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Partner used to use escorts...

199 replies

iwanteggfriedricefuckingpronto · 21/03/2021 00:18

Deal breaker for you or not....

OP posts:
steadyasugo · 23/03/2021 11:59

I cant say that there is anything wrong in seeing escorts

youvegottenminuteslynn · 23/03/2021 12:05

@steadyasugo

I cant say that there is anything wrong in seeing escorts
Even having read the thoughts of posters on this thread re the fact there's no way a man can no whether or not a sex worker is an abused / trafficked / coerced / threatened /addicted woman?
MarshmallowAra · 23/03/2021 12:13

Even having read the thoughts of posters on this thread re the fact there's no way a man can no whether or not a sex worker is an abused / trafficked / coerced / threatened /addicted woman?

It's not even thoughts ... Read some UK punting reviews. The men mention some if the prostitutes being high/off their face .. they mention the smell of food etc. They mention they speak little or no English, they mention their pimps being involved in arrangements.
They refer to the "typical Rom attitude" (Romanian) by which they mean jaded, reluctant, surly even, trying to minimise their services etc. They refer to it being obvious with some women they are forcing themselves to tolerate it.

MarshmallowAra · 23/03/2021 12:13

*smell of dope, not food!

MarshmallowAra · 23/03/2021 12:25

Here's a lovely example;

"Firstly she kept me waiting outside her place for 40 mins in 33+ degree heat. No one came in or out - she was just toking up and watching the telly. When she finally let me in the place was a fucking tip and stank of dope. She also stank of dope and her outfit was filthy. The bed was ridiculously low, had no covers and had just a single grey filthy sheet - you can see it in the gallery pic entitled "playing with my pussy xxxxx", she clearly never changes it. She was sullen, uncommunicative and didn't offer anything in the way of small talk. She also didn't offer a drink (33 degrees FFS) or a shower (I was sweating like a rapist by now). I went in for a shower anyway and guess what? The shower didn't work.

Nicole herself was completely emaciated, which is a shame 'cos she used to be curvy (Update: Veritas a recent reviewer, says that she's back up to a size 12 again as at Dec '17). I repeated my requirements which I had first set out over the phone the previous day: Prolonged DT and gagging, anal. "I don't do anal. Never have. I can't see why people keep asking" sez she. "Because it's in your likes list and on your profile" I respond. She then had a bit of a moan about "Guys always wanting DT. Some of them just want to throat fuck me for the whole session". I pointed out that she advertises herself as a DT specialist and submissive - so what can she expect. I should have sacked it there and then but I'd dragged my sorry arse all the way to Reading and waited 40 minutes for the bloody woman, so I pressed on - big mistake. More sullen silence. Eventually, I get her on her knees to start the blowie. She seems really disengaged and there's way more hand action, sucking of the head but nothing else, coming up for air than I ever remember from before. I try a different tack and ask her to lie with her head over the edge of the bed and she uses the "Can't fit my head over the bed" excuse with me too (this excuse has been reported by previous reviewers). I kept going the with BJ (such as it was). I was pushing quite hard down her throat and getting to my special place but she was so toothy that she drew blood :scare: At this point she realised that she was really pissing me off, so she got a little bit more engaging (by her own low standards) but at the sight of my own claret dribbling down my knob, I'd lost all desire to continue.

I had to go to Dean St Express in LDN for HIV test (which to my relief was -ve but she's such a skank that I was genuinely concerned) - great service at DSE but shouldn't have had to go there in the first place. Subsequently I also noticed a rash on my foreskin which a dermatologist told me was capilliary damage, which isn't serious but is unsightly and has caused 2 Prossies since to insist upon OW 'cos they thought it was herpes.

To sum up: She's sullen, her place is a fucking tip and the shower doesn't work, she is a dope user and stinks of dope, she doesn't change her sheets, she advertises stuff she won't do, she drew blood with her teeth and permanently disfigured my knob.

