My Boyfriend is angry I'm going on holiday without him

[Emilysr194]

My boyfriend is a pretty jealous and possessive person, he doesn't like men talking to me. I'm going away for 2 weeks to see my best friend (Female) who is away travelling. My gay best friend (Male) is going with me. Any time i mention the holiday he gets mad, refuses to talk about it, told me i am using all my holiday so i can't go away with him. I invited him along but he couldn't afford it.
Am I the bad guy here or is he being overly jealous? And what do I do?

he is being a first class knob.

I only had to read the first line. Run like the wind. This won't get better.

By the time he’s finished with you, you won’t be allowed any friends. End it now and have a lovely holiday.

Bin him. As other posters note, he will only get worse if you pander to him.

Please dump him!! You won't enjoy this trip as you'll be worrying about him back home. You'll spend all your time on the phone texting him to reassure him instead of enjoying the trip.

I know this because I had an arsehole ex like yours. It ruined a trip of a life time.

Why would you want to be in a relationship with a man who is that controlling? Dump him before your trip so you can actually go away and have fun.

Get rid.

End it. He’s trying to be a controlling arsehole who will only get worse through time.

This is controlling behaviour and will only get worse.

That's a him problem.

You've got two options here if you want to have a happy life.

Leave him.

Tell him he's being a twat and put him in his place.

He is being thoroughly ridiculous. End it before you have no friends and no control of your day to day life.

My boyfriend is a pretty jealous and possessive person,

Why is he your boyfriend? Sounds like a right prick.

Run. Fast.

The first line of your post has a couple of big red flags. I think he's showing his true colours, dump him before it gets worse would b my advice.

Go without him. Come home without him. Stay without him.... You will be happy without him....

is a pretty jealous and possessive person

Dump. Run. Block.

My boyfriend is a pretty jealous and possessive person, he doesn't like men talking to me

You can’t have a healthy relationship with someone like that. You can’t possibly want to live the rest of your life like that. He will get worse.

If it is a relatively non-serious relationship why would you bother taking it further? If it is serious and he tries to tell you that if you were married he would feel you have committed so would not be so jealous, do not believe him. You would be stepping into a world of coercive control.

His jealousy is his own problem to manage. Not your problem for you to change your plans.

LTB

My boyfriend is a pretty jealous and possessive person

The rest is irrelevant. Leave him now. You’ll never be happy until you do.

LTB

Run. Run like the wind.

Dump him, his controlling behaviour won’t get better.

And what do I do?

You dump him. It will only get worse.

What the hell are you doing with someone who is possessive and jealous? Get rid of the bf and go and enjoy your holiday. Don't be another statistic of DV down the line when he inevitably loses it and beats you to a pulp.

No,no,no! - never date a jealous, possessive person. They always stay that way whatever you do. You know he is this, so why be with him at all? It's a huge red flag

Things will get worse if you stay with a man like this.