He's insulted my sexual performance AGAIN

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I posted a thread a few weeks ago about my husband telling me that having sex with me was like having it with a sack of potatoes. I eventually got over it and we had words to which he apologised. However, this eve we were having a chat regarding our daughters first disco a d boys. He played the usual protective daddy. I made a comment about his youth to which he would randomly call upon his neighbour above him for sex, his response blew me off my feet. He said well at least she'd go on top. Honest to God I'm so mad, hurt, insulted. I don't no where to begin the disrepect I just can't comprehend. I just can't believe he thinks our sex is so bad.

Do you a) actually like spending time with him? b) actually like shagging him?

Then c) Is he usually Ok with the odd exception of these 2 shitty comments, or does he always treat you with contempt?

If any of these answers are "no" (especially a and c) I'd move on.

Had to gift you this OP

The more you post about him, the better life without him sounds.
Only you know if your relationship is worth working on.
Maybe try counseling so you can each be heard.

When you next go to bed, I'd make sure there was a sack of spuds in the bed. I'd tell him to say hello to King Edward, as this is all he's going to be having sex with in the future.

didnt see your last post. dont mean to further offend you ...but ..youve got a kid old enough to be doing dicos/protective daddy scene and hes only just grew the balls to reitterate hes not entirely mind blown in bed with you. ...and yes..sore as it might be,he said sack of tatties already. do you only speak every now n again?..he wont be touching you again???
also.It was a dig.Casting up always is,maybe it doesnt worry you any,but its still a dig. you cant change the past.if hes otherwise "the one"both you need to stop being twatty and speak like grown ups..before you or him push way to far.
you could take the stance of thinking hes making bag of tatties up.your bedd life is personal,but if hes not being a nasty rotten git..its maybe a truth for him.you know if you go on top-or if its a pull my nightie down when your done and i want a new sofa deal.do you want him to want you?take it from there.praps?

He genuinely does sound awful in all aspects op. You're running yourself dry for a selfish, bone idle and arrogant arsehole.

Have you ever considered ending it because i honestly think you're flogging a dead horse here.

Nice @PhilCornwall. I like the cut if yer jib young fella me lad!

Perhaps next time you’re having sex and know he’s close, stop. When he asks why and says he was close, tell him you’ll finish him off in the morning! 😂 All jokes aside, there are clearly communication that go deeper than sex. You’re unsatisfied, clearly feeling a bit unloved and unwanted and that is going to magnify every little dig and annoyances. Is he open to having a conversation? It might be worth being mindful of how things are addressed, that’s not to say you’re the issue here but I think some people get naturally defensive when you’re having an in-depth personal discussion and feel as though every little thing you don’t do is constantly pointed out but the things you do never acknowledged, the natural response is to be defensive. That said, he’s not a kid and shouldn’t need every bloody thing praising, so I’m not saying that’s the answer, either. Maybe you could both try having a discussion WITHOUT instantly throwing out the things you feel you both don’t do/fail at, instead trying to say what you’d appreciate a little more of, if that makes sense. For example, instead of “well you don’t ever get the kids uninforms ready” switch it to “I know you’re tired from work as well but I could use some help with getting the kids uniforms ready.” Something has to give, so at some point you two are going to have to work out a way to communicate without rows, because your marriage is only going to get more miserable otherwise. A counsellor could help you both discuss your frustrations without it always ending in a row due to defensiveness.

Thanks @75Renarde it was certainly one of my better comments on here