How often do men wash!?!

[woolyjumper21]

It’s really starting to bother me how often my partner has a shower! I have mentioned this to him a few times now but we are now on day 4 of him having no wash at all! I shower everyday however I realise a daily shower isn’t needed for everyone. But am I being unreasonable to think he should be washing at least every other day? All I can think about is that his body hasn’t been washed in 4 days and as much as I love him it’s really off putting. I haven’t even wanted to sit near him tonight. He seems to see it as a bit of a joke, or says “that’s boys for you!” He’s in his 40s by the way so he’s not a teenager! I would be interested to hear from men too as to how often they hit the shower! Thanks in advance.

@cheeseychovolate it’s just such lack of effort on their part. He always says how he loves my hair so I’m pretty sure if I let my hair go all greasy and unwashed he would comment.

@LST I’m not sure. He still has the motivation to do other things. He goes to work 5 days a week. Walks the dog. The dog gets bathed more than him though 😂

It’s very disrespectful to you.

Once a month, whether they need it or not!

My dp has a shower each morning and also a bath each night. He does have a job where he gets quite dirty though

Shower in the morning and bath or shower at night .

That's really grim, unless there's a reason for it like depression .

DH showers every morning and has a bath/ shower most nights before bed. I couldn't get into bed with someone who hasn't washed all day 🤢

Even my 11 year old DS showers once a day.

@LST

Could he be depressed OP?

That was my second thought. First thought was ltb but once I had time to consider, on reflection OP I would question gently whether there is more to this.

Both of us shower every day, occasionally may miss the odd day, but have the old 'bits and pits' if we do miss. Couldn't be doing with 3/4 days

Shower everyday. Very rarely a day might be skipped. Summer heatwave it will be twice a day - just to cool down before bed.
Teenage daughters both shower everyday too - occasionally slides at the weekend!

@Changechangychange

DH has 2 baths a day, or sometimes 3 now he is wfh. He just really likes baths.

This is too far the other way. Terrible for the environment.

@ChocOrange1

My husband has been like this recently. I have a shower every other day. I often have to remind him to shower when it's been 3 or 4 days. I remind him to brush his teeth most mornings as well. He seems to care less now that he didn't go into the office, although he was never an every day shower person.

...you have to remind your husband... an adult man, to brush his teeth?!

That is grim. DH showers twice a day, after work then after the gym.

Eek, 4 days...!! My husband showers every day, once at least.

I’m an every other day person and after exercise.

However showers twice a day is a bit excessive for the environment surely? A household of 5 would be 10 showers a day, 3,650 a year!

Vile

You get a wash every day.

It's basic..

If your single it's your choice but if you are seeing people well a wash is a basic requirement

Raise your standards.

Tell him to sort it out now or he needs to be binned off.

If he can't be arsed with basic hygiene well he's not gonna be buying you flowers is he.

That’s fucking disgusting. My Dh won’t leave the house in the morning unless he’s had a shower, so that could be once on a Saturday or Sunday. Through the week it’ll be at least twice a day when he has his shower in the morning and then after work when he gets home. On days when he’s got work and the gym he’ll shower in the morning, after work so he doesn’t go to the gym stinking of B.O (physical job), and then again after the gym. I’m aware that 3 showers a day sounds excessive but he’s literally only in there 2 minutes in the morning to wash his hair and a minute the other times to wipe himself down with a soapy flannel. I don’t know how you sit in the same room as your oh 🤢

I go three days, but I was raised in an era when once a week on a Sunday was the only family bath and we all took turns. I always strip wash morning and evening so I'm clean, it's just habits I can't break.

My husband will bathe or shower every day, sometimes twice, and although he's always offering to run me a bath he insists I'm one of the cleanest people he knows. I still can't bring myself to waste water by bathing every day.

Well my ex had a shower every day, except when he was having an affair and then upped it to two.

At least you can be fairly certain he's the faithful type.

That’s absolutely gross. All of the men I know well (husband, brother, father, BIL) shower every day.

It takes 20 minutes start to finish - what’s his reason for refusing?!

He just says he intended to have a shower but the night just went. I will sometimes say “are you going for your shower now?” if he’s said he would have one but is making no moves. I’m just not sure where to go from here now as I must have mentioned this about 4 times now, I have told him it’s not nice for me and that I shouldn’t have to remind him of basic hygiene but here we are again 4 days with no wash. Not even a sink wash.

The real question is why are you putting up with this? He knows you're grossed out and yet he still does nothing. He doesn't even care that you're repulsed by him. Life is too short for this level of disrespect.

I being unreasonable to think he should be washing at least every other day?

Yes!!

It should be every day. Day 4 of not washing? Throw him in the garden and hose him down!!

Dirty sod!

I shower every morning and almost every evening.

I find showering a chore too, but I still do it every day, usually twice a day. I feel grubby if I don’t. I wouldn’t stay five minutes with someone who didn’t shower daily.