AVOID AVOID AVOID"

Seating like a rapist ... Oh the irony.

MarshmallowAra · 23/03/2021 12:26

Btw DT stands for Deep Throat.

MarshmallowAra · 23/03/2021 12:33

This is not the worst I've read on there incidentally.

youvegottenminuteslynn · 23/03/2021 12:33

@MarshmallowAra

Even having read the thoughts of posters on this thread re the fact there's no way a man can no whether or not a sex worker is an abused / trafficked / coerced / threatened /addicted woman?

It's not even thoughts ... Read some UK punting reviews. The men mention some if the prostitutes being high/off their face .. they mention the smell of food etc. They mention they speak little or no English, they mention their pimps being involved in arrangements.
They refer to the "typical Rom attitude" (Romanian) by which they mean jaded, reluctant, surly even, trying to minimise their services etc. They refer to it being obvious with some women they are forcing themselves to tolerate it.

It's horrifying isn't it, especially hearing women saying they can't see the problem. A punter can never, ever know that a sex worker isn't abused / trafficked / addicted / threatened / coerced etc. So worst case (and most likely case) he doesn't give a shit if she is and best case he's willing to run the risk.

Punters are vile. They hate women. As evidenced by the sort of reviews you just gave as an example. I could cry that society still thinks so little of women, especially that there is such a lack of giving a fuck about vulnerable women.

How anyone, male or female, can read stuff like that and defend men who use sex workers is utterly beyond me.

If that punter read the same type of review about his daughter if she decided to be a sex worker the sad truth is, he would think the men reviewing his daughter were disgusting because he would categorise her as being a victim. But he'd still visit sex workers he felt 'deserve' the kind of treatment he describes in that post.

Again, punters hate women.

MarshmallowAra · 23/03/2021 12:39

Again, punters hate women.

From reading the reviews, I'd say some do .. but my overall impression is actually that they see women as live sex dolls.

fantasmasgoria1 · 23/03/2021 12:42

It is a deal breaker. If my Fiance had told me at the start of our relationship that he had used escorts I would totally have ended things. We have been together over 4 years now and if it came out now I would still want to ends things but it would be difficult due the the emotional investment and love involved. I absolutely deplore it, men using women for gratification etc. I have to say that my Fiance has never used escorts and never would

MarshmallowAra · 23/03/2021 12:45

As an aside I think when some people, including many men users, think.about "escorts" they picture independant (no pimp) English speaking women working entirely voluntarily (as an employment/life choice), out of comfortable flats or hotel rooms; but the overall picture; what is common/standard .... is not that.

folloyourarro · 23/03/2021 12:48

@MarshmallowAra I think we can thank Pretty Woman for that...

youvegottenminuteslynn · 23/03/2021 13:11

@MarshmallowAra

Again, punters hate women.

From reading the reviews, I'd say some do .. but my overall impression is actually that they see women as live sex dolls.

I guess I see that as a form of hate. They hate women not fulfilling that role of an inanimate object to be used how a man wants - they hate women for daring to say no, having boundaries, being a whole person and not just for male satisfaction.

And such rage (as evidenced by the one you shared) when a woman makes it clear she is a thinking, feeling human. That's hateful, to me.

MarshmallowAra · 23/03/2021 13:26

[quote folloyourarro]@MarshmallowAra I think we can thank Pretty Woman for that...[/quote]
Yeah it's actually a really irresponsible film to show women under .... I dunno what age 😣.

MarshmallowAra · 23/03/2021 13:29

And apparently the real screenplay/film.ending was Vivian back on the streets .. and their relationship dissolved .. but was too unpopular during tests so they changed it.

I always wondered how Edward was supposed to continue in US or even international.high society with a partner, presumably later wife & possibly mother to his children who everyone would likely know through his nasty, bitter ex business partner was an ex street prostitute.

Was he going to exit that society (?)

