How often do men wash!?!

[woolyjumper21]

It’s really starting to bother me how often my partner has a shower! I have mentioned this to him a few times now but we are now on day 4 of him having no wash at all! I shower everyday however I realise a daily shower isn’t needed for everyone. But am I being unreasonable to think he should be washing at least every other day? All I can think about is that his body hasn’t been washed in 4 days and as much as I love him it’s really off putting. I haven’t even wanted to sit near him tonight. He seems to see it as a bit of a joke, or says “that’s boys for you!” He’s in his 40s by the way so he’s not a teenager! I would be interested to hear from men too as to how often they hit the shower! Thanks in advance.

DP showers daily in the morning and before we are intimate of an evening if that’s the plan. I shower when I have time mornings or evenings so occasionally it’ll be 36hrs between. I also shower before sex.

DH has a bath every day. And washes and shaves every morning. I would find it utterly gross if he smelled stale. Couldn't put up with that for a few days never mind a lifetime.

Daily,

Might occasionally miss a day as we've a toddler that swallowed up time.

I'd still be brushing teeth and doing pits and downstairs.

I shower every other day, unless I've been doing something sweaty. I am sometimes lazy and leave it 3 days if I'm not feeling well.

What's more concerning, almost, is that he'd rather forego sex than bother to shower. Now THAT is unusual. I've had 4 co-habiting LTRs in my life, all with men, and I can't imagine any of those guys skipping sex for the sake of 5 mins effort in the shower!

I was going to suggest positive reinforcement by jumping on his dick when he's fresh out the shower. But if that won't work, I'd consider basically shaking him continually. Start addressing him as "tramp" or "stinker".

Morning tramp, did you sleep well in your lonely festering bed of bad hygiene?
Evening stinker, good day at work or did your colleagues all vomit once they caught a whiff of you?

*shaming not shaking!

Dp showers every night before bed...... In fact he kept me awake half the night because he'd got soap suds in his buttcrac which was apparently itchy but he was too lazy to get back in the shower and hose off. Living the dream here

DH showers every day.

My ex when we first met would shower and do his teeth regularly, as soon as we moved in he would go over a week without showering, changing clothes, and didn't even own a toothbrush. It was fucking disgusting. I stuck around for a while as I thought perhaps it was depression or something and he could be struggling, but if we had friends over or whatever he would happily shower with no issue. I asked him about it just before we split and he said he just didn't feel the need, in honesty I think that's disrespectful; he couldn't even he arsed to spend 5 minutes every few days or whatever in the shower so he didn't walk around stinking. Honestly being with someone now who smells fresh and does their teeth and doesn't smoke is world's better.

My husband has a bath or shower every night
In the morning he washes face under arms AT LEAST !!!
Brushes teeth morning and bedtime and often in between too

My DH showers daily. Twice if he has been exercising.

I think most people shower every day. Showers are quick and easy. No excuse at all. Your husband is lazy and stinky

My DH showers twice a day - for ages. Costs a fortune !

I definitely think a shower once daily is the norm for our generation.

Everyone unless they lack access to hot water should shower or bath daily.

FIL bathes once a week!!! On a Sunday! It’s gross. DH’s family don’t see it as a problem, but they are all soap dodgers a bit.

@newnortherner111

Everyone unless they lack access to hot water should shower or bath daily.

Not at all. That's your opinion. I wouldn't go over every other unless I was having a particularly bad time of it, but every other day is quite sufficient thank you

Bloody hell, this thread is an eye opener. How can anyone want to get frisky with someone who doesn’t shower at least everyday .Shocked how many of you say their partner goes two days without showering:/bathing .

My partner showers every day after work and every other day on days off.

I couldn't live with this. I was a grotty teenager and remember my mum nagging me to shower and telling me I was dirty - thankfully I grew out of it. I have no intention of being DHs mum! He showers every other day but washes every morning and night.

I honestly would be happy with him doing every other day. I shower daily but understand that’s my choice and not everyone does. Going regularly 3-4 days though, it’s a turn off!! I’m going to speak to him again today.

I think it’s confirmed to me by posting on here that I’m not being unreasonable to bring it up again.

I think the fact makes it a lot worse is his manual job. My dh has a manual job and showers twice a day, including weekends (that bit I think is a bit much). But my dh has no sense of smell so is a bit paranoid about it. Although for unknown reasons he refuses to wear deodorant!

We both shower every single day, in the morning and at night. I'll have a bath occasionally but mostly shower. He must stink!

It’s not a ‘man thing’. My DH showers/bathes more often than I do (I do it once a day).

My DH showers every day, sometimes twice if he feels sweaty. He had Covid in January and still hasn't got his sense of smell back so he's constantly asking me to sniff him as he is paranoid he might smell sweaty and not realise it! 😀

I work with a guy at work who stinks! He rarely showers and doesn't brush his teeth either. How his wife sleeps with him Is beyond me. I had to have him in my car yesterday for a short while and I had to open the sunroof to get some air in. It was raining a bit as well so he must have realised. He has been given warnings at work to sort himself out but to no avail. Just gross ( and I'm going to refuse to have him in my car again).