08/05/2023 17:03

LivingMyBestAnxietyLife · 08/05/2023 14:07

Basically that really. I've been with my husband for 10 years. He has always had a temper and can be quite shouty at times. He has pushed me over a few times during arguments over the years but last night was the first time he has strangled me...its escalating isn't it? His dad beat his mum until she managed to get away from him and I'm worried about his temper and behaviour.

We are happily married despite this but he has a problem with drinking which is getting worse too but I'm scared now! He told me he is sorry but that's what they all say isn't it...im so shocked do you think this could have been a one time thing or am I being silly. He was drunk but that's no excuse.

He's shown you what he can do. He could do it again, and very likely will. Sorry to be blunt, but if you are in a grave and he is in jail, who will look after your child, and how is that going to affect him for all of his life? You do not have the choice of accepting his 'sorry'. He'll probably cry and weep in the police station if he kills you., and he'll be really 'sorry' then too.

tribpot · 08/05/2023 17:03

I'm not sure it's safe to call whilst he's in the house, he could kick off before the police can get there. I know I wouldn't be able to sleep there tonight. However, what I would say @LivingMyBestAnxietyLife is that he could well know something is up, and call in sick tomorrow to stop you having time to escape. Be ready.

DaaamnYoullDo · 08/05/2023 17:04

It's escalating and it will keep escalating. Get out of there. Anywhere is better than there. He will kill you OP. You need to call the police.

Strawberrydelight78 · 08/05/2023 17:06

You need to get away from him. This happened to a friend of mine. She somehow managed to ring an ambulance. But they said a few more seconds she would have been dead.

LadyEloise1 · 08/05/2023 17:10

".......he may try to end it all. They sometimes take the kids with them..."

Chilling words.

Whiskyinajar · 08/05/2023 17:13

If I had my way...all men who put their hands around a woman's throat would be charged with attempted murder. He may have been drunk, he may be sorry but that won't mean much if you are dead.

Cheesecakeandwineinasuitcase · 08/05/2023 17:14

LivingMyBestAnxietyLife · 08/05/2023 14:07

Basically that really. I've been with my husband for 10 years. He has always had a temper and can be quite shouty at times. He has pushed me over a few times during arguments over the years but last night was the first time he has strangled me...its escalating isn't it? His dad beat his mum until she managed to get away from him and I'm worried about his temper and behaviour.

We are happily married despite this but he has a problem with drinking which is getting worse too but I'm scared now! He told me he is sorry but that's what they all say isn't it...im so shocked do you think this could have been a one time thing or am I being silly. He was drunk but that's no excuse.

OP ‘I would be absolutely heart broken if my daughter ended up with someone who did this to her. She’s only 6 but I really worry about her ending up in domestic violence and a partner who abuses her when she’s older. Please please leave this man. He’s shown you what he is capable of. He is unpredictable and you are not safe with him. You deserve to feel safe.

XBealtaine · 08/05/2023 17:14

Please tell the police.

It's at this point I left so I'm not just typing this.

Cheesecakeandwineinasuitcase · 08/05/2023 17:16

Whiskyinajar · 08/05/2023 17:13

If I had my way...all men who put their hands around a woman's throat would be charged with attempted murder. He may have been drunk, he may be sorry but that won't mean much if you are dead.

Well said. Too many women die at the hands of their male partner. It’s disgusting. The media doesn’t give it enough attention.

billy1966 · 08/05/2023 17:17

OrbandSpectacle · 08/05/2023 16:50

He's only crying for himself as he knows he's in deep shit now.

This.

They only ever cry for themselves.

Pathetic loser.

He knows that it is likely his mother is going to find out and rightly realise her son is a loser just like his father.

That's what intergenerational violence is.

Your children are depending on you to keep them safe and that they have a different future.

Step one is keeping yourself safe.

Be brave OP.

You deserve better than to be part of a heartbreaking statistic.

XBealtaine · 08/05/2023 17:19

tribpot · 08/05/2023 17:03

I'm not sure it's safe to call whilst he's in the house, he could kick off before the police can get there. I know I wouldn't be able to sleep there tonight. However, what I would say @LivingMyBestAnxietyLife is that he could well know something is up, and call in sick tomorrow to stop you having time to escape. Be ready.

So true. My x started working from home when I was planning my escape.
I had gone to the post office to post home boots coats and a few other things, I paid cash but as I was walking back to the house he was walking towards me asking why I'd been on that road.

Act normal. Sending you strength xx