Polly and her Dollies are counting down to Christmas

[StuckInPollyannaMode]

Hello my lovelies

Is this going to be the thread where I finally get divorced? Will my Ring of Fabulousness ever be worn? Will the Divorce Tattinger be drunk?

I bloody well hope so. It's been a very long time coming.

Here we are again. In the main headline news... I'm still not fucking divorced from Geller. I've had to sign an affidavit for the absolute application to say yes, I want to proceed, because it's taken so bloody long.

The Dollies are amazing, brilliant and pains in the bum in equal measures I can't believe how much they're growing up. For Christmas they want to learn how to make me a cup of tea for my present. I'll take that. DD1 hasn't had a good couple of weeks, not helped by me having a whole load of work done in the house so things here have been a bit chaotic. DD2 has been off school poorly with D&V, poor little mite.

Geller remains an eejit who is unable to put the Dollies first. The shenanigans have been unbelievable and of true Geller quality levels. I am rising above. And doing a lot of deep breathing. My parents have now moved house and my mother is being her usual self. I've distanced myself quite a bit. I did help them out for a day but that's it.

I'm becoming addicted to exercise again and have graduated to the fast lane in the swimming pool, hurrah. I've survived several spin classes and even treated myself to a new pair of trainers. My gardening is coming on nicely (I'm very good in autumn with slash and burn, I can do destruction) and I've now got my new shed up.

Work is insanely busy and I'm on the edge of a new possibility which will, if it comes off, be life changing for me and the Dollies in terms of security. It's going to be a crazy few months but I'll give it all I've got.

I haven't heard from Westley since I threw my toys out of the pram with him wanting to still be friends and message me randomly - no. I'm too good for breadcrumbing and I've got enough friends, thank you. I'm not dating, not planning on dating and finally feel like I'm starting to move on. But it's not a priority for me right now, although I do really miss cuddles. And sex!

Perhaps most excitingly, today I am trialling a new foundation. It's supposed to be a dupe of Estee Lauder's Double Wear, which I love, but I just can't justify the cost of for everyday wear.

As ever, if you're still following me, thank you. Without MN and you all I wouldn't be where I am today.

You mother should be studied.

can I suggest 2023 is the year you tell you mother nothing. She’s not on your side.

I have bought nothing for Christmas. Not good nor gift. Absolutely nothing. Have my own Stately Homes-esque family situation to deal with and a DH who sided with them. So One 4 All gift vouchers for everyone.

Your mother should be studied yeah @CliffsofMohair while wearing full hazmat!

Your mother is...disgusting. I do hope you are not selling her stuff for her?

I hope you feel back to full strength soon Polly. Did you ever give Westley back his box that you held on to for him?

Well, isn't your darling mother a treasure? Punches you in the gut with a terrible insult then asks you for a favour.

I agree with the PP who said to tell her nothing about anything in your life from this point on to reduce the avenues she uses the get under your skin - perhaps Grey Rock with her if you can't bear to go LC or NC. Onwards and upwards dear @StuckInPollyannaMode. 🌹

Urgh.
Given Westley turned out to be a toad I suspect he's after a shag.

I hope you told your mother to naff off and sell them herself.

I agree with the others - your mother is a dose all right.

Please tell us that you're not going to sell their light fittings on FB after her comment?? It's truly abhorrent to suggest that your daughter is promiscuous and in the next breath say "but will you help me by selling X on FB?"

Tell her that there are courses she can attend (either in person or on line) that will take her through the necessary steps on how to sell items online. Tell her that you're so busy sorting out stuff following your divorce (I'd even dare to suggest to her that it's already gone through so that she can stop communicating with Geller) and that you don't have time for such tasks anymore.
Lastly, suggest she joins Only Friends 😉😉because clearly the apply doesn't fall far from the tree! (only messing about that bit).

No presents, no tree, no nothing ready here. Its all gone to shit...
Also its DD Bday tomorrow, she is ill, not sure if its Covid yet...

You'd do best indeed, tonot to see Westley.

Hoorah that the Dollies are doing well !!

re your Mother, how about, "Your Slut of a daughter has no time for selling your garbage too busy being promiscuous.."

Me neither @StuckInPollyannaMode @Anotheanon - new puppy so no point in having a tree, would just add to the stress of “don’t eat that” “what are you doing” “leave it”

DS birthday this week, I’m not even really that organised for this either

@StuckInPollyannaMode your mother is awful. Just awful. Please when all this Geller shit is over and done with, can you start the divorce of your mother? She’s of no value to your happiness whatsoever.

I am utterly speechless that your mother would bloody think that, let alone verbalize it. What a nasty piece of work she is. I wouldn’t have been able to stop myself from saying “No Mother, I can’t sell your fucking light fittings, I’m far too busy taking my antibiotics and being a slut. You’re just going to have to do it yourself this time.” God, I hope you’re feeling better, @StuckInPollyannaMode .
Many condolences for your family bereavement too. I bet your mum somehow made that all about her as well.
I like to think the best of people, but I suspect that Westley was a bit of a CF sending the gin. Drink up for NY’s. You bloody deserve it.
I have purchased my kids some skincare items today for Christmas. That’s it. Feel better? I’m knackered because I’ve been working two jobs and I’m behind with everything and feel like a failure. My house is a top and nobody helps. I feel like crying all the time atm but too tired for that. To top it off, I was fined on my way home from work because I had forgotten to re-register my car last week. (Because I admitted it slipped my mind and accepted responsibility due to busy brain and exhaustion they gave me the lowest possible fine, bless them. They could see I was in uniform and coming home from work at 1am.) Over it.

