Dating Thread 157 - Kitten or Smitten: Which bench are *you* on?

[MrDrummer]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

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Link to previous thread:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3566658-Dating-Thread-156-It-is-hot-hot-hot

Wow, creating the new thread... talk about pressure!

Thanks drummer for shiny new thread!

Thank you @MrDrummer 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻

Here's to new beginnings, continued smitten benches for some and a continued wonderful support group

Marking place for now :)

life you are well shot of those two. What a damaged couple of people you've had the misfortune to bump in to!

I was trying to catch up on the old thread but I have just missed too many posts!

@JeSuisPrest I'm really pleased for you that it's going well with MrCornish

@lifegoes forget about that shitty situation... new thread, new irons!

So I'm back... with my self esteem and dignity hanging by a thread, but it is still there, just about 😏
I've not returned to my cheating lying bastard of a stbexh who has sunk to new lows that I didn't think he was capable of (I thought he was a decent person that had just made a mistake- admittedly that I couldn't forgive- turns out he's not decent, at all)
So me and MrFox... I have not seen him in over a week, may possibly get to see him next Saturday but not sure yet. It's a long time in 'dating time'. He's been very chatty over message and is still his lovely, cheeky self...but... I think I want more. I want someone to want to see me more, to make that extra effort. I don't know whether that's unreasonable- on average we usually see each other once a week, maybe twice. It's hard because of childcare and our child free weekends have clashed and I am also not sure if I am just feeling a little needy right now because of my ex... but if anything I feel like I know what I want more now than I did before...

Random q - life what do the pink boxes in your post stand for?i can't even find them in my emoji list 🤔

Thanks for the new thread MrDrummer - I am smitten and kitten. I agreed with my son to get a new kitten on return from holiday as I was feeling down about MrGardener. We pick him up next Tuesday!
Had an absolutely brilliant w/e with MrWow. Saw an Oasis tribute band at a local, which were good. While retrieving my ticket to show MrWow I'd seen the real Oasis, I found £600 of Premium Bonds! Had a meal out today, nice and relaxed. We are so loved up and the sex is out of this world, he is truly blessed .

So happy for you JeSuis and for who had the pulled into a doorway snog, so romantic.

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@30somerhingandsingle it’s hard isn’t it? I would like to see more of MrSAS as seeing him once or twice a week at the most means that I feel like we’re starting almost from the beginning every time.
I have EOW with my kids and one free night in the week so can’t really see him any more often.

@CocoKoko123 pink boxes? I've used my phone emojis so they are raising hands

I've just had an apology from him 🙄

Here's to the new thread, thank you @MrDrummer
May we all blessed with decent irons and non fuckwitters and hope all on the smitten bench continue to be for a long time to come.
I'm most definately on the kitten bench at present!

@lifegoes

I've just had an apology from him

What is he now telling you that you are a wonderful woman and it has taken meeting you to make him realise how much he thought his girlfriend was a genuine person but now knows she is a nutter???

Don't buy it for a minute. Every word he utters is a lie. Every one of them.

Plus @lifegoes ... be honest... how did he make this apology if he was blocked?

Rushes into thread covered in bean juice...

Actually LOL'd @JeSuisPrest

@MrDrummer I blocked him on WhatsApp. I always forget about normal text so yes my mistake.

No never said any of that, just said the following

"that account has nothing to do with me and it appeared after last weekend. I have no problem with anyone and have only myself to blame. I’m sorry you were caught up in this, I’ve learnt my lesson"

It's kinda an apology

@lifegoes So what are you going to say/do? please say not respond and move on-

In other news I'm totally speaking to a catfish on tinder. No age, no location. Has model pictures in his profile.

But for pure entertainment value i am going along with it

Blocked him on normal phone @MrDrummer 😬😬😬 I have to move on. Maybe I needed to hear that who knows. But either way I'm done

Great to hear @lifegoes. If it brought you some closure, then it's good. But it really is time to move on, if you feel able to.

@lifegoes take it at face value if it makes you feel. better, or with a pinch of salt if you prefer, but for the love of god please now delete their details and block them. Something sounds very off from what you have described and I'm not entirely sure it isn't some elaborate ruse/catfish/mindgame that is being played on you.

Even if it isn't, it's a drama and a headfuck by people who sound very immature and who don't care about its impact on you.

Step away for your own sanity. Please.

tooold so happy to hear about your smittenness and jesuis the doorway snog !

x post lifegoes

good for you. Look forward, never back!

I'm not entirely sure it isn't some elaborate ruse/catfish/mindgame that is being played on you.

This was at the back of my mind too, BendyLike

Ooh, hello peoples! Yet another thread, oh blimey....

I feel you with the "are they really making enough of an effort to meet?" dilemma, 30. Currently got 2 irons on "opposite weekends" re: childcare. And one with a busy cinema to look after .

However, with one of the irons, Mr Greek, I did actually push it a bit, given that we've spent 2-3 days doing some pretty intense messaging, including exchanging photos of each others' bookshelves (I know! What a minx I am!), and not wanting to spend weeks getting over invested. Turns out he IS really keen to meet, but works 2 jobs, and, after going through each others' schedules with a fine tooth comb, it seems that we really, genuinely can not find a spare hour in common until next Tuesday. Bum.

Dr Headfuck is on opposite weekends, but since he hasn't been in touch for over a week I don't know why I'm even dignifying him with iron status .

Thank goodness for another new one, Mr Pharmacist (are you listening up in heaven Mark E Smith? ),who has actually made proactive steps - including skipping a fitness class- to arrange a date on Thursday. Not sure about him- I think he may be a little too sporty for me- but at least we seem to have the same taste in pubs, so that's a start.

The kittens bench is presumably where you end up after a stint on the pick a dick bench. Let’s hope everyone can avoid all the crappy benches this thread.

On bean juice - that is clearly the correct term for the liquid beans live in. Glad Mr Cornish remembered your bean juice preferences, @JeSuisPrest.

Personally, I don’t mind a bit of bean juice on my egg.