How often do men wash!?!

[woolyjumper21]

It’s really starting to bother me how often my partner has a shower! I have mentioned this to him a few times now but we are now on day 4 of him having no wash at all! I shower everyday however I realise a daily shower isn’t needed for everyone. But am I being unreasonable to think he should be washing at least every other day? All I can think about is that his body hasn’t been washed in 4 days and as much as I love him it’s really off putting. I haven’t even wanted to sit near him tonight. He seems to see it as a bit of a joke, or says “that’s boys for you!” He’s in his 40s by the way so he’s not a teenager! I would be interested to hear from men too as to how often they hit the shower! Thanks in advance.

DP and I both shower every day! Neither of us would ever go 4 days 🤢

Dh has shower every morning
When ds lived at home he had shower every morning and sometimes at night as well
What are his reasons for not washing? Does he brush his teeth regularly? Change his clothes?

We both shower daily.

All the relationships I’ve had, they’ve all showered daily or at least every other day.

I dated a guy once who I saw on a Thursday evening. He left mine Friday morning to see his parents for the weekend.
He came back to mine Sunday evening after getting off the train and we went straight to bed, where his smell stopped men in my tracks. That was the end of that.

My partner showers once a day, sometimes twice if he goes to the gym in the evening or gets dirty at work.
Your partner seems to see it as more of a joke, it’s disrespectful if he is stinking. As long as no health/mental health issues I think your expectation of washing every other day is reasonable.

My husband has been like this recently. I have a shower every other day. I often have to remind him to shower when it's been 3 or 4 days. I remind him to brush his teeth most mornings as well. He seems to care less now that he didn't go into the office, although he was never an every day shower person.

LTB
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Well I had a shower in January...

No everyday.

Men? Or people? Nearly half the population is male so they’re won’t be one answer.

Dh showers or bathes daily. My ex did weekly, at the time we split up. Found out from his more recent ex that he'd go months 🤢

My Dp has a shower every Am, sometimes at night too.
He washes face everynight too

Not another one of these disgusting men...

You really don't need our input, op, you already know he's a pig and that this is not normal. It's vile and you shouldn't tolerate it.

Get rid of him.

Eeeeeew!

Every day.

Our teen and I shower every day and my dh I'll say 5 days out of 7. He shaves daily and smells lovely.
4 days without a shower it's just awful. I can't imagine having sex with him.

DH showers everyday. He does a particularly stinky job. Unfortunately, he works with people (mostly men) who do not wash every day, who clearly do not wash their clothing everyday and even one who he really hopes has five pairs of identical underpants. Grim.

He’s a pig and it’s nothing to do with being a man

Same as women - it depends on the individual.

Oh, and it is possible to wash without having a shower.

My partner hasn’t been furloughed or been home working, he’s been working all the way through so I can’t even use that as a possible explanation. He works outside so I’m sure no one at work would really notice him smelling and I guess they don’t get as close to him as I do. He doesn’t smell horrendous right now but he has that slightly unwashed smell when he’s close to me. And it’s the fact I’m very aware he hasn’t washed in 4 days, I just think it’s a bit grim. I really don’t want to keep having to prompt him because then it’s just me being a nag. I have said to him when he gets to 3/4 days that’s too long. Sometimes he will be on the ball but it’s way too many times now that he has gone this long. I’m fed up of saying something. He gets up early so has his showers at night. And he will say in the evening he’s off for a shower soon. But then he gets comfy and basically can’t be arsed and just doesn’t have one. Surely it’s basics to shower more than twice a week especially when he’s been at work all day doing a manual job. It’s really getting me down now but can I really leave someone for not showering as much as I want them to?!

At least once a day, sometimes more if gym/going out etc

@ChocOrange1 does it bother you?

Dh bathes every day

Shower daily.
If I’ve been out on either bike, will probably hit the shower again as I know I can sweat a bit, would also shower before going out for the evening/ date, ex used to comment I had more toiletries then she did

@BackforGood if he just had a wash in between showers that would be okay. But it’s a shower or nothing and so far this week he’s had one shower. I know everyone’s different but I feel 4 days is too long for anyone? Unless theres a reason, like a medical condition or your not feeling well.

[quote woolyjumper21]@ChocOrange1 does it bother you?[/quote]
Not particularly. I feel like it should bother me, but he doesn't do a manual job and I don't think he smells bad. Maybe I have low standards.

The tooth brushing thing annoys me, however, as I think that's just good sense.

@JustAnotherOldMan I wish my partner had your mindset!