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Just had a WhatsApp from my colleagues wife

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BlueMoone · 10/06/2022 22:07

I work in a freelance creative industry (TV production) where I will be contracted on a project for a finite amount of time. My current role is 16 weeks and I'm 6 weeks in. I'm self employed and very very pleased to have the contract as sometimes I go a couple of months between contracts and have to budget to make the money stretch the whole year. Being self employed I don't get holiday pay or anything like that (just demonstrating how precious the work is to me.)

My role involves being paired with another freelance professional and the two of us work together in an edit suite reporting to senior members of staff but essentially it's just the two of us for the vast majority of the day.

This job was the first time I had met this guy, usually you work with people on the circuit but I hadn't come across him before. We get in great, he's 15 years older than me but seems young in his outlook and we have enjoyed chatting and having a laugh at work.

He told me about how he met his wife online and got her pregnant on their second date and now they're married and their child is about six months old. FWIW I live with my long term partner. He would sometimes tell me how his wife and he would argue but always in a jokey tone, he probably did share too much but not just about his relationship about loads of stuff - mostly just idle chat as we worked.

This evening I have received a WhatsApp from his wife (must have taken my number from his phone) telling me to stop calling him, he's a married man and he has a child and I need to back off and stay away from her husband. I had a missed call from him yesterday evening, called back assuming a work thing and he didn't pick up. Wasn't mentioned at work today I didn't think anything of it.

What do I reply? I don't want things to be awkward at work and don't want to put my job in jeopardy by giving the impression at work we are not being professional. We are doing a good job with good feedback. Should I message my colleague and tell him?

OP posts:
drlel · 17/06/2022 13:57

Anyone been following the other post where the OP had been texting who she suspects to be the OW?? 🤔

Billlius · 17/06/2022 14:09

No, link?

justasking111 · 17/06/2022 14:24

drlel · 17/06/2022 13:57

Anyone been following the other post where the OP had been texting who she suspects to be the OW?? 🤔

Really a separate thread okay

drlel · 17/06/2022 14:45

@justasking111 I know it's a different thread. Was just thinking it would be funny if this guys wife and the lady accused of being the OW were both posting on here.

It's interesting as on the other thread there's not much evidence and all the responses are about trusting your gut and believing your spidey senses. Then this post shows how doing that can go wrong!

drlel · 17/06/2022 14:46

@justasking111 I know it's a different thread. Was just thinking it would be funny if this guys wife and the lady accused of being the OW were both posting on here.

It's interesting as on the other thread there's not much evidence and all the responses are about trusting your gut and believing your spidey senses. Then this post shows how doing that can go wrong!

pedropony76 · 17/06/2022 15:36

Changedagain876 · 17/06/2022 07:11

I really feel like OPs should sign a contract before they post saying they won’t leave us on a cliffhanger 😂

(that’s a joke by the way)

I agree with this and I’m really not joking😂😂

Obviously there’s no way to enforce this bloomin heck. It’s always the really interesting ones where the OP never comes back. Let me just hide this as I’ll just continue commenting and being miserable😂

pedropony76 · 17/06/2022 15:36

Changedagain876 · 17/06/2022 07:11

I really feel like OPs should sign a contract before they post saying they won’t leave us on a cliffhanger 😂

(that’s a joke by the way)

I agree with this and I’m really not joking😂😂

Obviously there’s no way to enforce this bloomin heck. It’s always the really interesting ones where the OP never comes back. Let me just hide this as I’ll just continue commenting and being miserable😂

pedropony76 · 17/06/2022 15:48

Changedagain876 · 17/06/2022 07:11

I really feel like OPs should sign a contract before they post saying they won’t leave us on a cliffhanger 😂

(that’s a joke by the way)

I agree with this and I’m really not joking😂😂

Obviously there’s no way to enforce this bloomin heck. It’s always the really interesting ones where the OP never comes back. Let me just hide this as I’ll just continue commenting and being miserable😂

pedropony76 · 17/06/2022 15:48

Changedagain876 · 17/06/2022 07:11

I really feel like OPs should sign a contract before they post saying they won’t leave us on a cliffhanger 😂

(that’s a joke by the way)

I agree with this and I’m really not joking😂😂

Obviously there’s no way to enforce this bloomin heck. It’s always the really interesting ones where the OP never comes back. Let me just hide this as I’ll just continue commenting and being miserable😂

pedropony76 · 17/06/2022 15:49

Oh God that posted 4 times!

Let me just exit gracefully🚶‍♀️

FlipFlopShopInHawaii · 17/06/2022 16:02

pedropony76 · 17/06/2022 15:49

Oh God that posted 4 times!

Let me just exit gracefully🚶‍♀️

🤣😂 oops! 🐴

Is there a glitch in the MN matrix again? 🤪

girlmom21 · 17/06/2022 16:29

@pedropony76 are you just trying to fill the thread so people stop complaining about op not coming back? Grin

WibblyWobblyJane · 17/06/2022 16:49

WTF475878237NC · 16/06/2022 19:48

This guy is obviously trouble... lying to his wife about blocking people, seeking a new partner etc then trying to continue relationships without his wife knowing. The manager is either on Mumsnet or is aware of how this guy works. He's the reason his wife and OP are in this situation. Gaslighting arsehole.

OP isn't coming back though!

I found this post fascinating.

pedropony76 · 17/06/2022 17:11

girlmom21 · 17/06/2022 16:29

@pedropony76 are you just trying to fill the thread so people stop complaining about op not coming back? Grin

Haha yep you’ve caught me🤣💀

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