Sex on 1st Date

[Essexgirl2021]

Had a 1st date yesterday with a lovely guy.He gave me flowers at the start of the date things were going well .I havent had sex for [amount of time edited out] and slept with him now i regret it and have ruined any chances of a second date .

if he was interested he would have showed more interest in text today

He'll probably be getting the exact same 'play it cool' nonsense women get.

Was the sex good? Would you like some more? If yes, book him in again for another go. The rest will work itself out, but it's madness to pass up a good thing based on the imagined judgement of nonexistent people.

He'll probably be getting the exact same 'play it cool' nonsense women get.

Doubt it! I don’t think men over analyse things half as much as women.

Oh dear, are you from the past? You know modern women can enjoy or even initiate sex when they want.

Doubt it! I don’t think men over analyse things half as much as women.

Speaking for my people- yes we do. We have the exact same conversations I see on here (apart from the feeling judged for having sex- that does not come up).

Yeh men don’t really worry if the woman will still like them after or still want to see them etc.

I think he sounded interested by asking why you didn't txt so why be so negative about him? I'm sorry but he hasn't really done anything wrong and now you've rushed into sex you're looking and over thinking all these things which wouldn't have happened otherwise. I'm not saying you shouldn't have had sex but you chose to so you can't start looking into things wrongly from his msging

@hopeishere

If he's they type of guy to dump you for having sex on a first date he's not worth dating.

I did this once and the guy made it clear he saw no long term future with someone who would do that despite him doing the same. Tosser.

That is just an excuse to get a shag without commitment!

@Sarahlou63

Tell him you still respect him...

Ha!

I shagged DH on the first day we met. Still here, us and our 8 month old.

@LoopTheLoops

The thing is people will say “oh I slept with someone first night and now we are married” but I reckon that’s rare, I would say there are far more men that ghost after or make it clear they just want to keep you on for sex, so definitely don’t chase!

Is it that rare? I don't know. I'm another sex in first date, together 10 so far and going great.

Lots of people my age (mid 30s) it's a pretty typical experience. Sure you have sex on first date and it doesn't work out lots but you also wait and it also doesn't work out. I'm not going to share numbers but I've been on more first dates with no sex that went no where then the other way around.

I’m another sex on first date. Together 13 years

Just to put some perspective ... I've never had sex on a first date but still had the whole dating drama and never found the one
Don't think it makes the slightest bit of difference
As long as you are safe and protect yourself ... enjoy life
I should have had more sex .. but didn't as I thought I was a " good girl " and men wouldn't respect me
Bollocks ... absolute crap

I know loads of people who slept together on the first date and have LTR now. It's not the 1970s

All my best, long term relationships ether started with sex on a first date, or sex before the date. If he is not into you after having sex then at least you have not wasted loads of time.

Still with my shag on first date after over a decade...

I married my 'sex on a first date' guy. We've been together 18 years and married for 9! Fuck that's a long time.

@Sunnyday321

Had sex with mine on first date we've been together 22 years.

40 here. We shagged like rabbits on our first date. He doesn’t sound like he’s checked out, if he has-his loss.

I agree with @66babe. I'm a bit the other way, hold off, bit shy, possibly verging on uptight. Get just as shafted! Don't beat yourself up, practise safe sex, have fun, I think you'd have to wait 6 months to really know if they were a player and that's not realistic!

@Crimeismymiddlename

All my best, long term relationships ether started with sex on a first date, or sex before the date. If he is not into you after having sex then at least you have not wasted loads of time.

How do you manage to have sex before a date??

You don’t ‘ruin’ anything by having sex when you want to. You’re just hearing the faint echoes of a very outdated and entirely misogynistic societal message.

Corona you meet them in s pub or club and shag them that night.

Then you exchange numbers or whatever and have your first date.

@MissTrip82

You don’t ‘ruin’ anything by having sex when you want to. You’re just hearing the faint echoes of a very outdated and entirely misogynistic societal message.

Thing is I think s fair few blokes think like that.

They're arseholes of course so the best thing to do is have sex ASAP and if they are interested after they're not arseholes, at least in that respect.

Saves time and effort and potentially more upset to find out if they're just after a shag asap.

Why do people have to be in such a hurry, with constant texts etc. after one date. , with or without sex.. Dating was never like this in my dating days.Everything was much simpler.

He had sex on the first date too...

@1forAll74

Why do people have to be in such a hurry, with constant texts etc. after one date. , with or without sex.. Dating was never like this in my dating days.Everything was much simpler.

Mine was too but mostly it was before mobile phones, social media etc.

It's just different. I think it's really difficult for everyone.