Dating Thread 157 - Kitten or Smitten: Which bench are *you* on?

[MrDrummer]

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1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

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Mr Tall is 6'4 too. Hence the very creative name. I'm 5'3, which I think is a bit ridiculous. I'm definitely wearing heels tomorrow!! 😂😂

I like men in suits and tradesmen types. As long as they have a good physique and a nice smile I am happy.

I have a coffee date tomorrow with Mr FX who is very bad at communicating and I don't have his mobile number. He lives about 3 miles away so ticks the 'local' box but I'm not sure how much fun he will be as he seems quite serious. I have a date on a boat with another guy on Monday but I am thinking of cancelling it as we talked on the phone on Friday evening and we didn't really have much in common.

I am looking forward to my lunch date with Mr Foodie on Thursday. We have had lots of text banter and we seem to have a lot in common. I just hope we have some chemistry.

I'm home tonight but am avoiding the wine as I had some last night and I'm trying to keep to just one night a week. I have pizza, Belgian milk chocolate chunk cookies and Netflix to keep me company.

I'll post properly tomorrow when my hangover has gone to explain what my drunk message meant, but just wanted to say I don't find the thread hostile in the slightest. Yes I felt like I needed to speak up on a particular topic but that's all and it's done now.

How do you not have his mobile number LilyRose88? Your evening sounds similar to mine (with wine) but I'm actually quite looking forward to it 😂.

ItsAMiracle we have been chatting on POF and have not swapped mobile numbers. We made the arrangements last week after exchanging a couple of messages. I know very little about him but we are meeting for coffee in a public place and if we don't hit it off I can easily make my excuses and leave. I'm not really fussed about swapping numbers now, as I am kind of holding out for Mr Foodie, who seems an absolute darling.

Had to cancel my date tonight as my childcare let me down last minute.

All dressed up and nowhere to go 😒

Messaged MrFox to tell him and all I got was 'that's a shame'... no offer to come over here (when the dc are in bed). I guess I expected him to be a bit more bothered, we haven't seen each other in over 2 weeks and haven't planned anything until Thursday which will be 3 weeks..

@30somethingandsingle have you asked him? Does he know that's something he could do?

Agreed with above 30 you should message and say 'if you've got no plans, come round. It would be great to see you'.

Taken your advice ladies and been direct and asked him if he wants to come here. He hasn't replied yet.

Mr Prince was only 5.11 but I had flats on and he was perfect. Funny as I would never consider under 6 ft but he was sooo 😍

Right re Mr Big. Still in loads of contact initiated by him now. He is such a mind fuck and think I have had enough. He has made arrangement to meet his ex FWB on our next arranged date and has asked if I want to join them for a threesome. Shows how high priority I am! I have said no

Said I was having a break but have accidentally arranged a date for Tuesday with Mr Manflu and one for Friday with Mr Tats. Obviously knowing my luck they will both cancel 🙈

I laughed at Mr Manflu Marlboroandmalbec34 😂😂😂.

He's coming over 😀 better quickly declutter my bedroom

See @30somethingandsingle shyness gets you nowhere

Good on you 30

I know my son would wake up and walk in if I had someone round when they were in bed but he sleepwalks and does it quite regularly anyway.

Also, I think i’d be too loud in quite a small house

Have fun 30somethingandsingle 😉

I’m not brave enough to invite mine over when my sons in bed yet, I do with my FWB as my son knows him so that doesn’t worry me so much, even if he has walked in on the act, thank god he’s only three!

We work in a similar industry and we’re going to be at the same conference on Wed/Thurs, I’m not sure what to do as some of my colleagues will be there. We do get an hour and a half for lunch each day, so ideally we’ll ignore each other apart from that as it’s only a five minute walk to his flat, but I don’t want to offend him.

Yay 30something I bet you are pleased you asked now!

Mr S won't stay over here yet. but we have dtd on the sofa whilst the kids were in bed. As they are older teens it's not the wisest of moves!! Yuk to Mr Big marlb

Once dc are asleep they generally stay asleep thankfully, plus I have a lock on my door to stop accidental walk ins!
But I don't think we will dtd tonight, he has an injury that he has just revealed
I'm just pleased he's coming over, I didn't expect him to say yes.

He might need a bit of a rub down to relieve it 😉

I now have a lock, hearing “Daddy I’ve done a poo” and having no idea how long he has been stood there is probably the quickest mood killer 😂

Need to get a lock!! 😂😂😂

Great news 30
Ditch Mr Big MandM You deserve better

Hi and welcome Kook, I think most on here use tinder and bumble with some trying pof as well. I've only used pof and find that's enough and I can hide my profile when I like. I'm sure you will get more help as and when you need it