Dating Thread 156 - It is hot hot hot

[midcenturylegs]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

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Link to previous thread:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3543468-dating-thread-152-onwards-and-upwards

@lifegoes I don't think there is a normal. First time me and bf DTD he stayed the night, he messaged when he got into work that morning and then texting carried on as before. I'd have happily text first if he didn't though.
Hopefully you'll hear from him today but if not I'd definitely send a quick text!

Thank you ant you are of course right. Just feeling very sad ☹️

I want to reply to him but I’m sulking. I hate sulkers.

So. date I was meant to have today has vanished and the date for Friday,although he seems keen,has only been split from the ex wife for eight weeks. I said we could meet as friends. But now thinking I've got enough of those. sigh

Men (and I’m sure some women too) do seem to rush into dating way too soon after splitting from LTR’s. I was dating someone who had only been separated a few weeks and he ended up getting back together with her. I think him dating someone else made her jealous. It’s a shame other people have to be caught up in the games.

sunshine i'm in two minds meeting him. Workwise he has his shit together (manager of a supermarket) but the age (more than ten years younger) makes me just think it's going to be another flake.

I got asked to be a fwb last night on pof,some bloke apparently I snogged about twenty years ago on a new years eve night! I'm not looking for that so declined

@kerykra it could be the same guy...the one I was seeing was the manager of a home store!

Tall,dark,bearded and tattoo?!

I was chatting to a neighbour yesterday and she said she was on pof but only dates married men as she feels 'safe'. Had a horrendous marriage and will never commit again.

Hope everyone waiting for messages today receives

Tall-ish, dark, a tattoo but I’d say stubble more than a beard so I think you’re safe 😂

I replied to MrSAS. I’m rubbish at playing games, it just drives me crazy.
I’m going away for a few days with family so going to try not to think about or message him too much. Easy peasy

Hi all, still not heard anything from him. Quite disappointed tbh as when I left we seemed really good.

lifegoes sorry you haven't heard from your man.

Kerkyra and Sunshine I got a message from a guy with a beard and tattoos who was a manager of a home store. He told me that he was relocating to my area. This guy was tall and quite big built and I think he played rugby. He was only 33 which is more than 20 years younger than me, so I politely declined. I'm sure there are quite a few managers of home stores on POF so it may be a coincidence.

@shitwithsugaron Mr Far already refers to me as his gf. I'm a bit more reticent but tbh he is my bf now really.

So glad you messaged him sunshine, so Much better than sulking. Good luck with it. Enjoy your hol 😊

tooold that’s great news and I’m very happy for you. Your posts have been an emotional rollercoaster so I can only imagine how it feels to have been living it.

kerkrya might be worth meeting him. 8 weeks isn’t long but there might have been a big lead in?

eesha what a horrible toad he is. Trying to knock your confidence so that you will say yes to a date with him. Yuk.

Oh lifegoes I’m sorry. Who was the iron? You just have felt relaxed with him to dtd on the first date. I can’t believe he’s not been in touch.

I’m having a difficult time at home and trying not to lean too much on Mr S for support. I’ve inky known him 4 months and as lovely as it feels we only exist in our little bubble. I don’t want to rely on someone who might not be around for long. Even though it feels amazing to have someone to share with after all of this time...

@shitwithsugaron I just didn't want to be the first to text tbh. I thought he would have text. He's hardly been online.

Now time has passed I don't know what to say, I don't want to text and be rejected.

I'm gobsmacked he's not text.

@Notcoolmum thanks for that. Actually we met a couple of times but initially I did kiss him but quickly backtracked as was a mistake and was feeling lonely. He just then seemed infatuated and I felt awful. He is usually ok but then gets low and says these things like 'I shouldn't touch what I can't afford', or 'you know you can do better' but then said that about me just being every woman in 'my world'. He didn't mean to be nasty but just gave me food for thought.....though I'd never in a million years date him

@lifegoes I'm really annoyed on your behalf. I'd probably text so I knew either way, but very infuriating for you

Checking in

@Eesha had such a lovely time. It just doesn't make sense.

@shitwithsugaron I'll give him a few hours and see. I'm quite busy today, he's always been so respectful so this is quite out of character. But proves you just don't know someone

eesha he still sounds like a twat! And definitely not for you.

Oh lifegoes I was very hurt when Mr Teacher (who is had a date with 7 years earlier) didn’t text me after our date. Even though we didn’t kiss. I think after dtd I would probably initiate contact to stop myself from spiralling. But somehow I do think it’s men that should message first in this situation ☹️