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Dating Thread 157 - Kitten or Smitten: Which bench are *you* on?

999 replies

MrDrummer · 28/04/2019 20:23

Dating thread rules:

  1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
  2. Develop a thick skin.
  3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
  4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
  5. Trust your gut instinct.
  6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
  7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
  8. If it's not fun, stop.
  9. Loo update is mandatory.
10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

Link to previous thread:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3566658-Dating-Thread-156-It-is-hot-hot-hot

OP posts:
BatshitCrazyWoman · 04/05/2019 14:19

Dating a shift worker wouldn't work for me as I only really have free time at the weekend ...

Mr BC are spending the weekend together (from this afternoon til Monday) and go away for my birthday next weekend. I feel completely comfortable with him, which is Grin I have some complicated stuff going on and he's listened to me whinge and been emotionally and practically helpful. Have to remind myself we only met 5 weeks ago. Think we are on date 12? If counting overnights as one date ....

BatshitCrazyWoman · 04/05/2019 14:21

Marlboro that is like a chick lit novel. If it were a novel, he'd track you down and declare undying love somewhere hugely public Grin

Very boosting for the old self-esteem ...

unique1986 · 04/05/2019 14:23

Do you not use smileys/emojis I noticed you don't use them 🤔
No bad thing just curious?
I adapt depending who I'm talking to .
Your a boring ass so haven't felt the need to use ant yet....

kerkyra · 04/05/2019 14:37

I can't seem to use any emojis on my laptop,they are at the bottom of the page but don't come up?
TooOld my son has another two and a half years with his dla before I have to apply again. It really does help doesn't it.

My dating is about to change as he is no longer going to his dads for overnighters,so going to try and stick to pofs 10 mile radius as I just can't get out in the eves a lot .

unique1986 · 04/05/2019 14:39

I don't know why but I get confused when people say they have yet to watch Line of Duty ShockSadConfused

Mel6l72 · 04/05/2019 14:53

The iron I have a date with tomorrow, Mr Natural has quite an interesting tech job. Because of the nature of his work job though he often doesn't take his phone to work even when overseas. Find it a bit OTT. Have no idea doubt he's single though.

Anyhow not met the guy yet. Will see how the comms goes.

K00K · 04/05/2019 15:08

I’m a bit late to the party but joining the kitten bench if that’s ok.. Read a few pages of this thread and its great.
I’m back to the drawing board after 2 months of dating someone
Haven’t dipped my toe in the online dating pool yet but I think it’s time to.
Any recommendations for the best ones?! I am clueless

lifegoes · 04/05/2019 15:09

I know it shouldn't. But it does really bother me when guys don't listen. It really makes plants doubt in my mind. I know it's only a few days. But twice now Mr Filth has said something where he has blatantly confused me with someone else.

I just made a joke of it, but it's annoying. How hard is it to just remember to text the right person.

Mel6l72 · 04/05/2019 15:19

He's probably talking to quite a few women...

lifegoes · 04/05/2019 15:20

@Mel6l72 I don't mind that tbh just c'mon it's not hard to read up the convo 🙄

Mel6l72 · 04/05/2019 15:27

That's true, also

Little effort at the beginning is not a good start.

Mr N whatsapped me before going to work. Quite glad he did that

CKfan · 04/05/2019 16:00

On the subject of jobs, I have a thing for manual workers, I can't explain why, it's just there. It must be the trousers with all the pockets! Also tattoo's.

I dont believe in love at first but you can definately be very strongly attracted to someone at first sight, it's rarely ended well for me though.

Well I've given up the ghost on POF and given Tinder a go where I've had more success. I have a couple of irons. I can't cope with more than a couple at a time.

  1. Mr YW, my favourite but lives quite a distance away which I wasn't aware of, we only matched as he was working near me, but he may be spending alot more time nearer due to change of job. He is just the type i would go for and seems keen. Hopefully will be able to meet up at some point.
  2. MrP, lives nearer to me, has asked for a date but seems keen to meet for alcohol drinks at night and not during day for a coffee. I said I don't like lots of alcohol on a first date as it clouds judgement, so he said he is happy to meet for a coffee but nothing arranged yet.

Not a date in sight this bank holiday weekend though!

shitwithsugaron · 04/05/2019 16:37

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30somethingandsingle · 04/05/2019 16:50

Date night tonight with MrFox. I haven't seen him in over 2 weeks and the damn painters have arrived!

ItsAMiracle2015 · 04/05/2019 17:00

Interesting hearing about the job thing. I do tend to fancy the manual labour guys more. I think it's just easier and more fun 🤷. I won't go out with anyone from a sales background. I avoid them!

lifegoes · 04/05/2019 17:07

With you there @ItsAMiracle2015 a good salesman can sell you anything. Including lies awful but true ha.

I love a labour man, something about how they smell when they get home, being all filthy etc 😬

JeSuisPrest · 04/05/2019 17:10

Manual workers all the way for me as well... those cargo pants, with a tight tshirt, pair of massive work boots not quite laced up properly, a tape measure clipped on to their belt, and with stubby pencil behind their ear and a beard 😳

Possibly the equivalent of nurse in uniform/sexy bespectacled secretary for a guy? 🤷🏻‍♀️

Mel6l72 · 04/05/2019 17:12

I don't believe in love at first site. How can you love someone you don't know? Lust at first site, absolutely.

SimonJT · 04/05/2019 17:18

I’m not sure I can think of anything worse than a manual worker guy, apart from maybe someone in the forces. Not due to the actual job, but the physique it’s typically associated with.

CKfan · 04/05/2019 17:25

@JeSuisPrest you've just described my ideal man 🤣

ItsAMiracle2015 · 04/05/2019 17:28

I'm so jealous of you and Mr Cornish JeSuisPrest! He sounds amazing!

I've got my date with Mr Tall (might even be too tall 🙈😂) tomorrow and I really am shit at messaging! I fell asleep last night mid way through replying to him. Had a mad day all day and completely forgot. Just messaged to say sorry and he replied saying he thought I was going to cancel on him 🙈. I really need to be better!!

vwman · 04/05/2019 17:42

A nurse does it for me "ooh matron don't don't, oh go on then"

I have a female friend though who is an A&E nurse at the local hospital who does nothing for me

JeSuisPrest · 04/05/2019 17:45

Did I mention he's 6ft 4"? Runs out of thread before I get pelted by eggs...😂

Have fun all who are out on dates tonight, happy swiping and chatting to everyone else 🤞

Mel6l72 · 04/05/2019 17:47

Mr N is 6'2 apparently. Almost a foot taller than me! BlushSmile

Mel6l72 · 04/05/2019 17:49

I can't say the tradesman look does much for me. I like technical/geeky and corporate. Give me a man in a nice suit any day Halo