Dating thread 151: We are the prize...

[30somethingandsingle]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps https://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

@MrDrummer I'll have a look I'm in that age bracket. I'm no longer on any OLD website but have a lot of experiences from there!!

@MrDrummer regarding your DD I would think it depends on the person you are talking too. Me personally wouldn't find it a problem.

Welcome @MrDrummer
I'm 51 so happy to have a look.
My DS has Aspergers. I mention it on a first date but don't go into any detail. I only really open up about it with guys after a few dates.

Welcome MrDrummer - I'm 54 and happy to look at your profile - you're in my age range 😂 I have an adult DC with special needs and I play it by ear when to mention it to daters.

TheSheep hope it was just a blip - I try not to keep stepping forward if someone ia stepping back - not sure if that's useful advice!

Mr Curry has unmatched me on Tinder, changed his WhatsApp pic but not read my message from Monday morning, so he's a ghoster. FFS the first one in ages who I felt was on my wavelength. Back to swiping.

Fab meet tonight though ...

batshit a pox on all ghosters. They're the bloody worst!

Welcome mr drummer

lovesmusic I think it might be time to step away from Mr SA I think you’re on different pages.

Hey sheep I remember you, hopefully just a blip

30sonething just keep your wits about you

I have just sent the message. Feeling pretty rubbish but I’m sure I will be ok, I don’t expect him to chase after me. I sent “I don’t want to be the person you fuck once a weeek, it feels like you want to date my vagina and not me, I’m worth more than that”. It’s taken me all night to write a shot message but it’s sent.

So I had my date with MrTooshortlawyer last night...
When we met he was really really short, at least 3 inches shorter than me! Really nice guy though, we had a drink and then he sniffed me so I took him home and dtd 😂
Sex was good but I told him after that he couldn’t stay as I had a really early start!

I feel mean now. I liked him on messenger and enjoyed the sex but he really was too short and too timid. I feel awful telling him I won’t be seeing him again...advice please?

Haha *snogged me not sniffed me 😂

Great message lovesmusic you are worth more!

@Marlboroandmalbec34 I just spat my tea out reading your first post 😂😂 "he sniffed me so I took him home and dtd" has to be one of the beat lines on MN in a long time!! 😂

Could you keep as a fwb? Or are you not wanting that?

I feel a little bit bad, he messaged me 5 times last night and I didn’t open then, he thanked me for yesterday but also mentioned ‘the great sex’, he did say he enjoyed being with me. He is a total head fuck, telling me he wants to spend more time with me whilst then saying he’s going to take a job in London. He’s either game playing or he’s just a fucking knob.

Well done Love you deserve better and he's twatting around only thinking of himself.

Marlboro that made me laugh 😂😂 But if you can't get over the height thing then fair enough

Marlboro would he not be a handy back up shag ? Glad to hear you had fun

Thanks all

I asked him, because frankly I haven't got the time or patience to be messed about, and also on the advice of a male friend (who I actually met on PoF). He just said he's been feeling a bit crappy, and thought that I was being a bit off with him. To be fair, I did have to do something really upsetting yesterday, so it's entirely possible that I was offhand with him, particularly if he was being a bit quiet with me.

Anyway, he's asked me over to his on Sunday, snd he sent me a lovely good morning message earlier, which is a good sign. I'm going to go to the gym/pool this morning and work off a bit of the upset from yesterday, and hopefully things will iron themselves out.

love well done love. Stay strong. Whatever he says....actions are what counts. If he can't back his words he's got nothing

Hahaha at 'sniffed' .... I think I'll use that instead of snogging from now on 😂

@malboroandmalbec34 thank you so much.... made me laugh because I used to.sniff my husband after a shower 🤣🤣🤣 because he would have sprayed his aftershave on lol and I read that and though " see I'm not a weirdo" but still a good sniff can turn into something really fun lol

@Lovemusic33 well done. I think he doesn't know what he wants. I think he's self-centred and immature. I also think he probably does like you and doesn't realise how he's been treating you. But who wants a selfish immature boyfriend? ESP one 200 miles away.

Stay strong

Happy I have made you guys laugh so early this morning! warrier when I dtd with mr big I didn’t wash my sheets for a week as I could smell him on my pillow and I loved the smell. This morning I have stripped my bed sharpish 🤷‍♀️

No I don’t think he could be a FWB. I just didn’t really fancy him I was just really horny and fed up of wasting my very few child free nights so wanted a shag. I feel awful though, he has messaged me twice already this morning. I had told him previously I wasn’t looking for one night stands so not sure what to reply! He is so lovely on messenger but not what I am looking for in real life! Would it be wrong to lie and tell him I am not over my ex or something?

I have a shag booked with Mr Scouce this afternoon who I met from fab...is it wrong to shag 2 new blokes in 2 days? My magic number is so low after 2 very long relationships I really want to play the field but cannot help feeling a bit guilty about it!

malboro at sniffed. How to proceed is tricky. Maybe honesty is the best policy.

@Marlboroandmalbec34 Is height such a big thing if he was lovely and the sex was good? If do, im thinking if roles were reversed and it were a man who slept with you just because they felt horny but didn't want to proceed. I'd prefer someone just saying they had a great time but wasn't looking for something long term to soften the blow as he clearly likes you.

Welcome drummer
marlborough 😂 at sniffing and yes I do like it when I can smell my bf on my pillow. Glad it made you laugh warrior.
Just a quick update from me.Me and bf are completely falling for each other,our situations are slowing us down at the moment which is probably a good thing but we had a chat last night about the future and are on the same page. 🤞 this is it for me.Will hang about on the thread to keep up with all your stories. Good luck to all. love glad you sent the message and sheep all sounds good to me with your iron.

I know eesha that’s why I feel so awful about it. I have obviously used him and I know I would get flamed if I was a man posting this!
I don’t know if it was just the height, he was quite timid and I felt awkward afterwards. Such a nice guy but not for me!

Will do shitwith