My Boyfriend is angry I'm going on holiday without him

[Emilysr194]

My boyfriend is a pretty jealous and possessive person, he doesn't like men talking to me. I'm going away for 2 weeks to see my best friend (Female) who is away travelling. My gay best friend (Male) is going with me. Any time i mention the holiday he gets mad, refuses to talk about it, told me i am using all my holiday so i can't go away with him. I invited him along but he couldn't afford it.
Am I the bad guy here or is he being overly jealous? And what do I do?

I hope you're feeling better OP.
The unanimous MN feedback is YANBU & you're better off without him. But it's still not nice, in the moment, to be the 'dumpee'. But it is a great outcome, he just preempted you. Don't let him suck you back in.

Look for the Freedom Programme. It will help you be more assertive and maintain your boundaries.

Just make sure he actually goes , immediately.
He was expecting you would beg him to stay .

I really hope that he’s left the house and you’re strong enough to not let him back, realise you deserve much better treatment, and are able to keep that strength when he tries to come back apologetic (because he won’t mean it and it won’t last!)

Winning that he broke up with you, but did he give his keys back and take his stuff? That would be properly winning.

Make sure he physically leaves immediately, and change the locks.

Bet he hasn't moved out.
Just another manouvre to make you feel bad and beg him to stay.
Make him leave and change the locks.

Op, where are you

You're supposed to panic, apologise, crawl and beg and cancel your holiday.

Needless to say, don't.

It's hard I know, but every single one of the responses here have him pegged correctly.

Give him the shock of his life and tell him to leave you alone WHEN - and it will absolutely be when - he makes contact in a fury because you haven't been calling and begging him to reconsider.

Well got home and asked to speak. He broke up with me.

You're supposed to panic, apologise, crawl and beg and cancel your holiday.

Stay strong, Emily! He is a dickhead and he is expecting you to beg, but you recognised everything he said from the manipulator's playbook, so you KNOW he is an abuser and you KNOW to keep him the hell out of your life from now on.

OP hasn’t been back.

She knows what he is doing now. Next time she might have the strength to leave.

Dont let him ruin your holiday

Sadly I worry that she has shown him this thread (she mentioned showing him a screenshot about types of abusers), and either he's convinced her that we're all man-hating bitches who want to stop her having a boyfriend; or he's broken her phone.

Fuxake! You've only been seeing this dick for a few months - ditch him.

Sorry - just seen he's saved you that bother. Get him out, change the locks and enjoy your holiday as a free woman! Don't take him back.

I have been divorced for 5 years and have a son who has been studying in Montreal since August. I hadn't seen him since he left and I have just spent the most amazing holiday with him here in Canada.
The only problem is that my boyfriend (I don't live with him but we have been together for 5 years) seems really upset that I have been away without him. He hasn't said it directly but every time I ring him he seems cold, almost angry. Almost like he is jealous that I'm here with my son. He couldn't afford to come and had to stay with his daughters (who aren't very nice to me !) He never took any interest in my trip before I left, but he doesn't seem to be happy for me, unlike all my friends and family.
I'm a bit worried about going back home to be honest!
I just needed a bit of advice... Is this normal behaviour?

This is a Zombie thread. I suggest you start your own.
But I would suggest thinking carefully what you get out of this arrangement? And could he be projecting because he's done something while you've been away?