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Have I been a complete fool?

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Lovelost34 · 06/05/2020 08:03

2 years ago I met a guy who I instantly clicked with. We quickly became best friends. We’re both married.

Over the 2 years we got closer and I ended up confiding in him a lot about my marital problems.

He said a lot of stuff to me that made it sound like he had strong feelings. Told me he’d never been in love, etc. We had a couple of secret meetings. We text every other day and he phones me about every other week when he’s alone.

Then we had a chat yesterday and I asked him about home. He said that he wouldn’t say he’s happy in his marriage but he’s content.

Basically in my view he has hot meals, washing done, 100% access to his kids, regular sex.

I feel like such a fool. I fell for this man who is content at home.

My heart really really hurts.

How can I move forwards?

We are still best friends.

He possibly has no idea how I feel about him.

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MashedSpud · 10/05/2020 19:14

I’m pretty sure you’ve posted about this before.

You ask if you’ve been a fool? Yes, a deluded one.

I’m not sure why you continue to post. Maybe to type endlessly about him. You’re obsessed and he feels nothing more for you than friendship.

It’s embarrassing.

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FlaskMaster · 10/05/2020 19:37

ByGrabtharsHammer has it spot on.

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