Partner wants me to cash in my pensions so he can stop work ??

[Lizzie2006]

My partner wants me to cash in my pensions, so that he can stop working. He has no pension provision and I have a couple, having paid in since I started work at 16 (I'm nearly 60). We are not married - he says if I cash in my pensions, then he'll marry me. We have joint savings, but he won't let me touch them. Instead, he wants my pension money to enable him to retire, marry me .............. is that right?

RUUUUUUUUUN!

Absolutely do not do that

No no no

The joint savings are yours too him not letting you touch them screams financial abuse.

He is trying to spend your money because he made poor financial deciles and has none. You need your pension for retirement. Do not let this man leave you with nothing.

ABSOLUTELY NOT!!!!!!!!!!

No bloody way!!!!!

Noooo.
Might be a good idea to invest half the joint savings in your name. Then they are safe.
Keep your pensions

Why do you have joint savings you can't access? You need to get your share out and run?
Do you live together and own a property? Please don't do this.

Another one saying financial independence in your 60s is so important.
He can get a job if he wants money to spend

Red flags all over this guy. Run!

run like the wind! How long have you known him?

Hell no.

Haha is he joking?

He doesn’t think you would do that does he?

You know this isn’t right you also know your joint savings are yours too so there should be no “allow”. Get rid, just get rid of this asshole.

I don't normally run to conclusions, bit if he's not already abusive or controlling then I guarantee, 100% the minute you do that you will be trapped for life.

Run, run for your life.

Do you really want to marry this leach?

I sincerely hope you're not even considering it. Do not even give the thought headroom.

You don't need to be married to someone like that. You don't need to even have someone like that in your life unless there's some humongous back story.

He'll run off with all your money and you'll be left with nothing. LEAVE

Don't be so ridiculous. How can you even contemplate doing that?! What are you meant to live on when you retire?

And why would you want to be with someone who puts a condition like that on you marrying?

Wow. Was he joking?

I'm not sure that this is real. How can you have reached the age of 60 without knowing that this is wrong.

Why can’t you access your savings? Take out your share ASAP and run. What the actual hell?

Partner wants me to cash in my pensions so he can stop work ??

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Nope

If he wasn’t joking run

And if you married, then divorced, you could lose half your pension. Run!

I was so shocked that I read your post to my husband. His advice 'Dump the b.....'