Fraaances, that sounds hard, sorry nobody helps. Have you asked for help though ?
I had a big snap at my DS over him being out all the time, & none of the jobs I'd asked him to help me with were done since his father has been hospitalized. (Half my day is taken up visiting H.) & some things I cannot physically accomplish alone.
He has now done a few of those jobs.

@Mix56 of course I have lost it. The Royal “we” has been used by DH more than once rather hilariously. ie, “What are we cooking for dinner?” (“I don’t know. “We’re” all quite capable of using our own brains to sort something out. I’m not going to be at home.”) - The kids are getting pretty sick of packet pasta, I’ve heard. My heart bleeds.

Yes, I know the feeling.

Fraaahnces in my house, the phrase “yes, we need to do X, don’t you” gets a lot of airing in similar circumstances.
Pointed enough to make it clear without the full-on “I will stab you in the pancreas if you dare try and add one more thing onto my list instead of just doing it your damn self”

polly strength and honour in all dealings with CFs, including Westley and his gin. Stick it in the back of the cupboard, or take it to a festive / NY party (and then drink something else!)

Understood @ShangPie Mine has had many years of me being the trailing expat spouse to me now working two jobs and studying full time. Suspect he forgot I was a person. While in theory he is very supportive, the reality of actually BEING supportive is rather different. I have mentioned the cheese grater more than once.

Sending love and strength for those who need it - it’s always a stressful time of year anyway, so be kind to yourselves folks.

If it’s of any comfort, I lost my shit epically yesterday morning. In spite of me barely sitting down, there’s stuff everywhere, I seem to be the only one loading and unloading the dishwasher, the washing needs to be put away, their school bags are spilling stuff everywhere and their rooms are a tip. We’re still mired in coughs and colds and after being up every 90 minutes with one of them through the night they woke me up giggling and laughing at 6am.

Did it have an impact? Barely. Going to be more hardcore with them today now they’re feeling a bit better.

in other news, my car insurance has gone up by over £150 so that’s yet again something else to sort, half my shopping hasn’t arrived due to the strikes or couriers not finding my house, and I spent £25 emailing my solicitor at 10pm last night to ask if there’s any news on the absolute. The rain has finally dispersed the last of the snow, and tomorrow night I can have my first drink in weeks - finished my antibiotics last night! Still not feeling massively better but hoping once they have worn off I will do. Just pulled down, rather than poorly, if you get what I mean. So hard to know what’s what at this time of year.

8 weeks til I go skiing. 8 weeks of Geller making out like he’s the worlds best dad for having the kids so I can go. Even though it involves him having them for one extra night and nothing else, and I’ve had them all this week so he can go to his Christmas parties!! He’s the odd one out, not taking them anywhere other than Norfolk. Still, at least I’ve not to put up with MIL for 10 days like he has!!

PS gin is in the cupboard. Emergency use only.

Polly please do go back to GP if not 100% after antibiotics, in case they weren't the right ones. I've just had a second round of antibiotics, different ones to the first. Thought the first made an impact but I was clearly wrong.

I just came on to post what @Hughsrunning said - if these antibiotics haven't cleared it, you may need different ones. Happened to DD2 a couple of years ago when she had a fabulous appendicitis/UTI combo and it took a second course of something stronger to clear the latter.

And I hope you have a peaceful Christmas with no nonsense from your family. My gathering of the clans starts tomorrow, picking up the DDs from Reading (DD2 is travelling by train from Plymouth and DD1 lives there). Then DS and his fiancee Wednesday and the rest is Christmas, cheer, chill and cats.

Pollution, you are utterly inspirational and a fantastic writer!

I'm very much invested in you and your future.

Oh ffs. Pollution should reasonably Polly!!!

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Done it again.

I give up.

I think you've been at the Christmas sherry again! 😆😆😆😆😆😆

😄

Sadly not, but think I need a couple!

One extra fucking night… what a hero! You’re going to have to start saying no to that gnome of a man soon Polly.

Please tell me you are not going to your Mothers for Xmas ...

Very low key here, still shlepping across the county every day to see H. & fighting to see if he can come home over Xmas. ( for the day, it seems he gas to go back at night, so thats going to screw up the day
Xmas tree up, but not entirely finished, wondered why I bothered as I put it up alone last night, no-one here to enjoy it (not that H ever enjoyed it), but normally I do enjoy Xmas, decorating, cooking, the kids opening their presents...
No presents for anyone in extended family, they dont need anything & I dont have the time, money or mojo.
As for Xmas lunch, I'll see whats in the shops on the 24th.
Ho ho ho