Partner used to use escorts...

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Deal breaker for you or not....

@BusyLizzie61

Not, and I dated someone who did and has continued to do so after me.

It's a service. He paid for it. Ultimately, no different to paying for any "health" service, just that there's a stigma attached to it.

I didn't like the concept that there could be vulnerable women who were taken advantage of, but I'm not sure this was the case given these were deemed as high class, who claimed expenses etc, often travel the world etc with their clients. But I may have felt differently to say a kerb crawler prostitute user.

Disgusting comment . You need to educate yourself on why buying sex and women’s bodies is NOT a health service Wow just wow

Completely depends on the circumstances.

@LiJo2015 can you give an example of a circumstance that would be acceptable?

‘But I'd have more of an issue with those men who have had multiple ONS, often dozens, and think this is more of a negative character trait than the person paying. And certainly, more dangerous to sexual health.’

And I see that not only do you refer to certain sex workers ad kerb crawlers . You clearly think that some types of sex workers are ok and some not .
What a horrible horrible ignorant attitude
To classify certain sex workers as good and certain ones as bad or women who have ONS as dirty . No feminist are you .
EX WORKERS are NOT THE ISDUE . There are many many reasons women are driven to this work and guess what ? Most of those reasons are not because they have the same opportunities as most men or advantages to earn good income and just decide ‘ nah I’d rather fuck gross men for money instead of earn the same on another job that’s available to me ‘
The issue is the FILTHY JOHNS who think consent can be bought and are happy to pay a woman to have sex with them . A woman who wouldnt touch them with a barge pole if it wernt for him exploiting the fact he has money she doesn’t have.
A health service - holy shit .

@changingnames786

Whether we like it or not - some women (and men) do choose to become sex workers. We know nothing about why OP partner used sex workers, but assuming him to be a misogynist or anything similar is completely wrong.

The sex industry is complex. To tar it all with the negatives is reductionist and completely unhelpful.

But I'd have more of an issue with those men who have had multiple ONS, often dozens, and think this is more of a negative character trait than the person paying. And certainly, more dangerous to sexual health.

You think having sex with lots of consenting women is a more negative character trait than paying for sex with women you can't possibly know aren't abused, trafficked, threatened, coerced etc?

It's the women involved in the scenarios that most other women are concerned about, not the man. I can't imagine thinking that having totally consensual sex with consenting women is somehow worse than paying for perceived consent with a woman when you cannot know if she is genuinely consenting.

Deal breaker. It demonstrates an attitude towards women and towards sexual consent that would repulse me.

Deal breaker.

@LiJo2015 how do punters differentiate between those who want to do it and those who are coerced, trafficked or doing it completely reluctantly but out of necessity?

Really??? That's one of the craziest things I've ever heard.

@Countingthebeat

‘But I'd have more of an issue with those men who have had multiple ONS, often dozens, and think this is more of a negative character trait than the person paying. And certainly, more dangerous to sexual health.’

And I see that not only do you refer to certain sex workers ad kerb crawlers . You clearly think that some types of sex workers are ok and some not .
What a horrible horrible ignorant attitude
To classify certain sex workers as good and certain ones as bad or women who have ONS as dirty . No feminist are you .
EX WORKERS are NOT THE ISDUE . There are many many reasons women are driven to this work and guess what ? Most of those reasons are not because they have the same opportunities as most men or advantages to earn good income and just decide ‘ nah I’d rather fuck gross men for money instead of earn the same on another job that’s available to me ‘
The issue is the FILTHY JOHNS who think consent can be bought and are happy to pay a woman to have sex with them . A woman who wouldnt touch them with a barge pole if it wernt for him exploiting the fact he has money she doesn’t have.
A health service - holy shit .

If a man had multiple ONS, regardless of whom with, my opinion of them is low.

Why exactly is that wrong?

@BusyLizzie61

You didn't just say you'd have an issue with someone who had multiple ONS.

You said you'd have more of an issue with someone who had multiple ONS than with someone who pays for sex with women when they can't know anything for sure about the welfare of that woman.

I'm not sure why you don't understand people find that a pretty shocking point of view?

God id much rather be with a man that had had multiple consensual ONS than one that had paid for a prostiture. Aside from all the other valid point raise I just feel like men that do it are such losers. I appreciate disability is a separate issue but any able-bodied man that gets sex by paying for it is either a massive loser or has a terrible attitude towards women and is grossly unattractive to them and therefore is not someone I'd be interested in.

[quote changingnames786]@LiJo2015 how do punters differentiate between those who want to do it and those who are coerced, trafficked or doing it completely reluctantly but out of necessity?[/quote]
I would think the women who want to do it advertise themselves privately or use an agency, maybe more than one agency, and have specific requirements.

@jessstan2 you think? Can you guarantee that? Does that filter out those who are doing it reluctantly for financial reasons but feel they have no choice? Can that ever truly be consent?

Once an escort user, always an escort user.

@jessstan2 also, that still wouldn't filter out potential domestic coercion like from a partner?

I haven't read your other threads, but by the sound of it he has been, well, raping women who are desperate for a fix, and lining his dealer's pockets in the process. I think you can judge a man by the company he keeps, and this is pretty disgusting. To be clear, I am referring to the misogynist male "friend", not the strung-out young women he is pimping.

I do understand that it is difficult to leave an abuser though- do you have any support in real life?

@RLEOM

Once an escort user, always an escort user.

I am not sure that statement can be qualified.

Depends on the circumstances - just like most aspects of life escorts are not a homogeneous group. I have an old acquaintance that was an escort (now retired v early on her wealth) that's not the same as a drug addict

@jessstan2

I would think the women who want to do it advertise themselves privately or use an agency, maybe more than one agency, and have specific requirements.

But a punter can't know if that's the case can they? But they're willing to run the risk the woman is abused / trafficked / coerced / threatened etc. They're willing to risk that being the case to pay to fuck someone. Can you see how that is the issue? Some sex workers are perfectly happy and content doing their job. Many aren't. A punter can't ever genuinely know which of those categories a sex worker is in. But they're willing to risk it to pay to fuck someone. I don't judge sex workers. I judge men who pay to have sex with them.

Do you think many punters would want their partner or daughter to be a sex worker? Even if that punter says women are happy doing it and there's nothing inherently wrong with paying for consent? If not, why not? Entitlement to do what they want to women they don't know and have a different standard for women they do know.

@minniemoocher

Depends on the circumstances - just like most aspects of life escorts are not a homogeneous group. I have an old acquaintance that was an escort (now retired v early on her wealth) that's not the same as a drug addict

But her clients couldn't definitively know her reasons for being an escort - whether she was pressured or coerced behind the scenes, groomed to do it by someone older and / or abusive...

But those men were willing to run the risk she was in order to pay to have sex with her.

I don't judge her morally, I judge punters morally.

Actually even if the man absolutely COULD be sure the woman was making a totally free choice, with no history of anything but a financially stable, well adjusted upbringing so no drivers to choose to sell their body.

I’d still judge him and the at that point I’d actually also judge the sex “worker” for teaching other people than women’s bodies are for sale.

They aren’t.

youvegottenminuteslynn
They would surely know if they booked the escort from an advertisement. Some do work quite independently.

No I would not want a child of mine to do stuff like that but no child of mine would be so desperate for money as to contemplate it.

Deal beaker for me I find it completely grim.