Dating thread 151: We are the prize...

[30somethingandsingle]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps https://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

Thank you Ant I am defo gonna go!

man I have spent my whole adult life in LTRs so I am excited to sow my wild oats too!

@Man4allseasons I think as long as you're open with the people you're meeting there's nothing wrong with that at all. Everyone's on there for their own reasons.
It just does nothing for me personally, mental connection turns me on more than anything now - if I don't have that I'd rather use Derek the Dildo and my imagination! I too was in what became a sexless marriage for a long time but my teenage years weren't so sexless
Not sure if anyone else feels this but male attention generally irritates me. Not from my BF now we're in a relationship but on the apps or IRL if anyone indicates they 'fancy' me or suggests anything vaguely sexual I just find it so annoying so I'd not continue the conversation.
I know how backwards this sounds but I think that's the main reason I liked my now BF so much... I didn't think he fancied me at all and I liked that 😂

Man4all
I get the wild oats thing i really do! And I did similar for a bit after i separated. It was fun, aka sex but there was bugger all happiness. I stopped the hook up sites nearly a year ago as I wanted a break and not been back on since. Any flings i’ve had have been people i’ve met in RL.

But get it out of your system!

man4all Miss Yogi sounds intriguing

Not sure where I stand with fwb and ltr. I’ve recently come out of a relationship so want that atm and also Im starting to think relationships aren’t really for me. However I want something more substantial than fwb. Basically after a ltr without the responsibility

Minor update - still meeting up with MrPlumber on Thursday, but I've told MrBanker I've got something planned for early on Saturday so whilst still happy to meet up for dinner, I won't be staying over. He's happy with that and it will allow me some thinking time about what I really want, or more importantly what don't want going forward.

I too was in a pretty sexless marriage for 15 years - when you don't have it I think you get used to it, but once you get a taste for it again it's really difficult to give up (for me anyway). I may do some wild oat sowing for a while before I think about another LTR. Perhaps MrBanker is just the right guy at the wrong time and MrPlumber is the wrong guy at the right time, who knows? What will be will be.

Their heads are filled with porn images which is a billion miles away from sexy.

As an older woman I get lots of MILF messages and it's a total turn off for me.
Feeling much better to be off the apps but I do have one guy from Badoo that we moved on to Whatsapp so will see if that's got potential.
Multi conversations are fine until you're on the receiving end of it knowing they've probably gone quiet because their No 1 has come online!

@JeSuisPrest I agree about getting used to it when you're not having it, I had zero sex drive with my exH
Also completely agree about once you get it back not wanting to give it up, but for me I just enjoy it more when it's with that one special person if that makes sense? Sex life with current BF is amazing and we're still very much in the can't keep hands and other body parts off each other stage I love being in a place where we trust each other enough to explore the things we enjoy and get to know what pushes each other's buttons etc. I've personally never experienced that with just casual sex so in comparison to what I have now I find that prospect a bit dull!
Don't think either is right or wrong though, just whatever floats your boat!

I had an awful marriage and a raging libido so FWBs suits me. Last night's guy should be once a week which will be awesome.

I find OLD easier if I'm having regular sex. As soon as it stops being fun I'll stop. I've always been able to separate love/emotion from sex but I know lots of people can't.

@scorpvenus1 - 12 years! Wow, that's some patience

Hairy - I'm flexible with age if they msg me first and I like them. I've dated 18 and 12 yrs younger! Must say that the younger ones def appeal for obvious reasons .

Had 2nd date with MrGardener last night. Going really well. Not chatting to others, only MrWow, as a friend. He's not local but only a 25min drive away and he's prepared to do the travelling. I really wanted someone local but he's absolutely my type and we are totally on the same page.

wishy "Derek"

@Ant330 he's been a great friend to me!

Still18 FWB +? where the + is something more than FWB, but less than a LTR?

I have Bob. My battery operated boyfriend

A true FWB wishy

@BatshitCrazyWoman haha! I love that one!
I also have Barney who's big and purple like the dinosaur 😬

I'm starting to wish I hadn't mentioned Derek
Good nicknames!

Another area where ladies are catered for much more than men...

I mean, the "fleshlight"? Yuck, no thanks...

man4all exactly or ltr- but think fwb+ sounds better

I'm 42 and put 38- 58 in the range but I rarely like the look of the young ones tbh. I prefer the worn in look, but not the 41s who look 65

@Man4allseasons just had to google what that was! 😳

Man- i feel your pain in that. They are indeed crap. That said There are some interesting options for men. But they seem to start at £500 and that seems a lot to pay to for some self help!

Im 50 and my ideal age range would be +3 / -5 but 5 years or so either side is fine

I'm 50 and have settings at 48+. I never fancy anyone below that. But bizarrely mr Unsuitable is 35. One of the several reasons he's Unsuitable. He has the wrong age on his tinder so sneaked in under my radar and he's so swoony I swiped. We matched twice. First time around I just took the piss really as couldn't take a 15 year age gap seriously. Second time I decided he was too hot not to meet.

Iron from last night and I just agreed we should be friends.. lined up 2 dates tomorrow though, lunch with MrTrombone (don't laugh!) and Mr SkyJumper in the evening. Happn is weird but it works I think?!

Also just looked That up @Man4allseasons