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Feeling sad

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SissyLongStockings · 13/06/2020 02:12

Hi all.
Just needed a handhold really. Going through the stages of being heartbroken and on my own.
Always wake up this time of night missing him. Then cant get back to sleep.
I get that horrible wave of sadness and gut churnning knowing I will never see him again.
When will it end?

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SissyLongStockings · 13/06/2020 15:49

Yes of course Babypiggy. Are you in the same boat?

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SissyLongStockings · 13/06/2020 15:56

Hey knucklehead im ok it comes and goes. Are you alright?

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rainbowandbungle · 13/06/2020 15:57

Sending you hugs. Been there, done that. Awful isn't it.

I was heartbroken about 5 years ago and thought I'd never get over it but I did. It's a cliche but time is a great healer. I walked past him in the street recently and felt absolutely nothing and wouldn't have him back.

namechangedforthis123456 · 13/06/2020 16:01

I'm sorry you're upset @Knucklehead101

I text mine this afternoon. Just a newspaper article. He replied. Ugh. I can't break away.

RantyAnty · 13/06/2020 16:08

I hope I can join in.

It's midnight, and for the 4th night in a row been woke up by a dream of him cheating on me in the next room. 😔

Mermaidwaves · 13/06/2020 16:16

I've just messaged mine in a moment of weakness, asking him if he wants to come over. I know he will ignore it which will make me feel worse! Why did I do it! Im gonna sit now staring at whatsapp for a reply.

Babypiggy · 13/06/2020 16:26

I just hate myself for lack of self respect. In 24 hours no contact now and i need to keep it up. Its sad cos in my head i am hoping he will message

Babypiggy · 13/06/2020 16:27

Rainbowandbungle how heartbroken were you? I cant imagine seeing my ex abd feeling nothing

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SissyLongStockings · 13/06/2020 16:28

Mermaidwaves ive done that not for the last 15 days but did it before. Always checking his last seen. Havent got the heart to block him.

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Babypiggy · 13/06/2020 16:32

Sissy why dont u take off your last seen and then you cant see his

rainbowandbungle · 13/06/2020 16:33

I was quite heartbroken. I remember feeling hurt all day for a long time. I got upset about it again (about a year later) when I realised he had been in touch with someone else while we were dating. I don't know if he cheated.

Knucklehead101 · 13/06/2020 16:33

I'm burning his photos and a tshirt in the garden and toasting marshmallows on it. I'm still gutted though. My first reaction was "ooh must tell S about this"

emmetgirl · 13/06/2020 16:37

Honestly, I know it's really horrible and the most terrible feeling but it DEFINITELY WILL GET BETTER.

In November 2016 I had my heart torn out and stamped on. I was utterly devastated and the pain was terrible. I'll be honest, it took almost a year to feel completely better and over him. Now? I look back and wish that relationship had ended 5 years sooner.
It's horrible but sadly the old saying that time is a great healer is true xxx

Babypiggy · 13/06/2020 16:39

Emmet do you mind me asking how old you are please? I am really feeling so bloody lost

Mermaidwaves · 13/06/2020 16:42

sissy I cant block him either! I just couldnt resist sending it, I know he will read and ignore, hes not been online yet so hasnt seen it. I just cant let go, he doesnt want me but I can still smell him, hear him. Its like a horrible addiction, this awful longing for him. I hate myself for feeling like his and Ive never felt this way before, its actually quite scary.

Mermaidwaves · 13/06/2020 16:58

And hes now seen my message and ignored it, like I knew he would. Its like Im asking for him to hurt me, I feel I have no self respect at all, hating myself right now.

Knucklehead101 · 13/06/2020 17:05

Well I've just messaged him too. Wow that lasted not even 24 hours. Pathetic.

Knucklehead101 · 13/06/2020 17:12

Sorry @RantyAnty of course you can join in but I'm sorry that you need to Flowers

namechangedforthis123456 · 13/06/2020 17:28

I feel like I need closure and he will it give it to me.

namechangedforthis123456 · 13/06/2020 17:28

Will not*

Knucklehead101 · 13/06/2020 17:32

Me too. Literally last week he told me he loved me and we were planning this weekend and now our relationship is shit and hes dumping me. WTF?! How will I ever trust anyone again?

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SissyLongStockings · 13/06/2020 17:41

Ladies were in bits right now. Im tempted to go out in to my garden and scream F**k you at the top of my lungs. I use to drive past his so I could just be near him for a few seconds. Sometimes its like I can still smell him. We are enough. More than enough. Were plenty. They were not enough for us. Lets get up off our knees ladies. Cry it out. Scream it out. Do what we need to do. But we got this. We can do it.

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Knucklehead101 · 13/06/2020 17:48

Thank you Sissy I just wish I could share your optimism. Sometimes I feel like this but then I just go back to feeling pathetic and heartbroken again

Mermaidwaves · 13/06/2020 18:02

I dreamt of him last night, his face and voice and woke up sobbing. Im the same I wanna scream and shout and tell him I would give him everything! Ive tried chatting to other men during our time together as he would only offer FWB but nobody comes close to him. And now hes met a girl he likes, after telling me he doesnt want a relationship. He just didnt want me! Im sorry to ramble folks but I need to let it all out!
knuckleheadits mad isnt it? Its like you just cant stop yourself messaging, in the vain hope...

Endless11 · 13/06/2020 18:20

Omg this reminds me why I'm single.

Me too Sad.

So sorry you are all going through this, it’s really horrible. I have been through an awful divorce and got over that - it does go away

Lockdown makes it harder to distract yourselves as well.

I am kind of interested in someone and I was going to suggest we meet in a park socially distanced, but this thread has reminded me of that horrible raw pain so don’t think I will now. Put myself in any kind of position where I end up devastated.

Hope you all feel better soon Flowers.