I have found out that one of our neighbours appears to be having an affair. He is married with a child. We don't really know one another although I know his and his wife's names. I don't know the woman I saw him with.
I don't know whether to post an anonymous note to his wife or not.
I also don't know if my own experience is affecting my judgement. Years ago, one of my neighbours tried telling me my own husband was having an affair. She didn't do it directly and I didn't cotton on so it was only later when I found out about his affair that I realised what she had been trying to tell me. I felt grateful she had tried to intervene.
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If you saw a neighbour having an affair?
CheeseOnToastFan · 03/01/2023 09:30
SliceOfCakeCupOfTea · 03/01/2023 10:06
I would absolutely tell.
Better to tell her and be wrong about it than not tell her and be right.
CheeseOnToastFan · 03/01/2023 10:08
I didn't see them near where we live.
Bedazzled22 · 03/01/2023 10:10
This is an awful thing to have seen and I can understand it would make you feel upset and uncomfortable.
However, I think it is best to do nothing at this stage anyway as I don’t think you know enough and enough about them.
CheeseOnToastFan · 03/01/2023 10:15
Thank you for acknowledging my feelings. Yes it was quite shocking even though his wife is not my friend or even acquaintance, I still felt a bit upset about it. It had been the woman who had instigated the embrace and then kiss. He had momentarily kept her at arms' distance, then reciprocated but not as much as her. He looked uncomfortable but the woman didn't look uncomfortable at all.
Bedazzled22 · 03/01/2023 10:10
This is an awful thing to have seen and I can understand it would make you feel upset and uncomfortable.
However, I think it is best to do nothing at this stage anyway as I don’t think you know enough and enough about them.
LadyKenya · 03/01/2023 10:10
Yeah, do this. Cause her pain, and anguish when OP has no clue what is going on. Why would you give such foolish advice?
SliceOfCakeCupOfTea · 03/01/2023 10:06
I would absolutely tell.
Better to tell her and be wrong about it than not tell her and be right.
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