MarshmallowAra · 23/03/2021 13:31

*I guess I see that as a form of hate. They hate women not fulfilling that role of an inanimate object to be used how a man wants - they hate women for daring to say no, having boundaries, being a whole person and not just for male satisfaction.

And such rage (as evidenced by the one you shared) when a woman makes it clear she is a thinking, feeling human. That's hateful, to me.*

I had a feeling you were going to say the total objectification is close to hate/can easily lead to hate, and I've got to agree with you.

MarshmallowAra · 23/03/2021 13:40

What I'd say from the punting reviews that aren't quite as bad as the one above - is that (if not hate) there is a total indifference to the circumstances of the prostitutes .. there are signs they may not be entirely voluntary in their "employment" ; eg sullenness, disengagement, clock watching, trying to get out of services advertised on their profile, aversion, the involvement of pimps in setup arrangements etc. And often there is poor English, in some cases no English for the punter to even be able to establish true consent (to that "punt" and in their general employment) ....
And they don't fkg care. They just batter on .. literally.

They just take the attitude "don't know, don't want to know, don't care" and continues reviewing them like live sex dolls - their bodies, their technique etc etc.

MarshmallowAra · 23/03/2021 13:44

That's why I wonder about the "decent, nice" men some posters on here have mentioned as prostitute users .... Did they really happen to book and use an English speaking, fluent, entirely independent, having access to welfare/social security resources, fully voluntary prostitute? That's not the majority of women being reviewed on UK punting.

Or were they among the apparent majority who didn't think about it and didn't care?

That makes them not decent no matter what their current or past partners on here say.

MarshmallowAra · 23/03/2021 13:50

Some people, men and women also think that if someone uses a prostitute in a legal brothel etc. Abroad that they must be free of coercion, abuse, addiction etc. That's been exposed as false repeatedly.

It is an industry saturated with trafficking, coercion, addiction, lack of alternative opportunities, gangs etc. .... Because there is simply a lack of women with true choices & opportunities who will entirely willingly choose to have sex with strangers for money. Especially given the dangers inherent that gave always been there, and now the increasing porn culture of degrading & uncomfortable sex acts.

MrsTerryPratchett · 23/03/2021 13:57

I find the 'don't care' attitude suspicious. One of the signs of worrying antisocial character traits is a lack of empathy, even towards animals. Not caring of women are repeatedly raped seems either a psychopathic level of lack of empathy or... they hate women. At the very least they hate women they include in their Madonna/whore complex.

katy1213 · 23/03/2021 13:57

Don't you mean 'partner used to use prostitutes?'

sleepyhead1980 · 23/03/2021 21:31

That review makes me feel sick, so many things wrong with it I wouldn't know where to begin 🤢

MarshmallowAra · 23/03/2021 22:22

@sleepyhead1980

That review makes me feel sick, so many things wrong with it I wouldn't know where to begin 🤢
I wish I could say it's the worst thing I've read on there; I saw one where the reviewer, annoyed that the prostitute was not doing things as he expected (he felt she was trying to fool him) and trying to make intercourse shallower (numerous punters mention techniques prostitutes use to try to do that), held her hands/arms down so she couldn't move while she was on her knees in front of him and had sex roughly until he climaxed.

Even some the other punters were warning him that that was not "kosher" and he shouldn't do it in case (even) a prostitute reported him to the police (that seems v unlikely to happen but ...).

Of course there were still some other punters saying "proper order".

But all the prostitute users who wrote the reviews have total objectification and indifference to the circumstances of the prostitutes in common in their reviews. And they have a real sweet/check box shop mentality too.

One said it was obvious to him that a particular young prostitute was off her face, almost disorientated but that having read all the reviews about her being able to do feel throat blow jobs and swallows without gagging or complaining he'd gone ahead and was glad to have ticked the "throat pie" check box.

Even when it's not as bad as that they discuss the prostitutes like they're vehicles or experiences or types of food.

MarshmallowAra · 23/03/2021 22:23

(sweet shop/check box)

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