How often do men wash!?!

[woolyjumper21]

It’s really starting to bother me how often my partner has a shower! I have mentioned this to him a few times now but we are now on day 4 of him having no wash at all! I shower everyday however I realise a daily shower isn’t needed for everyone. But am I being unreasonable to think he should be washing at least every other day? All I can think about is that his body hasn’t been washed in 4 days and as much as I love him it’s really off putting. I haven’t even wanted to sit near him tonight. He seems to see it as a bit of a joke, or says “that’s boys for you!” He’s in his 40s by the way so he’s not a teenager! I would be interested to hear from men too as to how often they hit the shower! Thanks in advance.

That is disgusting OP I wouldn''t be able to go near him. I would expect a partner to have a shower daily like I do and do teeth twice a day.

I've lived with a stinker and was quite frank about it, he actively chose to stink. Didn't care what people at work thought. I literally cannot understand why some people are like this. Our relationship ended because of it.

Everyone unless they lack access to hot water should shower or bath daily.

@newnortherner111 I don't have much hot water as half the time I can't work out how to use the emersion heater or can't be arsed, but I still had a bath every day, even through the winter.

I put all my soap on and scrub before I jump in, so I only have to go in and out really.

@Shehasadiamondinthesky did you’re relationship coming to an end not shock him into doing anything about it

Well I haven't had a bath since 2016 but I do have a shower at least once a day, often twice if I am doing a strenuous exercise class and no way in hell would I entertain a guy who didn't do the same. It's skanky!

@Marineboy67

I shave my head and face once a day after a shower. However the crown jewels & nipsy will regularly go for a splash in the sink before and after. Its important for your own self respect and towards your partner to be fresh and clean.

Before and after what? Doing the deed, or going to the loo? Or both?

You said 'men' but not man, so the question attributes to us all. Yes we bathe and shower, we even invented the system and install the plumbing for it. How can you say it maybe it's only your man lol

@woolyjumper21 You said 'men' but not man, so the question attributes to us all. Yes we bathe and shower, we even invented the system and install the plumbing for it. How can you say it maybe it's only your man lol

You do know men are individuals, don’t you?

DH and I shower twice a day. Once on getting up and once before going to bed. I couldn’t stand being around anyone with poor personal hygiene..yuck!

DP and I shower most days & have a proper strip wash if we are not showering. Teeth twice a day every day.

I couldn’t bear to be with someone smelly.

Why on earth are you with this stinking, disrespectful male? Do you not value yourself? There are billions of men, there’s no need to put up with this shit. Stop tiptoeing around him, handwringing over whether you should hint at him maybe washing his filth, questioning yourself,etc. Ridiculous. Aim higher in life.

I sometimes need to advise DH that he stinks like a dog. If my eyes are watering, I know it's been a while 🤣😍

I am so sorry to hear about your problem and admit that I would be furious. Hygiene is very important to me and I would not be able to be with someone who does not shower regularly. My husband showers every night and I shower at night and in the morning too. I suggest you talk to him openly OP.

The irony with my stinky ex is that he often referred to people he looked down on (that was a long list) as the great unwashed.

For those of you who have a “sink wash” is it not quicker and more convenient just to hop into a shower?

I would say that this shows his lack of respect for you, the fact that he is happy to not shower and doesn't care about his body odours and leaving them around the house (particularly, in your bed...).

You shouldn't have to remind a grown man to shower - he should have enough respect for himself that he doesn't smell like unwashed man crotch.

I spent nearly a week in a rainforest hide many moons ago and I STANK, despite using wet wipes. There were no washing facilities, just a chemical toilet. I made myself feel sick and I am particular about hygiene. I would never, ever inflict that on myself again, let alone a partner.

Hubby has two strip washes (on waking and before bed) and a shower when he gets home from work.

On weekends he has a shower on waking and a strip wash at bedtime.

OP this is quite simple.

The 'honeymoon' period is over - he now thinks he has to make no effort to keep you with him.

Tell him he's wrong. Leave if there's no improvement.

You can end a relationship for any reason. You don't need permission.

Daily. You don't have to have sex with a skank. Or even live with one.

Eeeeeew! 4 days! That’s grim.

Every man I’ve ever dated always showered at least once per day and often twice.

My ex DH was like this! It's disgusting especially when they accuse you of not wanting them anymore. I wonder why? Who wants to have sex with a person that smells likes a swamp

Look, wooly, this man will not change. He's a minger. You have to decide if you're willing to live with this or not because this is who he is. All the hinting and what have you is not going to work. He doesn't care what you think. So you decide. Personally, I have high standards and kipper cocks would be dumped but some people are fine living with a stinker.

Haha 🤣 kipper cocks

DH showers every day - twice if he's been exercising or gardening, etc. DS (who's 12) is a soap dodger but will shower when reminded.

My BIL showers rarely, is often in unwashed clothes and is stinky. He lives alone. Can't think why.