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Feeling sad

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SissyLongStockings · 13/06/2020 02:12

Hi all.
Just needed a handhold really. Going through the stages of being heartbroken and on my own.
Always wake up this time of night missing him. Then cant get back to sleep.
I get that horrible wave of sadness and gut churnning knowing I will never see him again.
When will it end?

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Knucklehead101 · 13/06/2020 02:20

I'm going through a breakup now too so big handhold and Flowers. This is always the worst time. Try to remember we've made it through 100% of the other bad things that have happened to us. You're doing brilliantly and we will do this x

Mermaidwaves · 13/06/2020 09:15

I'm there too, FWB ended it with me on Tuesday as he's met someone he wants a relationship with. I woke up at 4am this morning as I dreamt about him, crying. I just feel this horrible stomache churning panic when I think about never seeing him again and him with his new girl. Why her and not me? Flowers for all those going through this pain.

Knucklehead101 · 13/06/2020 10:48

How are you both feeling this morning?

OhioOhioOhio · 13/06/2020 10:50

Omg this reminds me why I'm single.

peakygal · 13/06/2020 10:55

Im going through something similar but in a friendship way. We were extremely close for 3 and a half years, spoke every single day, been through so much together and then this lockdown completely broke us coz we weren't able to see eachother and we constantly argued. I miss him so much. I can't sleep or nothing. Hope you're doing ok x

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SissyLongStockings · 13/06/2020 11:30

Morning everyone.
Im at that stage where I think im going to get him back. Doll myself up after no contact. Show him what hes missing. All of that caper. I know it wont work. But its nice to have that fantasy i guess

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SissyLongStockings · 13/06/2020 11:30

Makes a change from feeling broken

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peakygal · 13/06/2020 11:42

For me the hardest part is to not send a message or to even get one back when it was very day for over 3 years. Its hard to try act like strangers x

namechangedforthis123456 · 13/06/2020 11:46

I'm in the same boat. It's awful. Handholds to all of you. Thanks

namechangedforthis123456 · 13/06/2020 11:47

I think I'm going to stay single. I can't do this.

Knucklehead101 · 13/06/2020 12:18

I cant stop crying what on earth is the matter with me? He isnt even a great loss

namechangedforthis123456 · 13/06/2020 13:14

What's the situation @Knucklehead101 ? Would it help to talk about it?
I've been strung along for the last 3 months by someone who I also happen to work with! Making it very difficult..... I've fallen for him. He just wanted sex.. which I was ok with for a while, but I told him how I felt and he told me he does not want a relationship (at least not with me). He has definitely carrot dangled a good few times, particularly if he thought I was losing interest. We talk every day.

He still wants to sext. It hurts too much. I don't know why I'm not good enough.
It's making me want to leave my job. Can't motivate myself today.

Knucklehead101 · 13/06/2020 13:22

That's a horrible situation @namechangedforthis123456. My 'boyfriend' of two and a half years dumped me by text last night. I told him something he did upset me on Thursday (very calmly just said you did and it made me feel sad) and he dumped me by text last night. It was a LDR but I feel so sick and sad even though I know its absolutely for the best. I have blocked him mainly so I cant contact him in a moment of weakness or send him horrible messages..

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SissyLongStockings · 13/06/2020 13:40

Ive done that knucklehead. Text him, begged him, blocked and unblocked-everything. He has a different number now I think but im not sure. He doesnt use whatsapp as much as he did so im guessing he has a new number and different whatsapp account. Sometime I get so angry that I hate him. Only I dont. I love him.

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SissyLongStockings · 13/06/2020 13:42

Its been 15 days and it feels like a lifetimeFlowers

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Knucklehead101 · 13/06/2020 14:02

Sissy oh God I really feel for you. Where is our self respect?

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SissyLongStockings · 13/06/2020 14:33

Mine went out of the window when i fell on my knees pleading with him.
Fill so stupid now.
Must have looked so desperate.
I was. I didnt even see it coming.

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SissyLongStockings · 13/06/2020 14:36

Im sorry your going through this knucklehead. Its horrible isnt it? My heart goes out to you. Sending big hugs wherever you are Flowers

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Patch23042 · 13/06/2020 14:37

It’s a bloody horrible feeling.

Why did he end it Sissy?

Knucklehead101 · 13/06/2020 15:21

I'm in Asda car park bawling my eyes out because I always messaged him after Asda for some reason. How pathetic am I?

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SissyLongStockings · 13/06/2020 15:29

Knucklehead im here are you ok?

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SissyLongStockings · 13/06/2020 15:30

Your not pathetic. Your in shock. It will be alright. We will get through it. I ride through each bit of pain and think im getting a little bit closer to getting over him.

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SissyLongStockings · 13/06/2020 15:34

Hi Patch23042
He ended it because his DC from his previous relationship wasnt coping very well. He needed to be there for them. I understand it of course but it still hurts.

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Babypiggy · 13/06/2020 15:39

Can I join this pls? Also trying to get over someone and ive beenthere done the block and unblock and all the rest.

Knucklehead101 · 13/06/2020 15:48

Of course you can join. Thank you sissy I'm feeling shite hope you are feeling better x