Dating Thread 156 - It is hot hot hot

[midcenturylegs]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

Link to previous thread:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3543468-dating-thread-152-onwards-and-upwards

I've lost a genuine girl by thinking I'd found an amazing woman who turned out to be a nutter and Has ruined my life

I cannot put into works how much that has pissed me off. Do not give either of them the satisfaction. She wants to blame you. And he wants to blame you. It's honestly insane!

@MrDrummer so true. This is my problem all the time, I never want to be nasty to someone or for them to think bad of me.

That's why this has hurt so much.

I'm blocking her now. First step to not caring

Oh I'm so annoyed 🙈😂😂

This is why I'm so angry @ItsAMiracle2015 this is what he sent to her and then continued to say it was me causing trouble. I DIDN'T KNOW

I wish I could even show them this thread. The whole dating with him Is on here 😫😫😫

Why the hell is she even sending you that message? I mean what is she trying to achieve? It's so bizarre.

@lifegoes I get it, totally. I am the same. I hate people thinking bad things of me. I don't know how to suggest dissipating that hurt and anger, other than to stick with the thread or take up the pm offers you have received.

It was the full screen shot of what he said @ItsAMiracle2015 then when I was getting angry she was just laughing saying. Please go to office - which fuelled me more.

Thank you @MrDrummer I'm taking all your advice now. They are blocked on everything.

I need to just keep telling myself so what if they think it's me, the pair of them are pathetic

Literally that lifegoes. She sounds like she's almost enjoying this all, which is beyond odd. And for him it's just easier to blame you (although not sure how on earth he can possibly blame you! EVEN if you did tell her?!). If it were me, and you had told me, I'd be thanking you 🤷. It's just odd.

He's saying in his message to her that this fake account has been messaging loads of people about him (I think that's what he means) it doesn't really make sense as I've no idea what he's talking about.

She didn't seem bothered if it was me tbh she was more laughing at me getting angry. But it just really hurt as I didn't tell her, she knows she messaged me and told me and I was very reluctant to tell her anything as I thought she was a random with her being so young @ItsAMiracle2015

So I started this thread with

"Ok so how long after a first date and DTD 🙈 should I expect a guy to text?
We’ve been chatting for weeks but heard nothing since leaving him today" on Monday night.

Almost a week later I'm ending this thread with FUCK HIM and his grooming of young girls.

He’s missed me! MrSAS has missed me and can’t wait to see me in a couple of days

I’ve been avoiding mentioning the smitten bench as we’ve been seeing each other 5 weeks and I seem to be fated at the 5/6 week mark but i’ll slide a bit closer to it...

The only way to move on is to be rid of them both lifegoes. Literally no other way. You don't owe either of them anything. Leave them to their drama.

Can't keep up with everyone but just wanted to share in everyone's anger on life behalf-agree with others-block and delete and disengage with both of them.
sunshine that's great 🤞 for you - yes in the past I have always found things start going weird around the 5/6 week mark if they're going to go weird.
Re the narcissist comments - my df has some of these traits and I often wonder if that is related to me choosing my narcissistic ex 🤷‍♀️

My FB has been instagram stalking the guy I went on a date on with to see if he approves 😂 We’re off for a nap so we can get up for GoT (yes, we know it’s sad!).

We’re meeting again on Tuesday, not sure what he has in mind, hopefully a bar/club.

Am I the only one waiting for @MrDrummer to put an end of thread message on?

I just want to start a new thread. I feel the end of this thread puts an end to this horrific situation.

So can @MrDrummer can you end this one.

Who starts the next?

@lifegoes I would like to start the next one because I have been working on the title for a week now

I think it is best to let the thread end at the 1000 mark, otherwise some people might try to post on it. Happy to post a link to the new one on the 1000th message.

I was going to suggest drawing a line at the end of the thread, but if you need to revisit it again, then don't feel you can't just because we are on a new thread. Your emotions won't respect that the logical side is trying to draw a line and you shouldn't try to force your emotions like that.

@StealthNinjaMum crap, do I know have to think of something funny to finish this one!!! I am not some kind of mechanical monkey, y'know churning out jokes on demand!!!

now* not know

@mrdrummer come on you've already written it. Last week.

Or maybe @jesuisprest can steal your thunder @mrdrummer? I am still chuckling about her plumber innuendoes from weeks ago.

Yeaaaahhh @MrDrummer entertain us

My line

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@jesuisprest 's plumber innuendo was a masterclass and then she blows it by saying bean sauce. The woman just isn't consistent.

@mrdrummer are you waiting for the 999th post before you issue your masterpiece?

FFS we could be here all day. It's a dangerous game, someone else could sneak in and do the 1000th post and the new thread. Maybe I'll go all Christmas-bargain-thready and start singing Jingle Bells to end it.

By the way I don't think I said that I found the post about the wrong end of a drumstick funny.

Should auld acquaintance be forgot,
and never brought to mind?
Should auld acquaintance be forgot,
and auld lang syne?

By request...
New thread...
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3572066-Dating-Thread-157-Kitten-or-Smitten-Which-bench-are-you-on