Sex on 1st Date

[Essexgirl2021]

Had a 1st date yesterday with a lovely guy.He gave me flowers at the start of the date things were going well .I havent had sex for [amount of time edited out] and slept with him now i regret it and have ruined any chances of a second date .

Not necessarily. Has he been in touch since?

have you spoken since? Made plans for another date? Be careful not to fall into fwb (unless that’s what you want)

He said to text last night when i got home but that he would be asleep and wouldnt reply .So i text this morning just that i got home ok he just text thats good and asked why i didnt text last night but not much texting

That's not dead in the water yet, text him and say hi

I kinda dont want to chase him after sleeping with him if he was interested he would have showed more interest in text today

Wait and see

I find it sorts the wheat from the chaff tbh

If a man likes you he will want to see you again

If he was only after sex he'd have got that sooner or later and then gone

If he's the sort of man who would judge a woman for doing exactly what he did. Divides women into what. Respectable or not. Virgin whore. Fuck or girlfriend material. Then I wouldn't want to be with him anyway.

The best ones are the ones who are happy that she likes him as much as he likes her and are keen to see again :)

In my opinion!

If he's they type of guy to dump you for having sex on a first date he's not worth dating.

I did this once and the guy made it clear he saw no long term future with someone who would do that despite him doing the same. Tosser.

Read update.

He wanted to check you got home safe.
He asked why you didn't.
He got in touch next day.

Sounds ok to me!

Had sex with mine on first date we've been together 22 years.

Dating is such a mind fuck isn't it :D

Save irl when anyone was seeing a new bloke and saying what does this mean?! They'd get a different answer from each person

@NiceGerbil

Read update.

He wanted to check you got home safe.
He asked why you didn't.
He got in touch next day.

Sounds ok to me!

He wasn't worried enough to contact her though, was he?

The thing is people will say “oh I slept with someone first night and now we are married” but I reckon that’s rare, I would say there are far more men that ghost after or make it clear they just want to keep you on for sex, so definitely don’t chase!

Tell him you still respect him...

@Sunnyday321

Had sex with mine on first date we've been together 22 years.

Same here, still together 11 years on

I had sex with my DH on our first date, we've been married 35 years. I'd never had sex on a first date before, but it just felt natural. We married within a year. So you never know, if he's worth bothering with he will just be thrilled that you fancied him enough to sleep with him. If he judges you he's an arsehole and a hypocrite.

I slept with dh on our first date. Been together over 10 years.

If he really liked you and was the one he, he wouldn't be put off by having sex with you. It's not in your control now. He's keen or he's lost you, not the other way round.

Thanks for all the comments .
@Hopeishere good point bit of double standards

@LoopTheLoops Yes id def say there is far more that would ghost

Slept with DH on a first date and 8 years later we are still very happy

It just felt right

Life is too short

I don't get it when men judge a woman for having sex on a first date.... like dude, didn't you participate too?
Total double standards and would put me right off.

Whatever happens don’t for one minute beat yourself up. Live for the moment, you did and that’s great.

Have I nodded off and woken up in the last century? Sex isn’t something to offer or withhold as a strategy. If it felt right to have sex at that stage, it felt right. If he buggers off afterwards, as pp have said, you’ve not wasted more of your precious time on him.

Another first date sex here…20 years in December.

They either like you or they don’t or they’re twats. The rest is just noise.

If his brain is so small he would judge someone for joining him in consensual sex, would you really be interested?

I did the whole drunken "Come back to mine and watch a film, you can sleep on the sofa".

Are women still being judged for having sex on the first date? Women need/enjoy sex as much as men. I was a teenager in the 70s. It’s frankly depressing that this is still an issue!